New and it's time to come out of the closet....

Morning.  So, here I am.  After 'bugging' to join this group, and lurking for a while, it is time to put 'pen to paper,' so to speak.

Had RNY in November of 2012.  Highest weight was 266...surgery weight was 244... Lowest 152.... Current is 168.

I take my vitamins faithfully.  I am a grea****er drinker.  Exercise a number of times a week.  Eat healthy and protein- forward meals.  Track in myfitnesspal.  (Good, bad and ugly) Problem: snacking...esp at night.

i worked out a lot of issues in therapy, both pre and post surgery.  I think what I'm doing now is mostly habit?  Bad habits/ mindless.  I have mostly switched my snacks to healthy ones, but volume is too much.  I do not seem to get sick on anything, but will get some truly low bs 'events,' (30's and 40's) if I eat too many carbs at one time.(r.h, I guess)

what scares me more than the gain, is all the diet mentality that has  returned:  I'll start again tomorrow, Monday....messed up, may as we'll eat what I want the rest of the day, etc.,...

i know, and knew going into surgery, that this was going to be a life-long battle. I do know that I will keep on fighting, evidenced by my being here.

Linda

Also like you I have been lurking here.  My starting weight was 225, lowest was 128 and now I am up to 166 and disgusted with myself.  I've been reading what everyone else is eating and I am eating way more.  I think I stretched my pouch (VSG).  Trying to get on track again.  I found a support group that meets once a month, hope to check it out on Wed.  

Feel like a failure :(

Karen

Hi, Karen.  I don't feel like a failure (yet) but sometimes feel like a fraud....so, let's extend the kindness to ourselves as we would to strangers...

Reaching out and admitting we need help/support is a tremendous first step in the right direction.  We can do this.

Linda

Hey, you're both doing great! We're "back" -- after a period of complacency and bad habits -- and now it's up to us to stay on trac****il we get back to our LW and beyond! With motivation and commitment to the basics of high-protein low-carb diet; no carb snacking, diet soda, or wine; regular exercise; and keeping in touch with the WLS community, we can do it! 

Hello Ladies,

Welcome to a fantastic support group with a nice group of ladies.  We're all here for the same reason. I too like you have felt like a failure because I never reached my goal of 138lbs. My lowest weight was 168lbs. and then I got over confident and old habits, eating out and over indulging took over. 

When I came back to the group last week I weighed in at 190lbs.  I also had gall bladder surgery which has helped with my restriction and along with journaling and posting here I'm down to 184lbs. a real feat for me. Head on straight and back on track, we'v got this...let's do it!!

Genie

I am a night eater - snacker.  Plus I depend on my high fat night snacks to keep my Blood sugar stable at night.  (I had too many low BS in a middle of the night, getting up and falling and hurting myself....etc etc) 

So....I learned to do what I need and what my body needs.  I eat late at night (typically nuts, or any high fat - with some proteins and slow carbs food). But then I don't eat food / calories at least 12 up to 14 hours ../ so if I eat at 10 pm - then the next day I don't eat until 10 or 12... (As long as my BS is stable) I drink coffee and tea (unsweet no milk- I use stevia in my coffee) but no calories before at least 12 hours passed.  Then I have lunch - typically light - food if I am hungry or protein shake if I really don't feel like eating.  That way - I have only 10-12 hours to eat and that typically leaves app 400-600+ calories for good food at night.  

It is called intermittent fasting (google that but note that study shows women should not gho longer than 14 hours regular daily fasting - men can - we should not).  That system is working great for me together with keto style diet. (Low carbs, fat + proteins) . I am 6 years post op and my restriction is back to when it was app 6-7 months post op (low carbs + fat do that for me) plus ..like during that time - I forgot or got really busy yesterday....so same as in a first year.... I now have to remember about eating - and shakes - even though not really recommended long term post op - are my easy way to get proteins and water at the same time when I am not really hungry or I run around.  I always add fat and fiber to my shakes (if not included) to make sure the shakes are "meal replacement)

Linda... i hear you. My hightest weight was 309, my lowest was 172, i'm up to (about) 195. I haven't gotten on the scale in a bit, i think my weight is pretty stable right now because my pants are fitting the same. But 16, instead of the 12 i was. I'm so discouraged. I had surgery in March (not WLS related) and i just can't get my exercise mojo back. My eating is not great. I snack. I eat too much at once.

LIke you said the scariest thing is that effing "diet mentality". I want to keep fighting, but i feel weak. I guess that my posting here is evidence of my strength. But that takes a lot of convincing.

I'm slacking on my vitamins as well.

Mon

Thanks for all the replies.... I may not post often, but check in daily.  

I guess I need to concentrate on one bad habit at a time.  And, I talked myself out of going to the gym last night-what's up with that?  Partly (not a good excuse) because I rode my motorcycle to work and not able to put my exercise clothes on before leaving work.    No reason that I can't be exercising or going for a walk this very minute...I have the time.......

Well, I can report that I did get in about 20 minutes of weight lifting this morning... light weights, but enough to break a sweat.

Thanks for sharing your today with us !