October 17th. Dear Kimberly: Greetings and congradulations on your decision and courage to have wls. Concerning your uninformed husband, just remind him that judgement should not be passed onto you until he's walked a mile in your shoes (so to speak); or as a wise man once said: 'why try and pick out the straw in that person's eye, when you have a rafter in your own?'(Not quoted word for word, but you get the idea). Your husband is probably just feeling a lot of fear over you having surgery and changing; one way he can control your feelings and responses is through negative comments. Try and let those comments roll off your back, and try and give him a hug of reassurance. I know it's hard. Sincerely, Lori Ann