"Trophy Wife"

Jun 08, 2009

Alright I'm in the process of my journey where I'm being reintroduced to the dating scene on  a whole new level. Dating is an eye opening experience from someone who has been on both sides of the fence "heavy" and now "slim". I sometimes feel strange when a guy makes a comment that , "Oh I would never date a heavier woman" or " I dont have to date "BIG" girls anymore now that I have this amount of money or this job. OH Family help me out here, because when a guy I'm with say these things about other women, it hurts my feelings.. and the one time I addressed a guy about some of the comments he then made the statement..."Oh you never have to worry about that, I consider you a trophy wife...These comments though hurts the woman I used to be, it hurts me because I've been in support group meetings and have seen the faces of these beautiful and amazing women and have heard their personal struggles.  Im going to be honest about something, because we are all family here..At first I would just ignore the comments that were made and keep dating the person because I would feel like oh well I should be happy that now I can attract these type of men, you know the ones that would never even look at you twice before..SO I want to say I'm sorry truly I am from the bottom of my heart for not taking a stand for everyone that's apart of this family....Also I get so tired of explaining why my portions are smaller or why I cant eat this or that and why my vitamins are critical to me and why I keep working out even though I am what some would consider "skinny"...So I've made a decsion that I would like to wait and date someone who has been in the same struggle I've been in and not just date someone now because I "Look the part"

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