WLS patients ask me WLS questions that seem to defeat the purpose- How do I NOT get frustrated?

People ask me a lot of questions and I get frustrated. How do you not lose your temper when people ask you WLS questions? I am starting to lose my patience when people ask self-defeating questions like, "The surgeon says I cannot have ANY soda after surgery but I don't dump on even regular soda, so can I still have one once in a while?" That makes me wonder. Why would you go to the trouble of having major (potentially life-threatening) surgery for tens of thousands of dollars, sitting on a waiting list for months, then go against what your surgeon says? Do you want to gain the weight back? Do you want to have complications? Hernias? Do think he is kidding when he gives you advice? The surgeon has gone to MEDICAL SCHOOL. He/she is a professional, and probably has a dietician on staff to consult with on this. Keep in mind that this is only one example of the kind of question I hear a lot of. Other favorites are: "Do I really need to only eat soft food for three weeks like the surgeon says?", "Do I really need 64 ounces of water everyday?" It is hard to explain, but I am in danger of gnawing a hole in my cheek by holding back when I hear question after question from people who want to go against their doctors' advice and are basically sabottaging themselves. Are they asking for permission to do it or what? Any insight on this would be greatly appreciated. I understand that people want to be reassurred, by why ask someone who is NOT a doctor, when a DOCTOR has already told them what to do? Thanks!

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