Could my weight loss be making him insecure?

Is my husband telling the truth or is he being insecure? We have been having some problems recently, mainly with his job. He has a very stressful job and he is highe rup in the ranks, often the guys get together for golf outtings or go out for drinks after work. Well, that is fine but my problems started when he wouldn't get home til 2 a.m., or would come home drunk, the topper was when he wrecked his truck while driving drunk. Anyhow, I was angry at him for all of this, oviously, but somehow he managed to turn it all around on me and but the blame on me. He started walking around with a chip on his shoulder acting as if it was wrong for me to be mad. He told me it is because he has been doing some thinking and he realizes our marriage has been bad for years, funny he realizes this when I am mad at him. Anyway, I have lost 130 pounds since January, and my friend says she thinks he is insecure and feels like I don't need him anymore. I have gotten a part time job, I look better, feel better, have mor eself confidence and I dress better. He keeps dragging up issues from the past, like how I would never go to work related things with him, I told him it was because I was fat then. It is kind of frustrating because I have actually gone to several things with him this summer and thought that was showing him that things were changing and I was willing to do things now that I was to self concious to do then. Do you think he really thinks there are problems in our marriage, or could it be his underlying insecurities about my weight loss? I know this is kind of vague, but there is really too much to list here. Also, he keeps saying he doesn't know what he wants to do, and asks what I want to do (about our marrigae) I keep telling him I love him and want it to work, and ask what he wants to do since he says he is the one who has been unhappy for years, he just says I want to know what you want to do! It is like, he is trying to scare me with leaving but never does it. One of my co-workers also said she thinks he is worried about my weight loss, she said if he was so unhappy with things wouldn't he have left when you were 300 pounds?????? So, what do you folks think? Is it more than what he is admitting, is it really what he says, or is it insecurity? He also says he doesn't knwo what I am doing on the computer all the time, or who I am talking to.

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