Question:
Any tips for getting my mind and body working together?
Does anyone have any tips for how to get my mind and body working on the same page? I have lost about 80 lbs but my mind isn't catching up. Some days I wake up thinking I look GREAT (even though the BMI says I'm technically still obese) and other days I think I look worse now than before surgery. I am 50-60 lbs away from my ideal weight. I just wish I had a clearer body image! Am I a hottie...am I still fat? Does this ever get any better? Surely some of you that have gone through this have some suggestions for me as to how to cope with all the emotions this is bringing to the surface. — Barbi B. (posted on April 22, 2002)
April 22, 2002
I still have days like this. I have lost over 270lbs and there are times i
feel fatter than when I started this journey. I look in the mirror and say
ick. then other days I feel great. I went shopping and the Bill Blass size
14s are a bit loose and I bought a size medium dress yet the day I bought
them I was feeling really self conscious about how I looked..Hmmmmm Maybe
the head will catch up some day....
rita in vermont
— vt_rita
April 22, 2002
I can totally relate. I have lost 177 lbs. and have 40 lbs. to go. Some
days I feel huge, and other days, I feel thin as a rail. My body image is
constantly fluctuating. I really try to focus on my success, i.e.
"Oh, my God! I've lost 177 lbs.!" I am trying to avoid that
trap that so many women are stuck in, where there bodies are mostly okay,
but they get picky about the small stuff. I find myself obsessing about my
excess skin sometimes or about the fact that my boobs aren't perky anymore.
I really try to remember that I did this surgery for HEALTH reasons, not
cosmetic reasons ... and I feel GREAT now, so I should really consider
myself a success, even if I never lose another ounce.
— Terissa R.
April 22, 2002
Hello. I have "only" lost 45ish pounds so far, but the thing that
really helps me see it is pictures!! The mirror lies to me, I see the same
person I did six months ago. But pictures really help me see the progress
I've made. Good Luck! :)
— Angela B.
April 22, 2002
I feel like I go through it DAILY!!! Some days I do feel like a hottie.
Other days a cow!! When I'm feeling fat, I've found that I like to go to
the mall just to try on clothes. Seeing that I can wear a size 12 pair of
jeans comfortably and a size medium shirt make a world of difference!!! I
still have about 30 pounds to lose so I keep trying to tell myself that I'm
almost there but this last 30 pounds seem to be the hardest to lose.
— Patty H.
April 22, 2002
Thanks for asking your question. I loved reading everyone's answers! I do
not feel alone! I am 45 lbs from my goal. My BMI is 30.7, just barely
obese. last weekend I pulled some size 14 jeans out of the back of my
closet and they fit! I was so happy! Then during this past week someone
said something that made me trigger the thought that size 14 is fat! and I
felt huge again. This week I feel pretty again. Who knows what tomorrow
will bring!
— blank first name B.
October 27, 2002
Well, I thought I'd repost to this thread I started. Thank you so much for
all your posts. It helps to know that I am not alone! I am down about 115
lbs now and still struggling with the same issues. <p>
Part of it is that my body has really changed shape! I am no longer an
apple shape but more pear shaped. Everything is kind of going south...lol!
I'm having to adjust the style of clothes I wear to match my new shape.
This isn't necessarly bad...just an adjustment. Changing my
"style" of clothing has really helped with my body
image.<p>
I still have another 20-30 lbs to go and boy are they going slow now at 10
months out. I'm still struggling with feeling that I look worse now than
before. Loosing weight in my face has caused me to look older I believe.
But I have come to realize that even if I look a bit older, being able to
shop for new clothes in a normal size with more choices takes the sting out
of that. I am so much more comfortable with the way my body moves now that
even if I'm not totaly ok with the way it looks I am still happy I did
this. Keep posting here with any ideas you have for getting our minds and
bodies to sync up with our new shapes!
— Barbi B.
February 27, 2003
WOW, what a question. I have lost about 190#. Some days I am so happy
that I did this, and then when I get out of the shower and pass by that
mirror, I stare...in horror, the saggy monster that stands before me. I
had the panni surgery done, and it looks somewhat the same as my tummy did
before the surgery. Why do I feel so bad? What makes me feel so aweful?
I am heathier now! I am not morbidly obease anymore! I will live longer!
I still am not happy. I try to count my blessings, and remember where I
was compaired to where I am now. I still ask the same question, when will
it be enough for me. When will my insides be ok with what my outsides look
like? I have to ask myself daily why I feel like this. I should be so
happy with who I am and not with what I look like. I guess it is the next
step in this process. It sounds like I am totally not alone in this.
Thank you so much for being here, and thank you for letting me express how
I feel. I think I am not happy with being able to eat more. That really
brings me down. I don't want to gain any weight at all, and heavens
forbid, work at loosing this weight. Thank heavens...I can work at it now.
Did anyone else's mom ever tell them life would be easy?? Cuz mine sure
forgot to tell me that!!!! Chin up babe (cuz now there is only one to hold
up) and remember....WE ARE IN CONTROL!!!! Live life, love life!!!
— MAGICG9
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