Question:
Has anyone just been plain tired of trying to loose this weight
I'm 14 mos out and I haven't lost any weight since august of this year. I find myself sick of even trying anymore. I'm tired of looking at my doctor's scale saying one thing and my scale says another. I've lost 120 pound but need to loose at least 45 more, but now now matter how hard I try it's not happening. Do you think I'll start losing again at 15 mos? Is there anyone like me or been thru similar experience.. Also this holiday will not be a good one for me... But that's another story...HEEELLPP!!!!! — Rebe W. (posted on November 23, 2002)
November 23, 2002
Rebe,
I see from your profile that you recently lost your father.
The depression and loss you feel will be with you awhile.
I lost my mother the year before my surgery and am still grieving. I know
she would be proud of me for losing this weight; I just wish I could have
done it while she was still alive. After 2 1/2 years I still suffer
feelings of guilt over her death, like I should have been able to prevent
it. I know these feelings are in part what's got me down right now as
well. I am 16 months post-op and still haven't lost my 100#. I lost 90#
in the first 10 months, plateaued for 4 months, lost 4# and now have
plateaued again. I am very disappointed and frustrated by these people who
lost 100# in 6 months or are now a size 3 and say it was "so
easy". It has never been easy for me-I've fought for each and every
pound lost. That's why I take it to heart when I lose 4# and regain it for
no apparent reason!! At times I've thought to myself "the hell with
it" and eaten things I shouldn't only to feel guilty again. I know
this will be a life long struggle but gees-- I've already fought for 54
years!! Hang in there girl, we can win this thing. I need to lose 35 more
pounds to be at my "ideal" weight of 130# (yeah, right!). My
surgeon set my goal at 160#; my personal goal is 145#. I've been trying to
get to 160# for 6 months!!!! I've tried all the suggestions the good folks
have offered on this site but, nothing works beyond a day or two. I think
we just have to keep trying and keep our chins up. Remember, we are so
much healthier than we were 2 years ago and it WILL get better; when is not
ours to know. Keep the faith and email me if you like.
— LLinderman
November 23, 2002
Don't give up. Remember the decision you made was for a life change and it
will last a life time. I too have slowed down in losing the weight. But I
have used this time to reflect about who I am and why I had the surgery.
The benefits are still paying off. I am healthier, my energy level is great
and I have a better outlook on life. Continue to do your excercises and eat
a balanced meal and you will be o.k. Just wanted you to know that you are
not alone in this journey. We have had so many negative experiences in our
lives that when the good stuff shows up we have a hard time dealing with
it. So be encouraged, the best is yet to come. But rejoice, knowing that
you have come along way baby. God Bless You
— Robert R.
November 23, 2002
Rebe, I can feel you on this one. I am about 2 months out and have lost 34
pounds. Right now though I have been feeling really good about my loss.
I've finally gone down a dress size and can wear clothes I haven't been
able to wear in years. There is no feeling like that!!! People are just
beginning to notice my weight loss and compliment me. It feels great. But I
do remember before I got to this point, I (several times) felt like I
wanted to quit. I even verbalized to my DH a few times "I am so tired
of concentrating on my weight and what I put in my mouth"! "Why
can't this part of my life be over"!!! The first 6 weeks were the pits
but now it's starting to pay off. I look forward to my workouts even though
sometimes I'm tired and don't feel like doing it at the moment. I guess
what I want to say is that I know how you feel. You have come a long way
and it's been a tough road. Maybe you need to get involved with something
you like to take your mind off your weight loss so much. I find that if my
mind is absorbed in something that the weight loss just creeps up on me
before I know it. And if the scale isn't going down, I know that the inches
loss takes over. As long as you are getting in daily exercise you are
renewing your body. You are so much more healthy now and you should be
proud of your accomplishment!! Take pride in what you have done so far and
realize that you are almost there. It will just take more time.
— wemax2
November 23, 2002
Yes...I'm sick to death of losing only a lb. a week now, if that. I've
lost 86 lbs., and have about 30 to go to my personal goal. At this rate it
will still be 6-7 months to get these 30 lbs. off. I need plastic surgery
BAD...by Kaiser doesn't cover it. This is another thing that depresses me.
You lose all this weight but are left with the "memories" of
it...the redundant skin. I'm less than 7 months out and I feel like this.
Ech...I know how you feel. All we can do is keep on keepin' on. Hugs, Joy
— [Deactivated Member]
Click Here to Return