Question:
FOR MEN. Post op lady with a Q for you......
I saw Bob Haller post a response to someones question recently and said He was always attracted to big women. Now that you are no longer MO are you still atracted to MO women? My hubby was always the same way...just wondering how he will REALLY feel about me when I lose the rest of the weight. Hes loving it now but I went from 388 to 289..so m still MO, just not Super MO..BTW he is 6' 235 so hes not even a candidate for wls. — cherokey55 (posted on May 9, 2003)
May 9, 2003
I have said this to our support group many time. This surgery makes a good
marriage stronger and a bad one worse.
I started out at 410, ( right now I weigh 201 ) My husband loved me then
and still loves me to this day.
The only difference is I really love me now.
If this is really bothering you, please sit down and have a heart to heart
with your husband.
Best of luck
— domestic G.
May 10, 2003
I know you didn't ask for a woman's opinion...but...don't you think that
the guys who are attracted to 'big women' aren't really physically
attracted to the body but rather attracted to the mind/spirit/personality
and the attitudes that bigger women seem to have in common, maybe even the
'oh i'm fat so i will do everything for this man who says he loves me this
way, and i'll never find anyone else so i'll put up with his sh**' stuff?
Just a thought. My husband was a 'big girl' kind of guy (previous wife AND
myself were both MO)...and I do think he'd love me in the 500's or the
100's...but now that I'm 160 he's THRILLED with it. I really think he just
didn't want to say it before, but now that it's happened, he's happy with
the thinner active (sexy?!) wife he has. Just some food for thought.
— Kimberley E.
May 10, 2003
My husband's first wife started out thin and got heavy (she cheated and
left him) and I started out heavy and got heavier. He says (and I believe
him) that he fell in love with ME not my body. We believe that if one were
disfigured or massively disabled that we'd still love the other soul.
— [Deactivated Member]
May 11, 2003
*ORIGINAL POSTER*.....I am one of the lucky ones who happen to have a
strong marriage to a great guy. I guess the main reason for asking this
question is because I want to know what emotional effects MY wls is having
and will have on him. What I can do to make it easy on him ect. This
question is just one of the things that I have been wondering about lately.
I havesuppot group, wls friends, angels, individual therapy..he really has
no one to discuss these unique issues with....
— cherokey55
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