Question:
Are you a failure if you don't lose 100 lb by your 1 yr anniversary?
I am a month and a half from my 1 yr anniversary and have lost 87 lbs. Although I am greatful for the weight loss, I can't help but feel like a failure because I don't think that I will lose 100 lbs by my 1 year anniversary like my doctor assures me that I will. I know I started out as a lightweight but for some reason it is so important to me to meet that goal of 100 lbs by my 1 year anniversary. Any ideas or suggestions? — THE NEW M. (posted on September 4, 2003)
September 4, 2003
Is 100lbs your goal or your Doc's? How much weight did you have to lose to
start with and what percentage of that have you lost? You are a success at
87lbs!! You're not a failure if you don't lose 100lbs by your anniversary
date if that amount has no basis except for it being an arbitrary goal. If
you think your doctor is wrong about losing 11lbs in 8 weeks, then to reach
your goal, you may need to go back to basics. Eat right, skip carbs, drink
plenty of water and excersize. Best wishes -
— M B.
September 4, 2003
According to your profile, you want to lose a total of 110 pounds. In that
case, you've lost 79% of your excess so far. Stats suggest the average %
lost of excess weight is 75% during the 18 month window. I had surgery a
week before you and have lost 120 pounds but this is only 65% of my excess
weight. Don't be too hard on yourself - you're doing great. I would suggest
focusing on the long term goal of a healthy lifestyle, now where you'll be
at 1 year post. Good luck to you.
— Yolanda J.
September 4, 2003
Don't Beat Yourself Up....If you don't reach that 100 pound goal by your 1
year anniversary. You have done wonderful so far and should be
congratulated on that in itself. Good health is what needs to be your
primary goal. You could also have loss, but in inches, not neccessary
weight. So what, if you weigh 135 and wear a size 8 or weigh 155 and wear a
size 8 (example) You have accomplished so much in such a short time.
Exercise more and up the water or protein. You have to work this tool for
maximum results. Don't expect it to do it all. lol Good Luck! Lap
RNY...2/11/03...250/158/145...7 months Post Op
— Hazel S.
September 4, 2003
I second Yolanda! View the amount of loss in terms of a percentage of
excess weight lost, not in just pounds. Also, I firmly believe that
success in this is measured in so many more ways than the scale. Do you
feel better? Is your health better? Are you in less danger of developing
co-morbs? Are you more comfortable (physically and socially)? Can you do
things you couldn't do before? Those are better measures of success, in my
book, than the scale. Congratulations on a fabulous weight loss!
— Vespa R.
September 4, 2003
If you are grateful for the weight loss then how can you fell like a
failure if you don't lose 100 pounds by 1 year post-op? The two do not go
together. Considering you have lost 79 percent of your excess weight in 10
1/2 mo, I consider you a great success. Also, your surgeons goal for you
may not be the goal you set for yourself. My surgeon wanted me to be 15
pounds lighter than I wanted to be as a goal-he was usuing the insurance
charts, I used the weight I was at 10 years ago when I got married and was
a size 10. Guess what, it took me 18 mo to lose 101 pounds and I am just 3
pounds shy of MY original goal and a size 10. To lose 15 more as surgeon
wanted me to do would have made me a size 6 or 8 and certainly allowed me
to eat alot less to maintain that lower weight. No thank you. You have
many more months of losing ahead of you, enjoy the ride, you are anything
BUT a failure.
— Cindy R.
September 4, 2003
my suggestion would be to just accept your loss as a "success"
who ever came up with that dumb rule to lose 100 pnds by one year, thats
out of line...you have done a wonderful job and regardless of when you
reach your 100 mark you are a SUCCESS!! CONGRATS!!
— Deanna Wise
September 4, 2003
Hi! I just bearly lost 100 lbs by my 1 year mark. I'd lost 104lbs. I made
it. I was worried too. I think we still have several months after the 1
year mark to lose some weight too. I would like to lose 15 more lbs, but
I'm happy where I am. Plus, I've started building back my wardrobe and
would hate to have to buy all new stuff again. I'm happy in my 16's. Never
thought in a million years that I'd get to here again in my life. It's
great! We have to celebrate where we are today! Goals are great and you
have to work towards a goal...whatever that may mean to you. You Can Do IT!
Melisa RNY 08/15/02 -105 lbs
— mbradley35
September 4, 2003
It's very hard for all of us to compare our weight loss to others,
especially the really quick losers. I found out that each person's body
loses at its own rate...mine was very slow and I did not lose 100 lbs. by
my 1 yr. anniversary. I finally lost a total of 120 lbs though. You will
continue to lose in your own time, just do not give up and you are NOT a
failure. Good luck.
— Betty Todd
September 9, 2003
I never achieved 100 pounds but consider my 85 a giant success. Yes, I was
disappointed in not reaching 100 pounds, but NO, I don't consider my
surgery a failure. Consider the excess skin. I am certain that if I had
that removed, it would put me over the 100 pound mark, but I'm happy where
I am.
— marciejayne
September 9, 2003
Maybe rather than thinking in terms of failure, put on a positive spin. OH
MY GOD YOU HAVE LOST 87 WHOLE POUNDS. gO TO THE STORE AND TRY TO PICK UP 2
40 POUND BAGS OF DOG FOOD, THEN WHEN YO CAN'T , THINK WOW i LOST MORE THAN
THAT!!!!!
— **willow**
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