Question:
Major depression
My surgery date has been changed from Oct. 16th to sometime in January of 2004. My doctors is having emergency surgery. I don't no how long I can keep my emotions in check (I'm at work now). I will proble be popping Zoloft like tic tacs (just kidding) for the next couple of months I don't no haow I'm going to get thru this. — TIFFANY B. (posted on September 30, 2003)
September 30, 2003
I know that has to feel devastating and I know I would probably feel just
like you do. No one understands just how desperate we feel when we get to
the point we want to have surgery, then something happens to put it off. I
know it's hard to think of it in these terms but there may be a divine
reason your surgery got put off. I believe with all my heart that 3 years
ago when I was looking to have surgery before, everything hit a brick wall
for me. This time it all fell into place. God bless you.
— Happy I.
September 30, 2003
That's a bummer! I don't have any suggetions other than make sure
everything is in order with your insurance company and that they are
notified of the January 2004 date! How awful would it be to wait till
January and then find out OOPS! you're not approved!!! for some reason
because of the new calendar year or something. Good luck.
— Carly H.
September 30, 2003
I know what you are going through. Check my profile. I thought I would
never have the surgery. I was taking high doses of valium just to get
through the day (I couldn't even work my 10 hrs/week job for my Dad) and I
was a total b*tch to everyone who knew me. It is absolute hell what you
are being put through and it is totally unfair. What I'm writing may not
help you feel better, but as impossible as it may seem it will happen and
it will have been worth waiting for. If I were you I would get myself some
strong anti-anxiety meds and take it one day at a time. Good luck to you.
— klinzey
September 30, 2003
I would definitely do some serious research into whether or not your
insurance will still consider this surgery a covered service. Many times
companies change insurance companies at the beginning of the year, or alter
their policies and this may become an exclusion. Be sure to check this out
thoroughly and not assume what someone tells you is factual. Find it in
writing!! Good luck! Shelley
— Shelley.
September 30, 2003
I agree with Lisa below and I also know how you feel. I am a very impatient
person and waiting to "Start a new Life" is very hard. Here is
what I do. I am trying to make adj now. I know how I will have to eat and
excerise in my new post surgery life. If you start now just think over the
next 2-3 months you could lose 20lbs or more and that puts you that much
closer to your goal and also gets you into your new life style so it will
not be such a new routine for you after the surgery. Keep your head up!!!
— gina L.
September 30, 2003
I know how disappointed you must feel. But at least you can enjoy this last
Thanksgiving and Christmas meals. Believe me, they will NEVER be the same
again. Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas are usually the only times I
regret WLS. ENJOY them this year. Then take the next few months to cut out
sugar, walk and get spiritually and emotionaly prepared for surgery. You
have alittle extra time to prepare so use it wisely. At least you won't be
recovering and feeling sick during the holidays this year. Best of luck to
you in January.
— Danmark
September 30, 2003
I know how you feel because I was planning on having surgery this fall too
but my husband's employer decided to change our copays to a high
deductable. My depression came back in full force! I have managed to pull
myself back up but its been difficult. Everyone I know who has gone
through this process the same time I have will have surgery before me and
that has been a difficult thing to deal with. But like Daniel stated we
will get to enjoy halloween candy, Thanksgiving dinner, and the sweet
treats of Christmas. There will be no recovery issues and learning how to
eat during these tempting times. Plus if you have a deductable and out of
pocket expense with your insurance company it will be paid for an entire
year due to having surgery in January. I guess what I'm trying to say is
try to look at all the good things that you will get to do now. I've
devoted my entire year to this process and I hate to wait until Jan.
because I feel like I am in limbo but I really don't have a choice so I
remind myself of these little perks that time has granted me. Good luck on
your future surgery! Jan will be here before we know it!
— Renee A.
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