Question:
I'm gaining so fast!! Help
I'm about 3yrs 1/2 post of and have gained 35 pounds. I'm making bad food choices and not excersising. Yes I know that that's the problem but when I see the scale I eat. What's wrong please help. — mamita093 (posted on March 28, 2007)
March 27, 2007
Hey, you just need encouragement! You know that you can take it back off
right? Go back to what you know is right...put yourself back in the
mindset that youstarted off in! You didn't come all this way to turn back
again right? You were strong enough to do it before, and you just have to
pull yourself up by your bootstraps and face this challenge head-on. You
CAN do it!
— Karrie W.
March 28, 2007
Jen, hi honey. I am 3 years post op, and I ache for your situation. I
fear that could be me anytime, and I am concerned about that. You know
what the problem is. It is your hand and your mouth. You have to be
determined to stop your hand from feeding your mouth, and pick up the
exercise again. Jen, the issue here is not food, but the source of what
makes you eat. You need to take a hard look at why you eat, and deal with
your discouragement and head issues so you can get back on top again.
Maybe you are having a lot of stress in your life right now. Life happens
Jen, and sometimes it is more than we can handle. So, we obese people, run
to our food. We don't walk, we run. It is our safe haven, no one can stop
us, and we can hide and just have our food. I don't know where you are at
in this area, but I do know this. Obesity is a head issue with a body
consequence. Your head is feeling sorry for you and telling you the lie
that you will regain it all anyway, so just eat what you want. You don't
have to exercise because you have lost the battle anyway. Any of this
sound familiar? They are all lies. Jen, you have a pouch, and your pouch
can help you even after 3 1/2 years. My suggestion is to go back to
basics. Protein, water, and exercise. Cut out all soda and caffine, and
teach your mind that you are in charge. Only deal in truth. The truth is
that YOU can take control of this. The truth is that YOU can throw away
those things you should not eat, and walk around the block. The truth is
that YOU have had a lot of success, and regardless of what is going on
around you, YOU can manage your body. It is the only body you have Jen, it
is worth fighting for. Please fight for it. Exercise, water, protein.
Get back on track. Don't lose this focus in your life. Success has been
yours in the past, and today is a great day, not tomorrow, but today is a
great day to put the lies behind you and step forward. You are worth it.
I really wish you well. Take care, Patricia P.
— Patricia P
March 28, 2007
I will be 7 years out the end of this week and have found myself in a
similar situation as yours. I have gained 15-20 pounds since about
December. I, too, am making bad food choices and not exercising. We both
know what we need to do, go back to basics. I guess we need to decide to
do it and just do it. Good luck to you!!
Chris
— rinnchris
March 28, 2007
Hi Jen, I am 6 years post and have gone through struggles from time to
time. I am 5'11" and I constantly go between 145-185 - which are
pretty good weights for me since I can wear the same clothes and
teter-totter between such a drastic weight gain/loss - i know it's only
because of my height... I am a bored eater, I like to eat when I am bored,
and I don't like to snack on the healthy stuff, only the stuff that is bad
for me... Honestly, I have to agree with some of what Patricia said about
it being in our heads, I think it is more emotional eating that hurts us so
bad. Has there been recent stress/heartache/events in your life that you
can contribute your change to? Or have you been eating this way all along
and now it is just catching up with you? I know there are support groups
in Tampa and nearby cities, since I had my surgery in Jacksonville - you
can call some of the surgeons in that area if you didn't have your sugery
there (or even if you did have your surgery there - call different
surgeons) and ask if they know of support groups... But another thing you
could consider if you are dedicated and want to change is counseling - if
you think there is an underlying event that is basically forcing you to eat
(using those words because I know that is how it feels - FORCING). I have
seen counselors for years and they can help you through so many things.
And if you believe in a higher being, learn how to pray more - I love
driving down the road on a stressful day and just talking to my God, he is
the best counselor of them all..... If you want to contact me directly,
maybe I can help you find a support group - I am at [email protected]
Jennifer
— JGDugar
March 28, 2007
Have you considered getting some professional help from a psychologist or
LCSW who specializes in eating disorders? If you can afford it or of your
insurance covers it, I recommend going this route. If not try seeking a
support group in your geographic area, a group that has people who have
gone through weight loss surgery too. Trying to deal with this problem by
yourself by reading self-help books, etc. has, in my opinion, a very low
probability of success. You KNOW that you are "making bad food choices
and not excersising" but you need to get to the underlying factor(s)
that force you to not "do the right thing". (I'm a HUGE [well not
physically -- anymore ;-) ] Dr. Laura fan.)
— [Deactivated Member]
March 28, 2007
Jen are you attending any of the Support Groups in Pinellas or Hillsborough
County? It's proven those who attend do better than those who don't. You
may just may need to be motivated more as you might be falling back to your
old ways. A Very Great Motivational Event is coming up the weekend of May
4th/5th in Orlando at the OH Conference, at the Doubletree Castle Hotel.
Check under EVENTS above. My OH Support Group hopefully will be up and
running shortly, keep watching for the announcement on the Florida Forum.
Kepp reading on OH that may help motivate you some too.
— Michael Eak
April 1, 2007
Original Poster:
Thank you so much for your responses. It really helps!!!!
— mamita093
April 1, 2007
I'm 3 !/2 years post op also. You have to keep the mindset that you had in
the beginning when you first got started. I just joined an athletic club
to work out two to three times a week. I still walk three miles daily, I
don't like to do these things, but my body make me walkand workout. I make
some bad choices in eating, but I will make up for it the next day. You
have to be your own cheerleader in your weight loss. Good Luck and put the
fork down and pick up the tennis shoes.
— tankjackjeff
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