Question:
Is it normal to fantasize about your surgeon?
I have not had a libido for about 7 years. However, since my surgery I have had sexual feelings about my surgeon. Am I a sicko or is this some normal reaction I am having to a wonderful man helping and caring for me? Has anyone else felt this way for their surgeon? — [Anonymous] (posted on June 16, 2001)
June 16, 2001
Patients developing 'a crush' on them happens all the time to alot of docs.
I developed a crush on the guy who radically altered my life by
successfully treating my asthma when I was 19. I mean I had it bad...wrote
him love letters, pined, the whole thing. Jeesh! How embarassing. I then
saw him about 15 years later. It was a bit awkward because of how silly I
had acted. However, he was very gracious and said that if the worse thing
I ever did was fall in love with someone that it was OK. <SIGH> Ain't
being human fun?
— merri B.
June 17, 2001
I had to giggle at this question, not at you but at me. I just want you to
know that you're not alone. And I thought I was the only one! I have a
crush on my gynecologist (he's young & cute & Fillipino - those
cute black eyes)!!! I've even had a crush at first (it's over now) on my
counselor, and she's a woman (I even had lesbian dreams about her & me;
I was really distressed by these feelings for her). I don't know why this
happens to me. I've been HAPPILY married to my husband of 12 yrs. (and I
believe myself to be strait). I seem to develop these crushes on people who
care for and take care of me - medical people. I'm even trying to impress a
married guy at my church who's an EMT. As for my surgeon, I do talk about
him more often & get excited about seeing him. If there's any shrinks
out there, I hope you can read this and let us know WHY this happens and
whether this is normal or not.
— [Anonymous]
June 17, 2001
I am preop and have only seen my surgeon once, but he is so charming and so
absolutely fabulously looking. He is handsome enough to be a movie
star....sort of a combination of Harrison Ford and Mel Gibson all in one.
No fantasies here, but nothing wrong with a doc that is not hard on the
eyes. Seriously, as one person has already responded, I think caring for
someone, male or female, who is helping you to change your life in such a
dramatic way is very normal. The level of "normalcy" depends, of
course, on how far ones imagination takes this attraction. Don't some women
feel a closeness to their gynecologist while they are going through
pregancy and delivery? Same thing I think.
— [Anonymous]
June 19, 2001
I laughed when I saw this question because I have the same thing going for
my PCP, and I'm married! LOL My Dr. is soo cute, and for some reason when
I found out he got divorced, he just became incredibly much more handsome.
My husband knows I have a harmless crush on him, I always tell him that if
we ever get divorced that I'm going to fake an illness to get into see my
PCP, hehehe!! But I don't think there is anything wrong with your crush
or feelings. Dr.'s , are supposed to be kind and compassionate, the big
word here is compassionate, many are not, so when you do find one that is
caring, and supportive and has just helped you make a major breakthrough in
your life, it's normal to have admiration/feelings for that person. Now
when I met my surgeon, I thought he was a nice guy, and he's attractive,
but not my type, but who knows, after surgery he may become much more
handsome too.
— [Anonymous]
July 18, 2001
It's hard to judge what is "normal" and what isn't these days,
but I think this is a common thing...I have had a little crush on my
surgeon too, but I know this is just a manifistation of my gratitude and
feeling of closeness to someone who so altered my life for the better. The
best way for me to deal with this is acknowledge it to myself and referr
anyone considering the surgery to him!!
— Susan S.
September 6, 2001
Lets just say that my BOB (battery operated boyfriend) has a new face :-)
My surgeon is VERY goodlooking and I haven't stopped thinking about him in
the last 2 days.
— Tina P.
January 28, 2002
I NEVER HAD THIS HAPPEN TO ME BUT I DO HAVE A FRIEND WHO HAD THE "BIG
O" WHEN VISITING THE GYNECOLOGIST(how embarrasing)I HAVE HEARD THAT A
CRUSH IS NORMAL WHEN DIRECTED TO A PERSON WHO HELPS YOU IN SUCH A TREMEDOUS
WAY AS SAVING YOUR LIFE !
— [Anonymous]
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