Question:
I still feel fat and ugly even though I lost 100lbs! Whats the matter with ME?
— balefran (posted on July 19, 2005)
July 19, 2005
It takes a long time for your head to come close to catching up with your
body. There is nothing the matter with you, you are normal. It took me a
good two years before I realized that I didn't need to shop at Lane
Bryant....and I was a size 6 at the time! Even at almost 4 years out I
still feel huge from time to time. Give it a while, your head will come
around.
— RebeccaP
July 19, 2005
YOu are 100% NORMAL!!! It will take time for the brain to catch up with the
body... I am 2 years out 172 LBS down and still look at 1X+ clothes (I wear
a Medium top, size 12 pants)When I go shopping (And it isnt that often) I
try to take some one with me whom will be HONEST with me ( UH dont you
think that is a bit on the big side) that helps but it does get better with
time..
Christina
— Christina B.
July 19, 2005
I was hanging out clothes on the line and for some reason looked at my blue
jeans that were showing the sixe 8 and I thought..how can these be mine, I
still head for the *back of the store* for big clothes and I am 2 years
out..Its normal...
— Kathy S.
July 19, 2005
Sounds to me like you are doing just awesome!!!!! I had lap rny before you
on January 10, 2005 and have lost 75 pounds so far. I still have a ways to
go to my goal of 115 pounds, (I'm only 5 feet tall).
I would be ecstatic if I had lost as much as you have. Don't be
discouraged, you are doing just great and looking wonderful. (I saw the
photos in your profile)
Congratulations to you on your weight loss!!!!
— white2003toyota
July 19, 2005
After checking out your profile and seeing that you are most certainly
looking GREAT! :-) I can tell you what others have said: Nothing wrong...
you're just normal! ;-) I remember when this friend of mine said to try
her size 12 pants, and I looked at her like she was nuts! In my mind there
was NO WAY I would fit in them... she was so much smaller than me! Well,
big surprise when them suckers went right up and zipped with no problem!
Ack! I had to tell myself that maybe I'm not so fat an ugly anymore
myself... eh? ;-)
Hang in there... LOVE YOURSELF and concentrate on how amazingly you have
done! 100 pounds is SUPER! Way to go!!! :-) :-) :-)
— [Deactivated Member]
July 19, 2005
Well, if you ever figure it out, please let me know. I have the same
problem. I lost 150 pounds. Intellectually I realize that accomplishment,
but I still feel like I am over 300 pounds. First I thought maybe it wsa
because I haven't made it to my goal weight, then I thought maybe it was
because I put on a couple of pounds. I don't know what it is but I still
feel enormous. Even though I recognize the fact that when I buy clothes now
I am buying single digit sizes, I still do not feel like I am small enough
to do so. Maybe it is because I am afraid I will gain the weight back, like
I have other times I've lost weight. So perhaps it is a defense mechanism
that I cannot see myself as small in case I get big again. Or maybe I'm
just nuts. But maybe it is just a normal process of all of this. If you
think about it, I was fat for over 30 years so I guess I shouldn't expect
to not feel that way overnight.
— Donna F.
July 19, 2005
It's all in your head. I lost 145lbs and still felt the same way until I
had plastic surgery to remove the extra skin on my stomach,a breast lift
and lipo on my thighs. Now I feel like a million bucks. I don't look like
a supermodel but I feel much better about my self. With that extra skin
hanging I still felt fat. But you need to remember that they operated on
your stomach not on your brain and you have to change the way you feel
about yourself and look at yourself. Keep up the good work!
— msferret6
July 20, 2005
Hi Barbara & All:
While our bodies are not the only expression of our personalities, they
certainly are a significant reflection of them.
WLS will change our bodies, but only to the extent that we are willing to
work with other trained professionals - psychotherapists, life coaches,
pastoral counselors - will we create healthier personalities.
"Time alone" is not going to achieve the mental & emotional
healing necessary for us to feel happily at home in our healthier bodies.
Proof of that can be found on every obesity-related message board as people
cry out in fear, frustration, anger grief that they know they have begun to
sabotage their health by eating wrong and gaining weight.
How many frustrated bariatric surgeons and their nurses have said to us
over and over and over that there is nothing magical about WLS; that it is
only a tool that will support our personalities in learning new behaviors.
This month, I resumed working with a psychotherapist to insure that I
continue my progress in healing myself of allll the emotional wounds that
could trigger self-injuring behavior - BEFORE I begin.
Most health insurance policies cover mental health; consider it an
INVESTMENT in your self, a kind of investment on top of the investment you
made to the surgery.
Give yourself the gift of professional help! You deserve to enjoy and be
comfortable in your new, healthier body!
All the best,
Lauralyn
Lap RNY 2/13/03
5'9.5" size 3X to 8.
— EmbodySuccess
July 20, 2005
After reading your profile, I feel that some of your self-esteem issues are
coming from your mom's lack of support. I am hurting for you today. I
wonder what her issues are. Fortunately, you do have other supportive
people in your life but I'm very upset over your mother's attitude. I
really hope you can resolve this problem with her. Best of luck with that.
— Cinbrew
July 21, 2005
I think you're 100% normal. I still grab up clothes that are too large and
look at pants that I think there is no way I could fit into but they do. I
think its similar to when someone loses a limb..They feel like its still
there..still aches, still pains them..Well our fat is like that. Our
brains just haven't caught up yet. It takes a long time. Look at your
before pictures, look at your before measurements and look at current ones
at your best..there is NO comparison. You are a new smaller person.
COngrats on the big loss. I've lost 115 and stuck...still wanting to lose
that last 20
— FaithMills
July 21, 2005
I HAD MY SURGERY ABOUT 8 MONTHS AGO IVE LOST 80 LBS BUT IVE GOT 40 MORE TO
GO ITS GETTING HARD CAUSE ITS THE LAST LBS TO LOSE ITS ALL IN THE BELLY
[email protected] BLESS YOU
— AMANDA H.
July 22, 2005
Sorry Chick.... I must say Im over 2 yrs post-op, down 203 pouds and STILL
see the same ole fat cow I saw in the mirror pre-op.
— Donna A.
July 24, 2005
hey it will take you awhile to see the new you. it still bothers me and i
just reached my 2 year mark. i lost a 160 lbs. and have had the tummy tuck
and arm lift. you may need to go to a support group in your area. it will
take some time. hang in there okay.
— Barbara M.
July 27, 2005
Hi I had surgery Apirl 2002 and than had the skin removed from stomach in
Jan of this year. Every time I looked in mirror all I saw was a fat
person. I tried for longest to keep buying plus size clothes but finally
this year looked in mirror one day and said boy I am not fat anymore.
Sometimes our minds take awhile to kick in.
— [Deactivated Member]
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