Question:
I Feel like I WONT / cant /inpossable for
Im just wating to hear back from the inshorence co, is all ..we are looking at a 3week wate, my BMI is 60+ , Im 5feet 4 inch tall and im so huge 380~ Eathen thoue im going to have this surgery, I feel like Im just to big to lose the weight It just wont work for me! I feel like my body just cant get small, Is this a normal feelings or do some folk just never lose the weight at all ,I know everyone is differnt and we all have differnt bodys and such, Maybe im just the 1- in a 10000000 that this wont work for! anyone out there have the same problem ? If there is someone who had feelt this way or feels this way ,please tell me how your dealing with these thoughts and if your a post-op and bin thought these feelings how are you doing ???? thank you all for your help, this meens alot to me, to here your thoughts! — Michelle M. (posted on December 22, 2002)
December 21, 2002
Ahh never been to a support group meeting? Do attend them! SAeeing their
success will help motivate you. Hear their stories of folks espically 100
loosers, take one to dinner. See them eat good normal food in small
quanties. All f us to one degree or another gear failure. But the RNY
REALLY WORKS!
— bob-haller
December 21, 2002
Michelle - I second Bob's notion to get to a support group meeting, even
prior to your operation. I had my surgery in July and I have been
attending support group meetings since April.
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You think you are huge? There are people out there who have weighed more
than you and had a larger BMI and have been successfl. My BMI was 75 with
a weight of 427 pounds on my 5'4" frame. As of 12/14, I was down to
301 pounds and, although I have not weighed myself since then, I am
definitely down in the 290's now. One of the people in my support group
started out at 710 pounds - he's lost almost 190 pounds so far.
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Everyone loses weight after the RNY. The trick is keeping it off is to use
the 12-18 window of opportunity to revise your lifestyle and eating habits
so that when the stomach expands a little after that first year, you are
eating healthy...JR (open RNY 07/17 -126 pounds)
— John Rushton
December 22, 2002
I was 460 when I started out and 412 on my surgery date. I am down 82 in a
little over 3 months.(+48 pre surgery) Now, the thing is I have similar
feelings even now. But It is Working! You will be successful too. The
thing is the my " body just can't get small" part you wrote.
That is what I struggle with. I am trying hard to give up my focus on
being "smaller" and concentrate on how much better I feel. While
I am still wearing a size 30 and noone would label me small. I can walk up
and down the stairs, fit in movie seats, shop until I am done instead of
exhausted. When you start out at a higher weight it takes time to get to
the Wow you look great part, but the wow I feel great comes quickly. My
goal weight is 240, which is over 200 loss from my high, but at 240 noone
is going to come up and say I'm anything resembling small. I guess the
point is even if we aren't "small" at the end of the weight loss,
we can still be successful because we will be so much healthier. Best of
luck, you will do great.
— Carrie R.
December 22, 2002
I started at 332lbs at 5'2" with a BMI of 61. I had surgery on 3/12/02
and I was a size 32/34. I'm now 9 months out and down 157lbs and I weigh
176lbs and a size 14. Many people have had success before you so there is
no reason to think you won't be one of them. I understand how you feel
because through the whole process I had this little voice in the back of my
head saying "this won't work it will be like everything else I've ever
tried". It does work. I just kept telling myself that even if I only
lost 50% of my excess weight it would still be worth it. I've now lost 75%
of my excess weight and I'm still losing 2 or 3 lbs per week. I feel
confident now that I will get there but even if I never lose another pound
it was worth it. My life is greatly improved I'm never the biggest one in
the room anymore, I don't have to search around for a chair I can fit in,
I even ran yesterday to get out of the rain. Only in my wildest dreams did
I ever get in to a size 14 but now I do and you know what? there loose!
Good luck
— Alison N.
December 22, 2002
You know, it is not unusual to feel as if you will be the only one this
surgery WON'T work for. As obese people we have dealt time after time with
this new diet and that new diet, built up our hopes only to fail miserable
at every new diet we have tried. The difference here is that WLS changes
the way your body processes food.Your stomach's holding capacity is much
less. Your food is digested in a different way than it was prior to the
surgery.That is one reason this surgery is sooooo successful. The first
twelve to eighteen months are called your "window of opportunity"
because it is during this time that you have a chance to work on your part.
It is a time to learn how to make good food choices and to explore the
ever-changing "you" in relation to the world, (food, friends,
partners, kids, etc.) You may have issues that you and your therapist can
work on. Sometimes change is scarier than staying where we are even if the
place we are in is uncomfortable and makes us miserable! Some people
discover that in losing their weight it actually gives them permission to
speak when they have felt invisible for so long. Some people get divorced
as their spouse cannot take their change into a healthier more self
confident person. There are always risks with anything new and you have to
make sure that you go into this with your eyes wide open. It is not a magic
cure. You will have to participate in your own weight loss after surgery. I
think it is important to really assess the risks you take and what you want
as your goal. Some people are not ready to lose weight and should wait
until they are sure this is what they want. Anything new is scary. There
are many people on this site who have gone all the way through this and
reached their goal. There is no reason that this could not also happen for
you. Do some soul searching while you wait for your approval and/or your
surgery. Talk things over with your therapist when she/he gets back from
her vacation. Decide what you really want and then go for it. You will get
plenty of support here. It helps me to focus on where I'm headed by getting
on every day and looking at before and after pictures and reading people's
journals. My surgery is scheduled for Jan 15th. Am I nervous? You bet, but
it really helps me to stay in touch with people who have walked through
this and are freed from obesity. Good luck to you! Joy Arnett
— Joy A.
December 22, 2002
hi there michelle, i understand your fear completely. we are so used to
failed attempts at losing weight that we fear wls is too good to be true.
but take it from me and others, this thing really works!!!!!!! start 5 9
370 current 198!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)
— carrie M.
December 22, 2002
Be sure you research the different types of surgeries AND how they are
done. Some will take off & maintain more wt loss than others. Also,
attend some support groups, esp with long term posies and see what has
helped or threatened their success. You're not all that far from me, and we
have groups here.
— vitalady
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