Question:
Will my sexual "appetite" improve following surgery?
My hubby has been quite a miserable men lately. when we first got together, things were diffeent until ther last couple years. I do not feel into the whole intimacy thing. I want to, I try to. I just can't. I need to know if this will impove after surgery and weight loss. If so, how long before I become that "sex goddess" my hubby has been missing out on? — Crystal D. (posted on July 29, 2001)
July 29, 2001
I had surgery on May 9 and have lost approx. 55 lbs. My "sexual
appetite" has definitely increased! I felt so ugly before but I'm now
starting to feel sexually attractive again. It's amazing how weight
affects how you feel about yourself both good and bad. I'm sure that once
you start losing weight you will feel like a brand new woman!
— [Anonymous]
July 31, 2001
Now here's a question most people don't seem to willing to jump into. The
same question came up at a recent support group meeting that I went to with
everyone going silent until I stepped forward. Well here I go again. I do
believe that being overweight can cause a lower libido, however many of us
would agree that our view of ourselves can be more damaging than the actual
weight. Once your body starts to look and feel better so will you. I was
268 lbs pre op, now 6 mos. later I'm 210, believe me when I say things
between my husband and I are much, much better. I'm sure you too will be
pleased with the end result to all the changes you and your family are
going through. Good luck and all the best to you. And please feel free to
contact me with any more questions.
— Lisa C.
July 31, 2001
I'm 5 weeks post-op and have lost 33 lbs. Sometimes I'm so preoccupied
with my diet and weight that I ignore my husband and I'm not interested,
but I know this will pass as I become more comfortable with everything.
Before I knew about this surgery, our sex was great. Then, once I learned
about it and started researching every free moment I had, things got ugly.
There are lots of ways you can satisfy him without getting too involved,
it's not the 'real' thing, but as long as they're happy. Now we're
spending time walking together, talking, and holding hands. So, it's not
an instant 'sex goddess' transformation, but with time and lots of
patience, I'm sure our intimacy will get better. Our husbands go through
so much with us, it's important to acknowledge their needs too.
— Lori W.
August 3, 2001
I don,t know about yours but with 116# in sixteen weeks off my wife and i
are back at dating level circus animal sex games and adventures, its been
very worth the battle . GO FOR IT. king of love
— ricky R.
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