Question:
I thought I was fine with my food issues, but I guess not :o(
I went to Dunkin Donuts/Baskin Robins last night for my family and as soon as I walked in...that smell Mmmmm lol. I just looked at all my past favorite junk foods and I just felt like crying b/c I could'nt have anything, but I did end up leaving with a low fat bagel. I am still upset and seem to be munching alot today, still wanting that junk. I thought I was ok with the food issues!?! Does anyone else still get this way? I feel stupid for being so upset over ice cream and donuts. I NEVER buy sugary stuff for the house and I've been fine at B-day parties saying no to cake and ice cream. Thanks for listening :o) — Sandy M. (posted on May 20, 2003)
May 20, 2003
sandy~ I know how you feel! My biggest downfall is sweets and ever since
surgery i have vowed never to have any sugar ever again, unless its
natrual. and i have stuck to it. I am a HUGE birthday cake fan and
evertime i see it i get all frazzled but than i just tell my self, I didnt
go through all that pain and loosing 99 lbs just to fail at a commitment i
made to my self! I dont ever stop anyone from eating their fun sweets
around me, I think it just goes to show how much will power I really have,
and thats the way you should think! Look at the will power you had to NOT
buy those doughnuts or ice cream, that makes you a better person for being
able to resist temptation. Dont feel stupid, Im sure EVERYONE goes through
this. Best of luck to you! OPEN RNY 11/15/02 -99 lbs!
— sandrac131
May 20, 2003
Sandy,
Our food issues may never be "cured" but control is more an
issue. I think my food issue is an addiction, though it is odd that we have
to feed our addition to live. That is hard. You made a good choice...a low
fat bagel. Before WLS I am sure it could have been worse...You already know
that foods that trigger those urges are not brought into your house and you
handled yourself like a trooper when faced with "old
enemies"...be proud you have come a long way...knowing that you have
to work at it everyday is half the battle and it is not odd to be sad just
accept those feelings and then let them go. You are worth all the effort
you put in to your wonderful self.
— Carla S.
May 20, 2003
I am so proud of you for sticking to your guns! Woohoo! I do indulge on
very rare occassions at parties by having a sliver of cake or a small spoon
of ice cream. I know from my own experience that if I make it a situation
where I can't have it, then I crave it and the desire builds until I
over-do. So now I eat rationally. If I want it, I have it, in tiny
amounts for a taste and then toss the rest. If however, you have the
strength of will to walk away, pat yourself on the back and do something
really good for yourself instead (long soak in the tub, new book, etc.).
— [Deactivated Member]
May 20, 2003
Oh yea, me too! but at 20 mos post op most days <b>nothing tastes as
good as thin feels</b> BUT then there are "THOSE" days!!
& I do indulge free of guilt!! The nice thing is it no longer sends me
on a week or even a day long binge like it used to. I need to feel
"normal" (whatever that is) No more dieting for me!!
— Denise W.
May 20, 2003
Sandy, Just look in the mirror when you're feeling that way. You look
wonderful! Can you maybe send someone else in your family to those places
to pick up the 'poison'? I sometimes feel sorry for myself, mostly at nice
restaurants when I'd like to eat more. But, the feeling usually doesn't
last long. I also remind myself of how I could have NEVER stopped at just
one dounut or one bowl of ice cream. I also will never forget how I felt
physically and mentally after I polished off several donuts or several
bowls of ice cream. Your not alone, and YOU LOOK GREAT!
— Stacy L.
May 20, 2003
Nothing wrong with mourning when something reminds you of a long lost
friend! You did quite well! Be proud of yourself for making a good decision
with the bagel. It wasn't that you COULDN'T have anything, you CHOSE not
to!
— koogy
May 20, 2003
Sandy, I am very much like Ruth and if I want to endulge I do. I can
remember those days when eating junk food caused extreme guilt and stress
and so I would eat more to "comfort" those feelings away. There
is no reason to ever feel that way again. I am determined that even though
I know that I have the potential always there to abuse, that I will live
like a normal person and allow junk food in my life. Many others cannot do
that, and they become determined to NEVER have sugar again etc, but to me
that is not normal and I want to enjoy all foods, not just the protein and
veggie types. I would have had a small SF cone at baskin robbins or
perhaps 1/2 of a donut. Just enough to feel normal but not enough to do
any damage....and no guilt.
— Cindy R.
May 20, 2003
Hi Sandy,
I agree with the other posters about how great that you have self control,
etc. I also suggest you allow yourself to have some, say a small cone or
half a donut. The antici-pation of the delight you expect to feel is
almost never equal to the actual joy of eating it. If you pay attention to
how you are feeling before, during, and after, you may be disappointed at
not getting more of a lift from eating favorite carbs. Also, for me,
eating carbs creates a need for more carbs. I don't absolutely forbid
myself delicacies, but I eat only a bite or two and that's often enough to
nip the need to nosh. (talk about alliteration..)
— Bobbi G.
May 20, 2003
ok i may get blasted for this but here's my two cents worth so take it at
that...i have since surgery six months ago had several birthday parties and
been to baskin robins twice and a donut shop three times. i had this
surgery to be normal not deprived. some parties i've had a small piece of
cake if i don't feel like it i don't. but i don't tell myself i can't
otherwise i'll want it like crazy. at baskin robins i have gotten a cup
with a kids scoop. just enough to get a taste. at the donut shop i had half
a donut one time the other times it was just for my kids. some people find
if they deprive themselves they keep stuffing in other things to fill that
void till they end up eating more than they would have in the first place.
i say have it! in moderation of course. o even keep my old favorite ice
cream in my freezer but instead of eating the whole pint like in the old
days i take it out have 3 or 4 bites and put it away and i find i only eat
it maybe once or twice a week not bad really. kimberly open distal rny
11/12/02 -90lbs
— kimberly T.
May 20, 2003
My opinion is only as a preop, but consider this: If you were an alcholic
on the mend, would you visit a beer factory? If you were in Gamblers
Anonymous would you visit Las Vegas? I think going with your family to
that kind of place is just too hard. I'm not saying your family should
stop having their treats, but if you were a drunk would they take you to a
bar for a celebration and expect you to sip on some ice water and be happy
about it? Of course not.
When my family wants to indulge and I'm being careful with my intake, I
suggest they go and have a great time - while I get some quality alone
time. I can treat myself to a movie by myself or with a friend; take a
bubble bath and read - uninterrupted - for a half hour; go shopping for
something just for myself; (can you tell I have a hectic house!) I think I
would try to avoid temptation, or at least recognize that its natural to
feel uncomfortable when everyone is indulging and you simply can't.
— bethybb
May 21, 2003
First of all, let me say.....I checked out your page and YOU LOOK
FANTASTIC!!! I am about 3 1/2 months post lap and down 60 lbs. I think we
would have to have our heads examined if we DIDNT grieve the loss of
certain favorite foods. This Monday, it was 85 degrees here and I wanted a
coffee coolata from DD in the worst way! Because i "settled" for
an ice coffee instead, I "settled" 3 times! That craving
persisted, sending me back to DD for 2 more iced coffees as the day
progressed. "There's nothing like the real thing baby.....nothing
like the real thing....." Ain't that the truth! Don't beat yourself
up over it, face it and move on. You are doing everything right, girl!
— RedHeadBeauty
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