Question:
30lb weight gain....Whats wrong with me?
I had an RNY distal oct 5th of 1999. I was down to 165 lbs and now in the last year and a half I have gained 25lbs. I feel like such a failure. I am so afraid of being 380lbs again...I do not eat sugar but I do notice I can eat alot more. I am so stressed out..Please help — devine299 (posted on January 26, 2005)
January 26, 2005
hello !just wanted to say i am in the same boat,i am so unhappy that i have
the urge to eat and can comfortable eat more than i thought i'd be able to
consume.i have been told stick to protien and just 3 meals no snacking.wish
i could be more helpful sincerly laurie
— lauriegrizzard
January 26, 2005
I know you're in pain, but I must congratulate you on having managed to
keep off nearly ninety percent of your lost weight after more than five
years. Those are stellar results. Conservative surgeons tell their
patients to expect to keep off only half the lost weight after five years.
You're a shining example of success. Just check out a long-term post-op
site like the Graduate OSSG Yahoo group and see how many people struggle
with regains of twenty-five pounds and more after two years or less, let
alone five. And you must realize that the likelihood that you will become
super-morbidly obese again after all this time, given your proven ability
to keep the weight off, is truly remote. Don't be so hard on yourself.
And check out http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG/
— Kay B.
January 26, 2005
Deanna
Hi, at least you understand you need to stop. That is a good sign. I am a
firm believer in a food journal. For the next two weeks keep track of
everything and I do mean everything you put in your mouth. Now this is for
your eyes only so be truthful. Keep track of your water, your exercising (
yes the big ugly work exercise ) and your feelings. Now at the end of the
two weeks I want you to go back and see what you have put in your body, is
there anything you can live without ??? make it gone. Are there things you
can keep but make healthier, do this. Are there emotions you are eating
from, professional help may work here. Do you have a support group in your
area, this may also help. Are you still getting in enough protein and
water, if not fix this. You can only and I repeat only fail if you do not
do anything to help yourself. You have to give up 100 % to fail, doesn't
sound like your willing to do that. Pick yourself up dust yourself off and
do what you know needs to be done !!!! Also don't forget to give yourself a
hug every now and then. We need those too.
Hugs
Kelly
— domestic G.
January 26, 2005
— tonib
January 26, 2005
You're human. Don't be so hard on yourself. When I eat something I know I
shouldn't I try to learn form it then forgive myself and start all over
again. That's a difficult task for a perfectionist, lol. I agree with the
previous poster who mentioned the journal. My weight loss started to slow
down so I made myself go back to keeping a food journal. I didn't realize
how many carbs I was actually eating. It makes you realize just what you
are eating and therefore what you can eliminate. The same is true for
exercise. I was walking three miles in an hour. After keeping track of that
for a while I decided I should try to pick up the pace after Christmas. Now
I can walk four miles in an hour. And I added to my weight training
program. I have 30 more pounds to go but my loss has slowed down so I feel
like I am in the same boat as you. I remember when I had my surgery I
thought I was going to be the one person this surgery wouldn't work for.
After losing 145lbs now that the loss has slowed my fear is that I will not
ever make it to my goal weight. But I know if I do I will worry that I will
regain. So I guess there is always something we can worry about if we let
ourselves. I think of myself as a recovering food addict and think I will
always have a problem with food. Best wishes for health and happiness.
— Donna F.
January 27, 2005
Hi Deanna. First of all you are not a failure! You have accomplished a
great feat in losing the weight. You have to stop the negative thinking.
Ever heard that saying, "if you think you are". Quit thinking
your a failure. If you don't, you will always sabatoge yourself. Your a
human being that has lost a lot of weight, and just gone back to some old
habits, that can be easily remedied, with some going back to the basics
rules. I too have picked up weight, and lost it, and picked it up again.
Everytime I pick up weight,it's because I eat things I shouldn't. We all
know what we should and shouldn't be eating. Get up tommorow, tell
yourself you are a great beautiful person, that is going to make healthy
wise decisions for her health and weight. Tell yourself that you did it
before and you will do it again. You can do this Deanna, but you have to be
positive. You have to love you, not your weight, not the number on the
scale, but you, and once you stop the negative thoughts, and the stressing,
it will all fall in line. Good luck to ya!!
— Carey N.
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