Question:
Am I okay?
Am I okay? I wasn't nervous about surgery. I wasn't afraid. Now that it is done, though.. I am afraid!!! I can drink swallows, I can eat my ounces. I am terrified though that I wont lose. I am afraid to eat too much or not the right thing. I am afraid I will become compulsive...any suggestions? — daniel patrick (posted on September 1, 2005)
August 31, 2005
Yes, YOU ARE OK! I, too, after my surgery was scared, nervous and kept
asking myself, "did I do the right thing?" After losing 65# in 2
1/2 months I now know that I did the right thing. It will become easier as
the days, weeks and months go by. You have gone through a major change in
you life by deciding that how you got overweight was no longer bringing you
comfort. When food has been a comfort zone for the obese, such as myself,
when that comfort zone is removed, were do become scared and nervous. I
have found that in my times of depression, sadness, fear and loneliness,
that there are now other ways to deal with it besides eating myself into
oblivion.
YOU CAN DO THIS AND YOU WILL MAKE IT!!! I have faith in you. God bless
you and keep you in His care as you begin a wonderful and exciting new
journey:) Welcome to the losing side. Lap-RNY 6/16/05 292/227
— LilaDove
September 1, 2005
I am almost 6 months post op and down 72 lbs. I still wonder if I am doing
things right! And I too think I got the most scared when they sent me home
from the hospital! Am I eating right? When do I eat..should I have
breakfast foods for breakfast...does it matter..am I getting enough
food..is this really gonna work..am I gonna stop at 10,,20,,50 lbs like
every time before? All those questions. You will be fine!! You made a
good decision!! Just do what the dr and nutritionist tell you to do and you
will be just fine!! Congrats!!
— lovinlife
September 1, 2005
I'd say you're quite normal. I had my surgery last May and then lost over
150 pounds. Over the course of the summer I have gained about ten pounds. I
had incredible fears that I would gain back all my weight, plus more, just
like all the other times I've dieted. But, the difference is now I have
this great tool to work with. I just need to get back to the basics. So,
I've already lost two of those ten pounds. But I think, for me, the fears
will always be there. I even have nightmares that I wake up and I'm
suddenly back over 300 pounds again. For me, being that obese and unhealthy
was emotionally scarring and I guess I shouldn't expect those fears to
subside overnight. But I wonder if I will ever obliterate those fears, or
if they will always be with me? But I do think this is a normal thing,
especially for someone as early post-op as you are. Just try to relax,
listen to the advice of your surgeon, and enjoy the ride, because it is an
amazing journey. Sometimes I still walk past a mirror and just can't
believe it is me I am looking at, and I can't believe how much I enjoy
working out now, and how much better I feel. This has clearly been the best
decision of my life. Best wishes for great health and happiness.
— Donna F.
September 1, 2005
You sound normal to me! I felt the same way..I was afraid to eat or drink
anything from the start. After a while though you realize your limits etc
and the weight melts off. The brain is the biggest obstacle in this life
changing event. It takes a while for the brain to kick in and realize 'hey
this works!'. Enjoy the journey and best of luck!
Lisa
6/24/03 Lost 135lbs.
— Lisa D
September 2, 2005
You are very normal. I am 2yrs post op & at first I felt the same way.
Just relax & follow your doctors orders & make sure you get your
walking in & before you know it a year will have gone by & you'll
be supprised how much you have lost.
— Cindy W.
September 2, 2005
RElax, Dan, we all feel that way! I couldnever lose weight no matter how
long I exercised or how rigorously I dieted. I am about nine months
post-op and have lost 125 pounds! Just follow your doctor's orders,
exercise, and drink your water and yucky protein supplements!
— Novashannon
September 3, 2005
Hi Dan -
Being a recent post OP like you- surgery was 8/15, I can say I understand
how you feel - I was calm etc and have been a good patient, doing
everything they told me to do, down to the 3xmeals daily and the 3x shakes
a day. (this is the exception-I get in 2x shakes at 50+ gms daily) but to
my surprise- I have lost 23 lbs as of TODAY! More surprising to me is how
much effort I have not put into it- as I have in the past- like working out
at the gym 4x week etc..so give your body time to adjust to the surgery-
keep walking everyday, and you will see the difference!
WELCOME to the OTHER SIDE! I am happy for you!!
hugs, Donna
— nybabe
September 5, 2005
Dan you are having the same or similar fears as each and everyone one of us
WLS patients. I had my surgery 5/10/04 and although I was not a real heavy
weight pre-op, I WAS morbitly obsese. I have lost about 85, I go from 5-10
weight gain, but I do know what it takes to get rid of the extra weight. I
have that same fear that I may gain it back like most of us do, but I am
going to do my best to keep it off forever! I know this surgery was just a
tool, nothing more nothing less, and I am going to use it to the best of my
ability. Good luck to you Dan.
Hettie Ford
— mypookface
September 9, 2005
Dan, yes your normal :) Im 3 years post op but I remember thinking I was
gonna die cuz I couldnt eat anything. As time goes on you will be able to
tolerate different foods and larger portions. Ive lost 130 lbs and kept it
off. I eat like I did before the surgery, only a little less and I try to
avoid fatty or sugary foods and I never drink with my meals. I would say I
felt normal again after about 7-8 months, meaning I could drink normally,
swallow pills normally. So it does get easier as time goes on. Hang in
there.
— KissBabe
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