Question:
I need some encouragement.

I had my surgery RNY on Feb. 5th. I started out losing great. I was losing 4 lbs. a week like clockwork. Now since the middle of May I have only lost 6lbs. I am getting so discouraged. I have another 50 to go and it sounds hopeless now. I am exercising and drinking water. Trying to eat right. Protein for breakfast, chef salad for lunch and at supper I eat a little of what everyone else is eating minus white carb's. Has anyone else done this and then all of a sudden the weight started going again? I am scared cause I can feel that old feeling coming back. The feeling of what the heck I may as well eat. I started out at 255 and I am at 195 now. I know this is great but when I think of how much I have to go yet I get scared. Please help me. Thanks in advance.    — Kim N. (posted on June 4, 2003)

June 3, 2003
I am in the same boat..only worse. I had my RnY on Dec 18 and am only down 65 pounds. I would appreciate any answers on this question as well!
   — fieryfish

June 3, 2003
I am in the same boat..only worse. I had my RnY on Dec 18 and am only down 65 pounds. I would appreciate any answers on this question as well!
   — fieryfish

June 4, 2003
the day of surgery I was 257 (jan 9th) I am now 195 I get discourged at times too. I had lost 27 lbs the 1st month than nothing for 7 weeks, I was freaking out but I have started to lose again. not as fast as Id like to. I read peoples questions on here all the time. two things I thought of when I read your question. plateau? and also I hear people that weighted what we weighed in the start seem to lose slower. others call us light weights I suggest you just try hard not to get too frustrated, have patients. it sounds like your doing the right things. with the water exercise and eating good. hang in there good luck. my thought are with you. Im a bit frustrated too.
   — Joan W.

June 4, 2003
i too am not losing any and i had open rny may 9th 2002 and a revision due to staple line disrution on feb 13th 2003 i posted a question yesturday intitled should i do it again if you would like to read it and give any answers. at least we know we are not alone.
   — chrissy T.

June 4, 2003
On the day of my surgery 12/18/02 i was 250, today i dont know what i weigh because i swore myself off the scale until june 9th my next doctors appointment..i wasnt losing for four weeks and it was killing me...but i can say that i fit into a size 34 waist jeans for the first time since i was like 17...i exercise 5-6 days a week and my body has changed so much that i dont care what the scale says!!! 32 waist here i come!!!!! alex
   — Alexandria D.

June 4, 2003
EVERYONE IS NOT GOING TO LOSS WTS ON THE SAME LEVER. THIS IS WHAT MAKE EACH ONE OF US TOTALLY DIFFERENT. THE DOCTOR'S DO'NT REALLY KNOW WHY. BUT IF YOU DO EVERYTHING WITHIN YOUR POWER NOT TO COMPARE YOUR LOST TO OTHER'S AND REMEMBER THE POUCH RULES YOU CAN BEAT THIS DEMON CALL OBESITY.
   — ALABAMA

June 4, 2003
hng in there everyone is indeed different, oyur loss will nt the same assomeones elses, so do not compare them!! ;o) i know it is hard, i undferstand what oyu mean about the hopeless ness of loosing the rest i have 170 pounds yet to loose, i have lost 80 and it gets harder each day, not easier, my head still wants ot eat and i am hungry, honestly hungry all the time. it sucks, but boy do i feel so much better now i have to keep telling myself that!
   — janetc00

June 4, 2003
You have lost 60 pounds in four months. That's pretty darned good, especially for a so-called "lightweight." If your body is taking a breather on the break-neck losing pace, that's probably what it needs, and if health really IS the objective here, listening to your body's needs is important.<P>I understand the "may as well eat" feeling very well from other blown diets, *but* you should seize this opportunity to ask yourself how you're going to handle that feeling differently THIS TIME. Because you'll have other frustrations along the way, as you know, regardless whether your weight loss picks up to the old, fast pace (which it isn't likely to do). If the surgery is going to work, ALL old self-defeating habits have to go away. That's the really hard part.<P>Try to set yourself some goals that aren't completely scale-related. Try more challenging exercise. Try tracking exactly how your calories, protein grams, and carb grams are doing, on a daily basis, on fitday.com, and see if it helps to "tweak" things a little bit here and there (and see if it helps your loss). Try a protein shake. Try measuring your losses in terms of inches lost instead of on the scale (and relate that to your exercise, so you'll connect the two in terms of results). Just do anything you can to break your mind out of the doomsday mentality of "I didn't eat much yesterday, but the scale still says I'm fat, so the heck with it." *That's* the big challenge.
   — Suzy C.

June 4, 2003
Kim, you and I had surgery almost exactly a year apart and started out within 6 pounds of each other. Go to the bottom of my profile to see my weight loss month by month. Getting discouraged is not the thing to do right now-erase that word from your vocabulary, you will have slow months and you will have months where you lose more-your a lightweight and will lose slower. I'm now down to 152, yet I know lots of others who started around our weight and by a year out were down to the 130's and 120's. I would suggest eating more often though. You should have 5 or 6 mini meals or 3 meals and 3 snacks so that you are eating something protein based every few hours. Keeps the body fueled and burning those calories!
   — Cindy R.

June 5, 2003
PLEASE don't feel so hopeless. I had my surgery on Feb 18 and have only lost 34 lbs. You have lost almost twice that. Now I am depressed. EVERYONE has lost more than me by 3 months. Be thankful for the progress you have made.
   — Sandy T.

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