Question:
My daughter is six years old. She is my life and I don't want to leave her.
Has anyone ever willed their child to someone other than the other parent before surgery? Is it possible to do? — brokenangel (posted on August 6, 2003)
August 6, 2003
Hi, even before I thought about surgery, my husband and I sat down with our
Lawyer and set up a will with a guardian for my daughter. Yes, it is very
easy and very affordable. There are a few ways to do this. It can be down
by setting up a guardian through a will or through a revocable trust. I
think it is a good idea because it gives you piece of mind ! All the best
to you.
— Karen Renee
August 6, 2003
everybody should have a will when they have children whether or not their
facing surgery shouldn't matter. you would want her taken care of in case
of a car accident or something too. get it done now and no matter what the
future holds you know she'll be where you want her to be...
— candymom64
August 6, 2003
Yes, you can make up a will and leave your wishes for guardianship, but if
you are wanting to leave her to someone other than her father, and he
contests it, it's all up to the judge... I was told it was unlikely my
wishes would be respected if my son's father were to contest custody in the
event something happened to me....(I named my parents his guardians,
followed by my sister and her husband)....I guess it just depends on your
daughter's father, and the judge and the situation, BUT I thought it was
still a very worthwhile thing to do!!! It only cost me $40 through my
current lawyer.
— Kelly B.
August 6, 2003
I just simply filled out a temporary guardianship form that had to be
notarized and made sure it was in the possesion of the person that I wanted
my child to be with just in case something happened.There are timeframes on
the form that you fill in such as "I want "so and so" to
have guardianship of my child from ___to___. I put from the date of my
surgery to indefinately.It's a cheap,simple solution that you can do on
your own.
— jennifer A.
August 7, 2003
Hon, you can "will" your child to anyone you choose. If you do
it in your own handwriting, and sign it, you don't need to have it
notorized, at least in most states. If you do it on the computer, or type
it, you do have to have a notary witness your signature. In most states it
doesn't even require an attorney. Now, rules vary from state to state,
you'd have to make some phone calls to find out for sure the rules where
you live. Also, I know this is a scary surgery, and preparing just in case
is good, but try not to stress too much. The death rate is very very
small. Good luck hon, and blessings on you.
— Tanna M.
August 7, 2003
if your childs father still holds legal rights for her she would go to him.
but...if he has given up all rights to you then you can name who you would
like her to be with.
— franbvan
August 7, 2003
You're young. You're relatively healthy. You're not going to die. Look at
the stats. People who die are 1) severely morbidly obese, 2) old, 3) have
pre-existing conditions that are killing them quickly anyway. I know it's
hard to believe it, but it's true. You go to sleep and a mere 3 hours later
you wake up to a new life. THAT'S the reality.
— sandieguy
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