OT- feel like i have been punched in the gut

ok folks this is waaaay of topic....but i need to vent and am not ready for family and friends just yet.  my husband of 12yrs just walked out on me.  While i was at a baby shower he cleaned his stuff out wiped my computer and left me a "Dear Kiley" letter.  Saying he cannot take care of me anymore.  i had no idea this was coming and am now facing my wls journey alone.......have no idea what comes next. my nerves are raw and i wanna throw up.....thanks for letting me vent

 we may be at opposite ends of the Provence but you are not in this alone! 

Some men just cant handle all the changes and they take cowards way out... they walk...

((((hugs)))) you are not alone... 

I have no words. I can't imagine the hurt you're feeling right now. XO

i am all by myself with my kitties......i'm numb....thats all

My thoughts are with you..hang in there

Sorry to hear this Kiley. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. One day at a time...

Ok - I'm a "silver lining" kinda lady...so that's the first thing I think of in cases like these. 

My surgeon told me before surgery - Strong marriages get stronger after WLS, weak marriages end.  If you're husband has left you now - well even if he didn't, he probably would have as he saw this whole thing through. 

And for me - it'd be better to get rid of the trash sooner - before it starts to stink up the place.  Any man who would be so weak and cowardly as to sneak out and leave you a Dear Kiley letter...wow.  What a jerk.

Here's the good news - soon you'll be thin and sexy and FREE!!  You'll find yourself a wonderful, worthy man and can have a HAPPY and healthy life!!  And in the meantime, you won't have anyone sabatoging your WL efforts by bringing junk into the house, you won't have to cook for someone else while you're on Optifast or liquid diet....

Join up with your local support group for support during your journey.  I have found my spouse (although he is GREAT) just really didn't understand much of the stuff I am going through - my local group has been a greater support through all of this.

I know it's hard now...but hugs.  Things will get better.  When my first marriage ended I was scared and devasted...but things are SO much better in my current marriage (of 13 years now!), that looking back, I'm actually glad it happened when it did.

i think that is why i am so blindsided.  We were doing the WLS together.  And one of the things about him was that he fell in love with and married me a 380lbs.  He has his own issues...i know but i'm having a real hard time hating the man that i thought i would spend the rest of my life with just this morning.  Things weren't great its true.  We are experiencing financial issues as well....but i thought it was a typical marriage bump.  He was my best friend whom i did everything with......i completely see your point Erica....but i am just not there yet

My first marriage ended in a similar "shock" situation.  At the time I thought I had no notice...looking back I can see many things that should have/could have tipped me off if I'd been watching closer....

I think of it like there was a sudden heart attack death of someone you loved.  Blindsided.  But when you get some distance (and get over the grieving part), you can see that the  person gave hints of health problems, etc. etc. It was just something that you think would never happen, or ignored out of fear that thinking about WOULD make it happen etc.

Take your time to go through the grieving process.  You'll come out stronger and better in the end.  Don't forget to keep reaching out for support.

 Hugs