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Having weight loss surgery can be life changing in more than the obvious way. I had the Lap-Band on 12/4/06. While I was on my weight loss journey I found out about Obesity Help with my searches for information on weight loss. When I first joined I was invited to join the Men's forum. I found this to be a great place for me and I felt safer there because it was all guys. During my involvement in the men's forum I started exploring the layout of the whole website and I came across the forum titled "Sex Before and After Weight Loss" and my life changed for what will be forever the better.

I guess it was curiosity at first that had me exploring this forum. However, I found myself coming more and more to read the site. I realized it was more than my curiosity that was being fulfilled by reading the posts. I was actually finding topics of interest to me that were not addressed on any other forum and even more important, I was starting to bond with people on the forum. I would look forward to reading and interacting with many of them. Now I know many people will say that the same thing happened to them on whatever forum they read. But this was different, you see about one year after my weight loss surgery I went through a divorce. So here I am on a forum called "Sex Before And After Weight Loss Surgery" also know as SBAAWLS and I'm now single. Now don't get me wrong, yes, this is the Sex forum and any question you could think of was OK and there were many things discussed and many questions answered that you would be embarrassed to ask on other forums except maybe the Men's forum which was very informative, but here, any question could be answered by either sex.

The people on the Sex forum have created a very strong bond and whenever anyone was going to be in the area, many would try to get together to meet in person. Since there was much interaction and it was the sex board there would be much flirting going on in the posts.

I started flirting in a post with a girl by the name of Dawn. This was harmless flirting because I lived in New Jersey and she lived in Ohio. But we flirted more and more and I finally suggested we talk on the phone instead of typing in the forum. Our telephone calls grew to several hours almost each night and at that point we fell in love.

I suggested we meet in person, and since we're both retired this was a possibility. After about one month of talking on the phone, followed by talks over the web-cam where we could see each other, I decided to make the trip out to Ohio. I went to Ohio on July 25, 2009 and we got along so well that my trip turned out to a five week stay. After getting to know each other better during the five weeks we decided to bring Dawn back east so she could see where I live (she had never been to NY or NJ). We drove back east and I showed Dawn where I grew up and I took her to meet my three sons, my daughter-in-law, and my grandson. I took her to NYC where I took her to see the show "Wicked on Broadway". Dawn was a music teacher for 30 years so she really appreciated this.

I took her to NJ and I introduced her to my Mother and sometime in the middle of all this (and she will confirm this), we both decided to move east and get an apartment together. We don't really remember saying the exact words but we remember deciding to live together. We went furniture shopping and bought a dining room set, a bedroom set and a living room set. We went back to Ohio to sell her house, pack her up and move her to NJ.

Fast forward to Christmas 2011 and I asked Dawn to marry me and I gave her an engagement ring, we set our wedding date for 6/18/11. To show how OH has been a big part of our lives the wedding was practically all OH.

Dawn's matron-of-honor, Kelly, lives in Minnesota and we met her on OH and have met in person many times. In keeping with the OH theme, our officiant Mark, whom we all met on OH, performed the ceremony. And a majority of the people who attended all belong to OH, live locally, and we met through OH. The only member of the wedding not a member of OH is my best man, he was lucky to have been born naturally thin.

All of the people that we have become very good friends with have all met on OH in the Sex Before and After Weight Loss forum. These are the most friendly and supportive people we know.

Joining OH has truly changed our lives for the better. It has also enriched our journey through weight loss with a place to meet new friends and also a place to discuss any items related to weight loss. It seems that the people that succeed the most need this support and a place to go to interact with other bariatric patients. It keeps us motivated and helps each of us on this journey called weight loss.

I just wanted to share with you how OH changed our lives and brought us together. If not for OH, we would never have met.

Dan and Dawn met on the ObesityHelp "Sex Before and After Weight Loss Forum". Click here to visit the forum. Share your comments below!

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