Divorce rate after weight loss surgery--75% is this true???
Communication is obviously one of the most important things in a relationship, and I really think that after WLS it's even more so -
I personally believe the decision needs to be one you make for you, and solely for you and your health /future/ happiness.
Being thinner may give you more confidence, more energy and a better wardrobe - but (and this is not directed at you, cause I don't even know you) - if you're an asshat before surgery, you're going to be an asshat after surgery. (And if your spouse is an asshat before surgery, you're less likely to put up with him once you've regained your confidence, energy and wardrobe.)
Nikki the Pirate Queen
In my personal case, I don't think it will be an issue--I think the things that we have trouble with will hopefully improve with my weightloss (like my not being able to do things with the family because of my size). My hope is that I don't resent him for the years that he has tried to "help" me, but I try to keep in perspective that I am the mother of his children and he wants and needs me here and healthy, although he is a bit thick when it comes to understanding that he can't "help" me at all. One thing I know would be a deal breaker is if his "help" were to continue as I have more and more success with weightloss. I worry that he may think, "hmmm, if I don't continue to "help" she may gain it back." Like I said, all we can do is pray that the surgery brings about the positive changes we hope it does.
Best to everyone and so sorry to hear of those that have had a split up. It is always hard to face the end of a relationship.
Denise
I'm curious to know why the responses seem to be a resounding yes that if there are problems in the marriage before the surgery that it will just get worse and that the surgery complicates the problems in the marriage. This worries me a little. My husband and I don't have a very strong relationship and both of us have contemplated leaving at different times in the past. We've also gone through counseling. (Well I have, my husband refused to go saying he doesn't need to tell his problems to anyone) My surgery is scheduled for October 24th. I'm wondering what it is about bariatric surgery that is the tipping point for divorce. It seems like surgery would be a positive.