Feeling scared about aging after weight loss surgery

At the ripe old of age of nearly 50, I just hiked a mountain, and I am four years out from surgery.  Take that, aging!  At least I will live long enough now to age.

Tell her that unless she can personally name these "failures" and introduce you to them, she is talking out of her ass and a real friend would be supportive of your journey, not negative. 

As for real failures, they fail because they do not follow the rules and/or eat around their tool.  RNY is a tool, not a cure.  Follow the rules and ask lots of questions on this board, and you will do fine.

Audrey