OT - family
He texted me last week and asked me to send him a picture, since I've only seen him a handful
of times since surgery. I texted back and said I'd do one better and drop by Sunday morning.
He said that sounded good. Sunday morning came and DH and I drove down to his house.
(he is about 15 mins south of me) As we are pulling into his subdivision, I see my sister-n-law
and nieces driving out of the sub. I didn't really care since I was going to see him, not them.
I get to his house and he's nowhere to be found. I text my niece and asked where her dad was.
She replied stating that he was called into work.
I was kind of irritated by this because it only takes a moment to text me and say that you won't
be home. I felt it was very thoughtless and inconsiderate. So, the rest of the day I was in a funk.
DH tells me that he noticed SIL's truck had a tail light out, so I texted her to tell her in hopes she
would avoid a ticket. I didn't hear back from her.....which is annoying. It's not like she works or
does anything other than lay out all day like the princess she thinks she is while my brother works 50-60 hours a week in a freaking sweat shop. (yes....I am angry) She is so freaking self-absorbed it makes me want to puke. She'll call only when she needs something from me &
when it's convenient for her.
Anyhow, my eldest niece texted me last night and asked if my husband could come fix her
bedroom door. I asked what happened. She tells me that her mom and her 16 y/o sister
broke her bedroom door off the frame trying to break in. I asked her why they were breaking in.
She said "because they wanted to use stuff that didn't belong to them."
I'm beyond annoyed now. Not only is my SIL reverting back to her teenage years, but she's
teaching my younger niece that it's ok to break into people's rooms when you need to. Nice
teaching her to be white trash!
So, I'm in a bind. DH fixes stuff around their house all the time for free....but I feel like he
shouldn't do this.....or at least not for free....because these dumb azzez busted it on purpose.
And....installing doors are not the easiest thing to do. I feel bad for my eldest niece because
at 25 I'm sure she wants her privacy, but at the same time why should my husband spend
half a day fixing something my stupid SIL broke for no good reason??
I feel like texting my SIL and telling her she will have to pay DH to fix the door....then again, she
doesn't work so it would just be my brother's money she's spending. Maybe she and my
youngest niece should come work at my house to pay him back?
What should I do??
off the frame
on 7/25/12 4:33 am
When you see family getting harmed or used, it's hard to stay out of it because family is family, right? You want to help. I sympathize.
She is still at home because she's finishing up her nursing program at MSU and works p/t. I
don't think she wants to be there, but she has to because school is so time consuming that
it doesn't allow her a ton of time to work.
However, you are right. We are ALWAYS the ones to bail my SIL out. I think what's annoying
is that she lives in her own little world with no regard to others. She calls when she needs
something and that's it. She's even called me to borrow money and prefaces it with "don't
tell your brother"....because she over-spent and knows he would be LIVID.
Did I mention I am 10 years younger than them??? I'm 35.
I have something similar going on with my BIL still living at home at 26, but I have to remind myself that everyone involved is an adult, and they have to make their own choices about what they are willing to deal with.
I would not make any suggestion of payment or anyone working it off. If your DH is willing, he can fix the door. If not, they will have to find another way.
For my sanity, I stay out of stuff as much as I can, and I recommend the same for you. I also have a princessy almost SIL and I'd like to snatch the smug beeyotch bald. But that won't really solve anything, so I try to avoid her like the plague.
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