Opinions?

I finally scheduled surgery.  I'm going in May 20th for surgery and I need to take time off from work.  I feel like I don't want to tell them why I am taking off because I don't feel like hearing any "negative nelly" stuff.

I know they will ask because that's how it is.  Any suggestions on how to handle it?  

You could tell them you're having abdominal surgery. . . or you could tell them it's for "female problems" and leave it at that.

Most employers are pretty savvy about medical issues and privacy.  I told my boss I was having surgery and when I expected to be back.  She did not ask any questions and I didn't volunteer.  I was prepared if she had asked to say it's personal and I didn't wish to discuss.  Now of course, I am back at work and I think it is pretty obvious and will continue to be more obvious. Your eating habits and the weekly (daily) weight loss.

 

i was like you, the only reason I did not tell people is I didn't want to hear the horror stories.

Yes!  Thank you.  I merely mentioned it to one of my coworkers and wa**** with a number of negative ****rue) statements about WLS.  I'm prepared to deal with it after the fact.  

I agree...abdominal surgery or surgery on your intestines. Both are true. Even the pushy ones need to be satisfied with that. You shouldn't feel pressured into saying any more.

Say you are having surgery.  If they ask what kind, just say "It's personal, I'm not comfortable discussing it.  Thanks for understanding."

Congrats! Good Luck!

As for the nosey co-workers and negative peeps, its none of their business what you are having. You will always have to deal with those at every work place. Since my insurance required me to have 6 months documentation, i decided to tell my boss what i was having. Since i would have to take time off every month and then also at the end i would need to see more Dr's. I didnt mentioned it to anyone but some family members until like a month before my surgery. by that time i was beyond happy that my insurance approved the surgery that i didnt care what anyone said. if they did say something, i would just tell them to stop hatin and stop being jealous cuz it made them look even uglier. lol...

ironically, it worked. they were embarrassed that i stood up to them and didnt care. lol...

Good Luck and keep us posted!

Mary Escalona

gall bladder surgery is a good one, it's what I used.  It's done laparoscopically also and you have to change your eating habits afterward cause your body doesn't process fat as well without a gall bladder so it explains the weight loss too

IMO don't lie and say it's something else. Just tell them you are needing time off for a medical procedure. They don't have to know why nor can they force you to disclose your medical history.

I'm with Dana, unless you are happy being known as a bare faced liar, just don't give any information other than "medical procedure". 

I believe you teach people how to treat you, so don't be afraid to shut down a conversation you don't want to have.   Just a "wow, that's a bit personal!" will often shut up someone being nosey.   You really don't owe ANYONE information you are not willing to give, but I don't think that a lie about something that will be so obvious in 6-12 months is a good way to go!