Hate is a pretty strong word

BariBariHappy
on 10/24/11 5:30 am - MI
 Most excellent response!!! This person needs to get some Post -Op Therapy! There is no reason to be this down in the dumps....I say the same thing! Perhaps the Psych Evaluation should have caught that this person wasn't ready for change!

Shake it off and get started enjoying your new life. 
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(deactivated member)
on 10/24/11 6:00 am
I'm all for tough love, I use it on my kids regularly, poor things LOL.

I agree if this line of thought continues much longer a therapist is in order. I was thinking this is pretty early out and a range of emotions is totally normal.

Now not to start a "I sucked it up better than you" war (but I'm gonna anyway just for fun) - "I was getting lasik eye surgery 1 week post op and the pain from that was actually worse!!".

Ha ha well I'm accused of having a sick sense of humor but that's actually true. I did have lasik 9 days post. Had to chop up my valium in some broth at the surgery center LMAO. The ladies thought I'd lost my mind
RHCP
on 10/24/11 5:25 am - Poughkeepsie, NY
My second night at the hospital walking at 3 am after a horrific day I broke down and cried in the hallway-by myself- WHAT THE FU*K DID I DO TO MYSELF!!!! It was HORRIBLE.

And every day little by little I felt better- and the weight started coming off- and I was off the HBP meds, and I had energy, and I could eat more and I could tolerate more and WHAMOO I am 90lbs lighter and LIFE IS AMAZING!!!!

IT GET'S BETTER- WE PROMISE!! As each day comes remember the hardest ones are behind you- you climbed the MT and your in that little hover of the hill and before you know it your gonna be flying!! HOLD ON!! It's a CRAZY ass ride! :) Your gonna love it!

                
momsy55
on 10/24/11 6:13 am - ME
Have you felt this way all of the time since surgery or just now?  I had a meltdown about 8 or 9 days after surgery when I kept crying and screaming "what did I do to myself".  Thankfully, that was the toughest time I've had post-op.  It's been 9 weeks today and I can say my life is changing for the better.  I'm down 66 lbs. and: I have more energy; I fit in places I couldn't fit before; I have more options for clothes; I am taking a dance class and exercising, where I couldn't before; sex is easier and nicer; I can cross my legs again; my husband and kids are happy that mom is shrinking; and best of all, I have hope that I will live to see my kids grow up and that, at 56 I will not die soon of diabetes, hypertension, etc.  I feel your pain, but it really does get better and does so farily soon.  Hang in there and keep reading posts here.  The other advice folks have given around calling your dr. if you can't drink anything and are still in pain, and maybe talking to someone about your feelings, is sound advice.  Good luck to you!!!


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gonersmom
on 10/24/11 6:25 am
Amen to all the 'tough lovers' out there. Sometimes that is exactly what someone needs to hear.

Life wasn't pleasant for most of us pre-surgery or we wouldn't have had VSG. However, the first few weeks of being uncomfortable is nothing compared to the years we've spent in the pains of obesity. Nor is it comparable to what our lives would be like in the future with all the complications due to the obesity if we didn't have surgery.

Accept this is done, and make choices to really rock your sleeve. I spent the greater part of today, my only day off in several weeks on my hands and knees scrubbing floors....something I haven't done in years. I definitely couldn't have done this without this tool.

Try to think about all the things you'll be able to do soon. The first time you can do your own pedicure you will be beaming!!
       
   

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slimpickins5280
on 10/24/11 7:05 am - CO
I hit my "low" day yesterday and I allowed myself to have it. I just let some Doctor cut out most of my stomach. Did I really do this to myself? Holy crap!

Here's the thing. I don't know how much time you spent on diets and crazy exercise routines. Maybe you didn't spend enough time doing those things so truly appreciate how much they effing sucked and never worked. Maybe you didn't spend enough time praying that you wouldn't have to ask fo an extender for the seat belt on an airplane. Maybe you haven't spent enough time wedging yourself into a rollercoaster ride and praying you wouldn't need help to get out, or asked to get off because you're too fat.

Take your one crappy "I hate the world day" and then LET IT GO.

I WISH I would have been smart enough to do this in my 30's. Instead, I spent another decade killing myself with stupid diets.

Starting a new way of life can be hard on people who don't like change.

I guess my only other question, which I'm sure you won't answer because it doesn't go along with the whole "I hate the world" theme is - how much weight have you lost? Umhmmmm.....

I'm only 6 days out and I've lost 9 Lbs - so I'm quessing you've lost more. What part of that sucks exactly?

I agree with the tough lovers. Seek therapy and get to a good place with this.

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton





 


 

blakereimert
on 10/24/11 8:05 am - TX
I am 4 months out now.and I have lost 75 lbs. I have my life back and couldn't be happier. I had significant complications from my surgery. They accidentally nicked my liver causing me to bleed out. I suffered an extreme case of hypovolemia and was transfused twice. Then I developed a hematoma the size of a grapefruit on my liver, causing my diaphragm not to function properly, therefore I couldn't breath. This lasted into the third week. Even with all of that, I am so happy with the decision I made. You need to seek counseling. My therapist help me through the feelings and to get past the emotions tied into the complications. I had a lot of guilt. I almost died, and for what? to be thin?? This is how I looked at it and I felt shame and regret. I believed I suffered from mild PTSD. But I am happy to report that a little over 4 months out, I wouldn't go back and change a thing. God doesn't give us more than we can handle. A cliche, maybe, but truth.
It does get better!! In a few short months you will be happy again!! Hang in there.
        
BethR311
on 10/24/11 8:20 am - Fort Wayne, IN
I had a bad time too, about six or seven days out. There's a thread about it waaay down the list. For me, the absence of any "normal," old or new, was the worst. I went back to work ten days early and that helped a lot. I've gotten back to the gym. I'm building my new "normal," gradually. I still have a long way to go, but I'm on my way.

Please do not suffer this in silence! Does your surgeon have any counselors on staff? Let them know you're in crisis! No one can help you unless you let them know you need it!

Hang in there. I wish I had the 20 years ahead of me that you do.
        



    
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