Help...is this normal?

Jennifer E.
on 3/11/13 11:30 am - OH

I have my date of surgery scheduled for April 16....in my opinion a long time away. The more days go by the more I want this but also the more I doubt myself. I know without this is what I need despite how drastic it is.  But I can't help but think of every effort I have made and every failure. I can't afford to fail at this. I can do this but I am having a hard time convincing myself.  The days of waiting just give me more time to second guess my will power and self confidence. I will not back out of this! I will not sabotage this process but I am so scared of myself. Please tell me I am not the only one who is scared to death of myself!

~Jennifer~ HW 326  CW 277 VSG 4/16/13 

    

grannymedic1
on 3/11/13 11:40 am - Lake Odessa, MI
Revision on 08/21/12

Oh my go**** is so normal that it is practically mandatory! Nearly everyone does just the same. I can only suggest that you keep yourself busy (I had to paint my kitchen and clean the whole house), try to get some extra exercise in, learn even more what it takes to be a success, and what it takes to fail. That is a lesson I learned and have been glad for it.

Good luck, Sue

                    

Highest weight: 212.8 Current weight 135 Lost 77.8 pounds

    

MuttLover
on 3/11/13 11:40 am
VSG on 11/14/12

You are not alone!  I think most of us had similar fears.  I made a list of why I wanted VSG, and every time I started to get nervous, I'd go over the list!  That helped me.  I'm sure others will share their coping tips as well!

 

  

Starting weight: 260; Surgery Weight: 250; Month 1: -15.6; Month 2: -11.8; Month 3: -11.4;  Month 4: -7.4  Month 5: -8.6; Month 6: -3; Month 7 -3.8; Month 8 -7; Month 9: stall; Month 10: -4.4; Month 11: - 2.6; Month 12:-3.4

Calking
on 3/11/13 11:41 am
VSG on 05/31/12

I have posted this message or something very similar many times over.  I want to say this to you now as I think it is important for you to think about this ... as you said you really can't afford to fail at this ... with that in mind you will be successful.

 

Aren't you more afraid not to have surgery?  Being obese will kill you.  Your life being obese is greatly diminished and it is a slow death.  Getting surgery fixes so many health issues.  There is no way to know what you will need or not need post op in the way of meds.  There is tons of evidence of numerous bad health issues if you don't have the surgery.

By the way this is the same speech I have given several times before about all the negatives of not having the surgery should be way scarier than what may or may not happen with the surgery.  This is usually written in response to the thousands of post that are placed a day or two prior to surgery when people start to second guess their choices and research.  You will see these posts and they are usually written saying something like excited and nervous ... is this normal?  Yep.  Normal.  I don't get the nervous part.  I was way more nervous about doing nothing and slowly killing myself and all of the poor health associated with obesity.

There is no choice here ... have the surgery.  

 

Isn’t it a bit unnerving that doctors call what they do their “practice”?  -  George Carlin             

 

kenwilliams
on 3/11/13 11:46 am

It's ABSOLUTELY normal.  I can't tell you how many entries like yours I have read in this forum.  I can also testify that if it isn't normal, I'm the most abnormal man on earth .  We all have our doubts.  I'm six weeks post op and I still have my moments of doubt.  No words here can totally erase the doubts. Just keep reading all that you can here.  I found it helpful to focus more on the reasons why I was having the surgery.  

God be with you on your journey.

    

Treetracer
on 3/11/13 11:46 am

What you're feeling is normal...but as you know this will not be an effort, it will be a permanent physical change, how you deal with it mentally is up to you.  You have a great opportunity to get your head in the game mentally before surgery by acting like you *already* had surgery.  Eat like you've already been sleeved:  protein first, 2-3 oz., chew chew chew (then chew some more), no drinking with meals etc.  Build the habits now so they are easier to do after surgery.

Are you going to be perfect?  Nah, no one is perfect. =)  So recognize that while you may make choices that aren't best for you (OMG why did I eat that twinkie, the sugar dump!) that does NOT keep you from moving forward with positive choices that nourish and sustain your body.

I've lost 75 pounds with the sleeve and I still struggle with cravings, but you know what?  I struggle 75 pounds lighter and a rocking bod!  You can do this hon! *hugs* 


MisVee
on 3/11/13 11:50 am
VSG on 04/22/13
Hi, you mirrored my thoughts to the T! I too have waited along time, VSG scheduled for 4/22/13 and I am so excited and scared to of failing. I refuse to believe I will fail this extreme intervention..... We will succeed, and will join those already on the losers bench.

 

            

aline728
on 3/11/13 11:58 am

Wow, this is what I needed because I am  having my surgery May 28, and really didnt realize I was feeling this deep inside. I found it very helpful to read the post, and I just stumble on this site. Well maybe not, it was for me to see this site. Thank you for being here.

Yocie
on 3/11/13 12:59 pm
VSG on 11/06/12

I think if someone didn't have these fears before going into this, there would be a problem. The excitement and fear combo is a completely normal part of the process. I wish you the best.

    

    
sarapilar
on 3/11/13 1:36 pm, edited 3/11/13 1:37 pm
VSG on 02/21/13

I'm 2 weeks post op and I feel like this is so worth it, but it takes a lot of work.  I have to fight my compulsive side to want to overeat and self-sabotage (which, sadly, I have done in the past week - it was ugly).  I am seeking lots and lots of help (coaches, therapists, etc.).  In one of my bariatric support groups they say 10% is the Sleeve, 90% is me and my willingness = the formula for Success.  But it is amazing that I used to eat 3,500 calories a day and not exercise and today I am eating about 600 - 700 calories a day, super low carb and walking about 30 minutes a day and drinking 80 - 100oz of water. I would do this surgery again in a heartbeat.

"The most difficult part of changing how you live and eat is believing that change is possible. It takes a fierce kind of love for yourself."Geneen Roth
    
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