Relationship Issues with My Husband after wls

My husband did have some issues with jealousy but nothing to this extent..He felt that he wasn't good enough or that I wanted to find someone *better* than him..He eventually sought therapy and only needed one session to find out that his mind set was in error..I hope you get what you want. I know it's a hard thing for your spouse to change or keep up with what has happened to us after surgery. I had to constantly remind him that I love him..I still do but it's been worth it. After 24 years we're more in love than we've ever been..

Good luck to you.

 Hu Dawn,

Unfortunately, I don't think that therapy will help him if he's truly diagnosed as someone with narcessitic tendencies.  I have done a lot of research on people who are narcisstic.  The biggest obstacle will be getting my husband to admitting that he has this problem as these kind of people rarely admit that they have a problem as they believe that their "false self" is perfect  in every way.  As I stated in my original post, I'm going to give him a chance with the bariatric therapist that I went to in hopes that she's treated spouses of wls patients who have this condition.
In the mean time, I've been living with my twin sister in CA (I'm from TX).  
I will post again after my husband and I have tried the counseling.

Thanks for your support.

Jan

If he's been diagnosed, that's truly sad..There is always hope but both sides have to want to try.

Some men can't handle having a "normal" wife. In addition to other issues, I found that when I lost weight my ex-husband became condescending to me and generally I truly believe it was because of my weight loss. He'd always been with larger women and through talking with him I came to believe that with a larger woman they aren't as insecure because no one will "want" them so they' feel better about themselves. That's his issue, not yours. I don't condone just leaving a marriage without effort and it looks as if you're doing that. Then again, you shouldn't have to be in physical fear of him either. You look at your heart and it will lead you in the right direction.

I don't believe I was clear a moment ago. I said I don't condone just leaving a marriage without effort and it looks as if you're doing that. What should've been stated is that I don't condone just leaving a marriage (as your therapist suggested) without effort and it looks as if you're doing that (giving it effort, not leaving without effort).