My Balance

Jun 03, 2010

I have been preaching to my family and friends for years about this "proverbial breaking point" that every human has, and will hit when a certain situation(s) that they are faced with overwhelms them to the point of breaking.  

This breaking point comes when the person can not emotionally, physically, mentally handle anymore, and they snap....They make a change that NO FORCE on this Earth or within the Universe can stop them from making whether it be a change/choice.  It's that point of no return, no going back, action has to happen now.  I have always thought that it had to do with a survival instinct that we humans have within us, somewhere.  I believe it to this day.  

I think so many of us go through many of these proverbial breaking points...many of us went through this with the decision to have WLS.  There isn't a force that was going to keep me from the goal to be healthy, whatever it took, I was going to do.  

There have been mutliple discussions recently on the boards regarding the after years of WLS...what happens after the honeymoon is over.  Undoubtably, some stay on the path of being extremely regimented in their plans/routines, some follow the guidelines and follow the "basics" while sometimes coloring outside the lines, and some do fall backwards, in a constant struggle to get back up again.

With a mix of all three scenarios, you find success in Each one, yes.  So to me, if one finds their balance....and Everyone is going to be different, isn't that success?  To be able to live a full, happy and healthy life, knowing limitations, knowing what you can and can't do, experimenting, satisfying desire, but in a healthy, balanced way....that to me is success. 

EVERYONE post-op has that one experience of sitting among a group (usually at holiday time) tortured with options of what to eat, what not to eat, what's "bad", what's "acceptable".... and many times we will face judgement from others about what we choose to put into our mouths, and nobody judges us the more than we judge ourselves, that's one lesson I've overplayed..beating myself up way too much.

BALANCE:  I am a huge advocate of balance.  Finding that balance.  Most of us are food addicts, emotional eaters, or have other issues that affect our weight andmetabolisms.  It's such an "complex set of variables" and a Very sensitive issue.   We have to have the one thing that has come close to ending our lives early....  so we must find our balances.  

Some are able to eat sugars, some are not, some can handle protein shakes, some can not.  Some can eat meat, some can not.  Some can handle stopping when full, some can not.  Some drink with their meals and find success....others, can not.  There are THOUSANDS of us trying to find our balance.  We will never all fit into a Cookie Cutter Mold, no matter what medical discovery is invented.  

Within finding balance, comes hardships.  There is NO manual to tell you how to handle a devastating injury or degenerative disease, most of us are not prepared for those obstacles, especially after finding success.

I'm touched to read the stories of my fellow veterans who have succeeded like myself, but have found a physical/medical struggle in their pathway that took them completely by surprise.  This includes myself.  But this doesn't mean we are failures, this doesn't mean we are less that human, or not worthy of being called a Success. 

I am inspired by those who have been met with those obstacles of life that are struggling, because it means we are human beings.  I am human.  I'm proud of where I am, I'm proud of what I have been through and continue to go through.  I'm proud of my fellow veterans that are fighting too, through all the criticisms, judgements, etc.  

Our journeys continue.....for that search for balance. :)

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