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Dr. Forbes is an awesome Dr. She tells you how it's going to be, and demands that you follow instruction. Dr. Forbes wants to make sure that you are going to be compliant as a pre op as well as post op. I have had many instances of having to call her, and she has met me every single time with a smile and a warm comment. Dr. Forbes and Dr. Posner are strict on people doing the South Beach diet and exercise program they set out for you during your consult. If you plan on being non compliant in the begining, be prepared to have a long wait. This diet and exercise regimine is crucial for you to meet and exceed your weightloss goals...and thiers.
She was with me through every complication that I had making sure that I was ok. She is almost like a mother hen when things don't go right, but I truly appreciate her for that. She is very knowledgable at her craft, and is caring. I was very happy with all of my medical treatment. And was very happy that she did not hesitate to call on Dr. posner when she wasn't sure about something. I give her an A plus for all her efforts.There are no amount of words that I can say to you to thank you for giving me back a life where I am part of it and not sitting on the sidelines watching it go by. Thanks Dr. Forbes for making this possible for me. May God watch over those hands of yours as you give this wonderful gift to others.

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Can anyone tell me why?
on June 21, 2009 11:32 am

Ok, this is a rant post so if you can't deal with the topic stop reading now and move on.  What I am asking about is coming from a black womans point of view....but i'm not saying that anyone from other races don't deal with this.  So here goes.

Why is it that black men think they are complimenting you when they tell you that....you looking a little thick in those jeans....your azz is fat (F-A-T not P-H-A-T) or my personal favorite....you gettin' a little healthy and fillin' out those clothes.  What the hell? 

For years, I have fought with my weight...and just as I FINALLY get comfortable in my own skin I get some azzhole telling me i'm getting fat.  What the hell?  Why can't they just say you look nice? why not just say those jeans look nice.  But no, I have to be reminded that i'm fat.  because instantly I begin to scrutinize my weight and how i look.  I question everything about me yet again.

In my head, I know it's a compliment.  But in my dark side of my mind I am back to the fat woman I was before my WLS.  I get so tired of jumping through that hoop.  Wondering if I will ever totally feel like a human being....without all the doubts and second guesses. 

Men need to realize how the power of thier words affect us....but I doubt they ever will.  Will this vicious cycle EVER end?  I finally told that guy to stop saying anything to me because he was only making my struggle with my weight even worse.  He apologized....tried to explain....but the damage was already done and I told him I didn't want to hear it.

I am so tired....emotionally i'm drained.  This journey is a rough one.  It's almost been 4 years since my surgery and I just don't see where it has helped me.  Yes it has gotten rid of the health issues and made my body change....but it has made me a basket case....never feeling normal for any long periods of time.  Just when I feel a little secure....someone says something to send me back into the abiss.  Can anyone relate to what i'm talking about?  Guess i've gotten this rant out of my system...thanks for listening.  Talk to you soon.

M

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And the Verdict is......
on July 23, 2008 5:57 pm
Well....talk about a deep subject...lol.  I finally got all  the dental work I needed to have done.  I am in the final  leg of that journey...having everything put in on Aug. 1...YAY.  I am so glad that I did this.  I feel and look so much better than I have in many years.  The mouth  looks great even with all the temp stuff in place.  I just hate that my dentist is leaving to  go  to Texas.  Just when I thought that it was safe to go back to the dentist....I get to find a new one.  But at least this time around all the major work is completed. I will have 3 bridges, 2 crowns and a partial plate for the bottom for the back teeth.  But even now the mouth looks awesome with the temps in...I could totally live with it. 

On a totally other note....I FINALLY got approved for my disability (ssdi).  My case went before the ALJ for review and he approved it based on the facts in my file.  I just can't believe that it took them 28 months to tell me that "hey, you are legally blind".  I have been telling them that all along.  So I guess I will wait for the letter from my local Social Security office for all of the details.  That in and of itself is truly a blessing.  I have been fighting so long for this that I can finally take a deep breath.  I just wanted to give you all a breif update.  So take care for now....will write more soon.

M
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50 things to do instead of snacking...

Imagine the new healthier you
2. Walk around the block
3. Call a friend
4. Make a list of your Top Ten Reasons to Lose Weight
5. Make a To Do list
6. Turn on music and dance
7. Jot a thank you note to someone
8. Go to bed early or take a nap
9. Read a book
10. Blog or journal
11. Give yourself a manicure or pedicure
12. Plan a healthy meal for your family
13. Surf the Internet
14. Finish an unfinished project
15. Walk your dog, pet your cat, feed your fish
16. Brush your teeth
17. Balance your checkbook
18. Say a prayer
19. Chop veggies to keep on hand
20. Give a massage
21. Clean out a junk drawer
22. Play a game with your kids
23. Try a new route on your walk
24. Drink a glass of water
25. Kiss someone
26. Try on some of your clothes
27. Look at old pictures
28. Rent a video
29. Wash your car
30. Take a hot, soothing bath
31. Update your calendar
32. Work in your yard
33. Start your holiday shopping list
34. Count your blessings
35. Write a letter
36. Fold some laundry
37. Check your e-mail
38. Give your dog a bath
39. Send a birthday card
40. Meditate
41. Hug someone
42. Rearrange some furniture
43. Light a fire or some candles
44. Put your pictures in an album
45. Plan a trip (real or imaginary)
46. Straighten a closet
47. Clean out a files
48. Visit a friend
49. Clean out your trunk
50. Do something nice for someone