Planning for my Surgiversary

Apr 05, 2011

My 9 month surgiversary is coming up, but I am already thinking ahead to my 1 year (July 19th).

I want a pic in a bikini, definately.

But I want to do something really special for my before and after pictures... As many of you know, I got married at my heaviest weight. What many people don't know is I couldn't find the dress I really wanted in my size in the right color. I loved my dress, really I did, and so did my husband. He loved it so much he nearly fainted at the alter when he saw me (in a good way). But it wasn't the one I wanted. Even so, my dress kicked butt, and it's the ONLY thing I have left in a size 20 (heaviest size) so it's my before. 

For my 1 year wedding anniversary, I put the dress on again, it was 2 and a half months post op, and I swam in it. I had some pictures taken for the fun of it, which brings me to my plan...

I want to put it on again for my surgiversary, get some pictures done in it. Then I want to go to David's Bridal and try on the dress in whatever size I wear in July and have pictures done in that as well. Those will be my before and afters

But it doesn't end there.

I feel I made poor choices in some of my bridesmaids. I did everything for my wedding on my own or with the help of my husband. Mom helped a little but she whined a lot on how stressful it was FOR HER. In all fairness, I didn't ask for a lot of help, I don't know how, but no one really offered either. I was in a shell at the time. I was happy in a world that just had me, DH, and our son in it. I didn't reach out to my friends or family as much as I probably should have, and they did the same.

My MOH threw my bachelorette party at the last minute with my mom, they didn't invite many of my friends, those who did, the invites came too last minute and they couldn't make it. So I spent that night with my mom, my aunt, two cousins and my MOH playing Apples to Apples on her back patio. It wasn't really the circumstances, I'm not into strippers, it was that they barely seemed to care enough to put any effort into it (the part about not inviting MY friends until a day or two before bothers me the most).

So, I'm chalking that one up to bad decision making on my part, because I knew each member of my bridal party had waaaaaaaaaay too much on their plates at give me the attention and help I required. One was just self-centered and more interested in hanging out with my mom, another was working on her master's degree, and the third one had a very busy family life and lived further away than the other two (and in all fairness, I wasn't much help with her wedding~ infact I showed up after dying my hair black and with a girlfriend after she printed in her program was a single redhead). Of those three, only the last one would be re-asked. I wanted to ask my cousins, but I wasn't able to choose between them, and there were other friends I really should have and I didn't. You know who you are...

So, what is the point of all the bemoaning my pre-wedding mistakes? And what on earth has it to do with my surgiversary? Well, I'm glad you asked! I would like to assemble a NEW wedding party without all of the actual wedding headache. No real planning other than a girl's day out where were would go to DB and pretend I am getting married. I want to try on dresses that I was unable to two years ago. I want to go out to lunch with my friends. I want to be silly and take pictures and have fun! I want a girl's day! I want memorable pictures (to include my new after) and I just want to be silly and happy and free for one day. I want that excitement that I missed out on during my planning phase because I was too busy getting everyone together, or having to make all of the foods, decorations, pillows, baskets, garters, bouquets, invitations, etc.

So who wants to be in my dream bridal party? Still keeping the same husband, only he'll be babysitting instead of hanging out with us. Come on, come play with me! Teddi you don't actually have a choice, you are SO in this!

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