Bartlettcowgirl

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 Since my wls on June 27, 2006, my only bad result from my wls has been the effect on my marriage.  My husband and I are currently separated (emotionally and physically) because he is jealous of the attention I get from others.  I've been doing some research about the condition of narcissim.  My husband fits the true definition of a narcisst.   I have thought about leaving our relationship for over a year now because of the constant condensending tone of voice he uses when he talks to me. He constantly berates me and has actually grabbed my arm in anger. I'm so afraid of him now.  I'm going to make one last effort for my husband and I to go to a marriage therapist.  Unfortunately, I've read that there's NO cure for people who have narcisstic tendencies.  But after 46 yrs of marriage, I still have to try for my own peace of mind.
The typical narcisst has an inferior complex and feels that he/she has to be a bragger or omnipotent...better than anyone else to feel superior than those he/she are around.  Since I've lost over 150 lbs, I feel great that I can do so much more than I used to.  I regularly walk 5 miles 3-4 times a week. The therapist that I went to works with bartiatric patients and when I told her about my situation, she suggested that I leave this toxic marriage.  It's so scary though since I'm 63 yrs old and have never lived on my own.  I'm so torn as to what to do.  I've been living with my twin sister in CA who has been  very supportive of me.
If any of you out there have a similar situation, I would love to hear from you.