Taking care of that voice that justifies the things I eat!

Sep 14, 2009

Well I think I finally heard something that is now my AH OH! moment in life.  With Kaiser Positive Choice I am in the 6 month program for WLS.  Last week 9/9/09 (to be exact) I heard from a counselor about Parent Adult Child  (hear me out, it;s good)! 

PART 1:  You know when you pass a drive through or see something in the kitchen that you just want, and the conversation goes something like this:

Voice 1:  I was good today and plus I am going to the gym tomorrow, one little piece won't hurt

Voice 2:  You shouldn't do that, you know you are trying to loss weight

Voice 1:  But I' m hungry and its just today.

Voice 2:  Silent....


Thus you eat that piece of whatever or buy that hamburger and fries.  What this counselor explained was, voice #1 is my inner child whining for food (just like a real child does) and voice #2 is the Parent (just like my mother) telling me that I don't need that.  So now you have the Parent and Child conversation that goes on in your head. 

Part II:
When you see someone smoking (presuming you don't smoke), you think, wow that's bad for them, or when you see someone who is over weight at a buffet with plates of food in front of them and you think, that is not good for them don't they see what they are doing to themselves????

Well that voice is the Adult in you understanding the outcomes of decisions others make.  Now let's go back to Part 1, when the Parent and Child (that little voice in your head) start to talk about food that you want or rationalizes the food you eat, and the Parent is telling the child no, YOUR ADULT IS NO WHERE TO BE FOUND!  Get it!!!!!  We are good at judging what others should do (our Adult), but when it comes to us, we are just a child crying out for what we want with no thought as to the outcome of our decision, and our Parent is trying to control the child to no avail most of the time.

Conclusion:
Using this gift of an explanation I now can control that voice, my inner child has found peace for the most part because I offer it alternatives to the food it wants,  At times it takes me to the MAC counter to buy a new eye shadow, but it does not lead me to binge and then feel guilty.

Hope this helps someone else out there, as I know we all hear that voices that says just one little piece and then we eat more than that piece and when we are done, the other voice saying "what did you do?  You are fat and just continue to eat"  so what happens, we eat some more because we already blew it.

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