telling people about surgery

Jul 14, 2013

I posted this on the RNY forum, but I thought I would share it here because it is so true:

I have been very open with people about my surgery.  I keep kosher, and I always felt like if I didn't tell people then I should have no expectation that they would understand what that meant or why I may or may not eat something.  The same think is true with RNY in my mind.  I have been telling people because I don't want them to be offended when I don't try their amazing looking cheesecake or other dessert.  I have found that everyone has been really supportive- most ask what they can have for me to eat or drink at the party.  At work, people are not shocked when I choose not to join them for lunch out, or when I have needed help moving boxes or doing other things.

I am sure that some people might not respond well.  We have all heard people assume RNY is the "easy way out" or "cheating".  These people are not only wrong but they are in the minority.  Of course you have to judge for yourself how you think your friends and coworkers might respond, but I can say mine have been universally great and very supportive.  Most reply with "oh my (relative/friend) had that and they lost so much weight!".  Give them a chance to be supportive- we all need the help!

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