marymo362
Heartfelt Musings for a Sunday
Jun 29, 2014
Let me begin with this fact: My husband, lovingly referred to as “The Dude” in my posting on OH, is my lover, my co-adventurer, my best friend, my confidante, a gentle critic, the most honest person in my life, and a terrific support.
Now I have to say this: He has a job, started in February, that has crappy hours for us. I work M-F 7:30 AM-4:00 PM and he is Thursday – Monday 3:30 PM-12 midnight.
He likes his job (YAY!) he HAS a job (Another YAY!) but the person with whom I have shared weekends and vacations and evenings for 12 ½ years is no longer my co-explorer except for two weeks a year, on vacation and quick trips on Saturday and Sunday mornings.
We just enjoy spending time together, exploring and adventuring and learning to do these things by myself is a process.
This morning I had a meltdown as I was preparing to go on a hike that would not get me back to Salem in time for him to get to work, so he was not able to go with me. And I was going to go alone. This is where I tell you “I am not a very good “loner”. Don’t get me wrong! I love time to myself but enough is enough and I like to share adventures, because isn’t that most of the point of having adventures? YES!
Anyhow, he suggested that we go, together, to a closer location and hike together. I could get my hike in and we could be together. YAY! We did that, and it was fun, and it was a hike, albeit ½ the distance.
I am winding up to the point here, bear with me. Once we got home, I felt so refreshed after we got to spend the morning together that I booked a trip for myself this coming weekend! I am taking my bike and my new Rogue and heading off to Eugene Oregon where I will do this bike ride: http://rideoregonride.com/inspiration/itineraries/a-family-friendly-outing-on-the-covered-bridges-scenic-bikeway/ on Friday and then a long hike on Saturday before I head home on Sunday.
“The Dude” gently reminded me that I am perfectly able to do a trip on my own, that I will have fun and it will make me happier than sitting at home over a long weekend, thinking I am wasting three awesome days off, in the summer, in Oregon. He reminded me that these are some of the reasons I had bariatric surgery in the first place, to ride my bike long distances and to hike.
I had a first marriage that did not have support nor candor nor tact nor friendship. I am forever grateful I found my first boyfriend (yes we dated in our teens!) and we made a life together now.
And now, this coming weekend I am going to experience some adventures that I can experience all over again when I regale him with the tales!
Thanks for listening in, I appreciate you all at OH!
Mary
