msleo1972
I HOPE THIS IS NOT TOO LONG FOR SOME OF YOU.
EVERY BODY'S GOT A STORY THAT COULD BREAK YOUR HEART.(this title is the title of a song that i like by Amanda Marshall and it fits for a lot of people)
WELL I GUESS I WILL TELL YOU MINE. IT CAN BE INTERESTING TO SOME AND MAYBE NOT TO OTHERS.
I'M A 36 YEAR OLD SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 HANDSOME BOYS THE OLDEST ARE 15 YEAR OLD TWINS AND A 9 YR OLD AND I'M A FULL TIME CHRYSLER WORKER (PROVIDING THEY STAY OPEN) ON THE STEADY MIDNIGHT SHIFT HERE IN WINDSOR, ONTARIO.
I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A SKINNY CHILD, SO SKINNY THAT SOME PEOPLE THOUGHT THAT MY MOTHER WAS NOT FEEDING ME RIGHT. I JUST WAS REALLY ACTIVE. BY THE TIME I GOT OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL I WEIGHED ABOUT 130LBS. AND GAINED ANOTHER 30 FOR LACK OF EXERCISE.
IN HIGH SCHOOL I MET THE FATHER OF MY TWINS AND STAYED WITH HIM FOR ALMOST 10 YRS. WHEN I GOT PREGNANT I GAINED 40 PDS AND NEVER WENT OVER THE 200 PD MARK. THREE YEARS AFTER THE TWINS WERE BORN MY COMMON LAW HUSBAND HURT HIMSELF IN A DIRT BIKE ACCIDENT AT AN AMATEUR RACE IN WALTON, ONTARIO. HE WAS IN A COMA AND ON LIFE SUPPORT FOR NEARLY 2 MONTHS. THE COMA WAS LONGER.
HE HAD A TRACHEOSTOMY DONE AND WAS TAKEN OFF THE LIFE SUPPORT.
SEVERE HEAD TRAUMA LEFT HIM MENTALLY CHALLENGED AND IT TOOK HIM A VERY LONG TIME TO START TALKING AGAIN. HE STILL SOUNDS TO THIS DAY THAT HE IS MENTALLY CHALLENGED AND HE DOES FORGET THINGS. HE HAS LIVED IN HIS NURSING HOME FOR 11 YRS NOW. HE CANNOT LIVE ON HIS OWN.
HIS HIP WAS PARTIALLY PARALYZED AND TO THIS DAY HE STILL USES A WALKER TO WALK. YOU COULD SAY I WAS PROBABLY IN SHOCK AFTER HIS ACCIDENT. I WAS NEVER ABLE TO REALLY CRY ABOUT IT. I HAD TO BE TOUGH FOR MY TWIN BOYS. ALSO 8 MONTHS PRIOR TO HIS ACCIDENT HE HAD LOST HIS ONLY SIBLING TO A SNOWMOBILE ACCIDENT SO I HAD TO BE TOUGH FOR MY IN LAWS AS WELL.
THE YEAR AFTER HIS ACCIDENT WAS GOING BY AND I WAS REALLY NOT THINKING OF TAKING CARE OF MYSELF. I WENT INTO A DEPRESSION THAT I DIDN'T REALIZE I WAS IN.
I TOLD MYSELF TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE AND MET THE FATHER OF MY 3RD SON. WHICH I THINK I DID WHEN I WAS STILL IN SHOCK MODE.
TURNED OUT THAT THIS NEW COMMON-LAW HUSBAND OF MINE WAS MENTALLY ABUSIVE AND PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE TO BY TWINS THAT I COULDN'T SEE BECAUSE EVERYTHING WAS DONE BEHIND MY BACK, I KNEW SOMETHING WAS WRONG BECAUSE THE TWINS NEVER WANTED ME TO LEAVE THEM ALONE WITH HIM. I GOT PREGNANT FOR MY 3RD SON AND GAINED 60 PDS WHICH BROUGHT ME UP TO 235 PDS. DURING MY PREGNANCY MY C.L. HUSBAND AND I WOULD FIGHT VERY OFTEN WHICH LED ME TO OVEREAT.
AFTER MY SON WAS BORN I NEVER QUITE LOST ANY OF THE WEIGHT. I AM NOW 230PDS.
I STAYED WITH THIS MAN FOR FOUR YEARS AND DECIDED TO LEAVE HIM BY GOING TO A WOMEN'S SHELTER 2 WEEKS BEFORE MY 30TH BIRTHDAY. WHEN I WAS AT THIS SHELTER THE SUPPORT STAFF REALIZED THAT THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG WITH MY YOUNGEST SON. WHICH I KNEW ALREADY. I FOLLOWED ALL THEIR RECOMMENDATIONS AND GOT THE HELP I NEEDED FOR HIM AND STILL NEED TO THIS DAY. MY YOUNGEST IS DIAGNOSED WITH ADHD AND ODD. AND IT IS VERY SEVERE AND VERY HARD TO DEAL WITH. A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO HE WAS SEXUALLY MOLESTED. I HAD NO IDEA IT WAS GOING ON AND IT WAS WITH SOME OTHER CHILDREN. I HAD A VERY HARD TIME TO DEAL WITH THIS AND STILL DO. HE GOES TO A SCHOOL FOR KIDS WITH THESE TYPES OF BEHAVIORS. THERE ARE ALOT OF THING I'M DEALING WITH FOR HIM. ONE DR NOW IS SAYING HE MIGHT HAVE POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER.
SINCE I TURNED 30 AND WAS FINALLY ON MY OWN I HAVE BEEN DEALING WITH MY FIRST HUSBANDS ACCIDENT IN A DIFFERENT LIGHT. I AM CRYING WHEN I NEED TOO. NOW I KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH DEPRESSION AND I DO NOT NEED MEDICATION FOR IT.
I HAVE TRIED NUMEROUS DIETS AND SUPPORT GROUPS AND PILLS ETC....
TO TOP THINGS UP.
MY FATHER BECAME DIABETIC ABOUT 15 YRS AGO.
IN THE LAST 5 YRS OR SO THIS IS WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO HIM IN THE ORDER AS FOLLOWS.
HE BECAME LEGALLY BLIND AND WAS FORCED OUT OF HIS WORKPLACE. HE DID GET A BUYOUT PACKAGE AND WAS ABLE TO GET RETIREMENT.
HE HAD KIDNEY FAILURE AND NOW HAS TO DO DIALYSIS 3 TIMES A WEEK.
2 OF HIS FINGERS WERE AMPUTATED ON HIS LEFT ARM, BECAUSE THEY WOULDN'T HEAL.
LATER HIS LEFT LEG WAS AMPUTATED BELOW THE KNEE. 2 MONTHS LATER HE HAD A STROKE THAT LEFT HIM PARALYZED ON HIS LEFT SIDE.
HE HAS MOVEMENT OF HIS LEG AGAIN BUT NOT HIS ARM.
THROUGH THE LAST ORDEALS THE DR'S DISCOVERED HE HAD HEP C.
THIS PAST SUMMER HIS POTASSIUM SHOT UP FOR NO APPARENT REASON AND HE WAS RUSHED TO THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE HE COULDN'T BREATHE. THE AMBULANCE ATTENDANT HAD TO REVIVE HIM 3 TIMES BEFORE GETTING THERE.
HE WAS PUT ON LIFE SUPPORT FOR 24 HRS AND RECOVERED.
A WEEK LATER HE COULDN'T BREATHE AGAIN. TURNS OUT THAT HE HAD NARROWING OF THE THROAT OR VOCAL CORDS. SOMETHING LIKE THAT. THEY HAD TO DO A TRACHEOSTOMY ON HIM AND HE HAD TO KEEP THE TUBE IN THERE FOR A FEW MONTHS AND WAS JUST FINALLY TAKEN OUT.
ON MONDAY JANUARY 19TH, 09 MY DAD FOUND OUT THAT THE DR NEEDS TO AMPUTATE HIS RIGHT LEG AND BELOW THE KNEE AGAIN. HIS FOOT IS SO BLACK AND DOESN'T WANT TO HEAL.
I WENT TO VISIT HIM YESTERDAY AND SINCE I HADN'T SEEN HIM SINCE CHRISTMAS I CAN SEE THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE IN HIM. ONE OF THE NURSES THERE TOLD ME THAT HE IS BASICALLY SHUTTING HIMSELF DOWN BECAUSE HE IS ANGRY AND DEPRESSED ABOUT LOSING HIS OTHER LEG. I DON'T KNOW IF THIS IS TRUE. I KNOW THAT WHEN I WAS TALKING TO HIM IT WAS REALLY HARD REACHING HIM. I ALMOST LITERALLY HAD TO SHAKE HIM AND SAY DAD DID YOU HEAR WHAT I JUST SAID. I AM VERY WORRIED ABOUT HIM. HIS BIRTHDAY IS ON SATURDAY AND HE IS TURNING ONLY 58 YEARS OLD.
NOW WITH EVERYTHING THAT I WENT THROUGH ESPECIALLY WITH MY DAD THIS SCARES ME TO DEATH. MY SISTER WHO IS 3 YRS YOUNGER THEN ME HAS JUST BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH DIABETES.
I HAVE OSTEOARTHRITIS OF THE KNEES WHICH WAS JUST DIAGNOSED, AND I HAVE BAD HEARTBURN ALL THE TIME WHICH I JUST RECENTLY TOLD MY DR ABOUT.
I HAVE BEEN A MEMBER OF T.O.P.S.(TAKE OFF POUNDS SENSIBLY) FOR THE LAST 2 YRS.
BACK IN NOVEMBER 2008 I STARTED RESEARCHING AND TALKING TO MY DR ABOUT GETTING A GASTRIC BYPASS. HE FILLED OUT MY OHIP FORM BUT INSISTED THAT I STILL DO ALL THE REQUIRED TESTING.
I'VE HAD BLOOD WORK DONE. MY SLEEP STUDY FOR SLEEP APNEA IS SCHEDULED FOR FEBRUARY 4TH,09
I'M SEEING AN ENDOCRINOLOGY DR ON JANUARY 29TH,09.
HOPEFULLY EVERYTHING WORKS OUT.
I WENT TO THE BARIX CLINIC IN NOVEMBER FOR A SEMINAR.
I'M GOING TO HENRY FORD HOSPITAL FOR THEIR SEMINAR ON FEBRUARY 11TH. 09
I WILL KEEP YOU UPDATED AS I AM STILL GOING THROUGH IT ALL
SOMETHING I NEVER MENTIONED IN MY STORY THAT'S A PRETTY IMPORTANT PART OF MY LIFE
MY MOM
SHE HAS LIVED WITH ME FOR ABOUT 5 YEARS. SOMETIMES ITS HARD AND SOMETIMES ITS GREAT HELP.
SHE DOES SUFFER FROM EITHER BYPOLAR OR MANIC DEPRESSION BUT DOESN'T WANT TO ADMIT TO IT.
IF SHE WASN'T HERE I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO WITHOUT HER. EVEN THOUGH MOST OF THE TIME I WANT HER TO GET HER OWN PLACE.
SHE WATCHES MY KIDS WHILE I'M AT WORK ON MIDNIGHTS AND GETS THEM READY FOR SCHOOL IN THE MORNING BECAUSE I NOW GET HOME FROM WORK JUST AFTER THEY GET ON THE BUS.
I GO TO BED FOR THE DAY AND WHEN I GET UP THE KIDS HAVE JUST GOTTEN HOME FROM SCHOOL AND MY MOM ALREADY HAS SUPPER READY.
WELL THAT'S MY MOM, NO MATTER HOW MUCH WE FIGHT SHE'LL STILL DO THINGS FOR ME AND VICE A VERSA.
