pink_essence
This is my story although many may not understand or agree with my reasonings for keeping my surgery private. I don't get much support or love from my family and I chose not to tell anyone about my surgery. Not even my best friend of 39 years. Only my husband knows. Not even my only child or my grandkids.
Honestly, not many people have commented on my weight loss. I guess it is because i've always gained the weight back from past diets that maybe they are just sitting and waiting for me to do it again this time. Not even my mother or my son has even mentioned that i've lost weight.
The few that have asked "how much have you loss?", I just tell them that I don't know....that i don't weigh. I just tell them that I guess it may just be psycholical (sp) but I'm afraid if I weigh, I will start gaining again. I am shy and just don't like talking about myself or drawing attention to my life.
I've had surgery in 2006 and have lost 137 lbs although I have gained 6 lbs back but this just made me get back on track and quit grazing. My husband and I are planning a vacation trip and I want to be able to walk and keep up.
Keeping it a secret, it has drawbacks too. Because of this, I can't talk to anyone or share my success. The day I lost 100 lbs was one of the saddest days for me because my husband didn't make a big deal out of it. In fact, he never even commented thru out the day muchless make this day special for me. No card, no gift, no celebration....he never even offered to take my picture so I would have a keepsake. Also, I never attend a support group meeting for the simple fact that I'm afraid I may see someone who knows me and will find out about my surgery. So it is lonely for me. Thank heavens I have this website to visit and get info. I log on here daily. Some days I read posts for hours.
Thank you all for being my new secret family.
