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I am 43 years old, mother of one very beautiful 6 year old daughter and have been overweight all my life. I currently weigh 260 pounds but am really very short, I am not even 5 foot which puts my BMI over 50! I can remember being a chubby little girl and going to the doctors office and him yelling at my mom that I was overweight and I have to lose weight. I was so embarassed even then. My family has not been very supportive about my weight. My sister mocked me all her life. My mother was always passing comments to me about my weight but she never really tried to help me other than yell at me for eating too much. I have always tried to exercise. At one point when I was a teenage I ran 3 miles a day to try and keep my weight lower but it never did. My weight really became high when I was in my 30's and I have not been able to lose more than 40 pounds and everytime I gain the lost weight plus some. I have tried diet after diet and of course yo-yo dieting. I started to research weight loss surgery probably around 7-8 years ago. Then, I became pregnant and tried dieting on my own since.
My best friend had the open surgery in 2001 and looks great. She has kept off the majority of weight. She has been an inspiration to me. She did not have any complications from the surgery and looks absolutely beautiful!
Other than my girlfriend and husband I have not told anyone about my possible surgery. About 2 moths ago I told my sister I was thinking about WLS and she said " you need to try harder to lose the weight not have the surgery because that is a cop-out!" Loving isn't she? So, needless to say I have not told her I have made a descision to have the surgery. My mother recently said to me out of the blue "you should have a breast reduction. I would support you if you had that done but I would not support you if you had stomache stapling done". So, needless to say I am not telling her either about my descision. So, I feel really sad that I do not have many people supporting me. I really do not know how I am going to explain to my sister and my mother when I am not avaiable when I recover???? Oh well, I will think of something. My husband is supportive but does not say much. He did say to me recently that he has seen me struggle so much with my weight that he commends me on my decision.
My biggest goal for this surgery is to be able to do things with my daughter. She is my greatest love in life. She is a very funny and sweet girl. She is naturally athletic and runs around all the time. Everytime she goes skiing with my sister it breaks my heart because it should be me skiing with her. Hopefully, if I have the surgery soon, I will be able to ski with her this winter.
My one big goal is to become more active and be able to run around with my daughter. My knees hurt me so much but I am hoping that they will get better once I start to lose the weight! I have had enough with yo-yo dieting and am tired of never reaching goal. I am ready for this change-it is my time!
