Question:
HELP!!! I NEED HONEST ADVICE...SCARED TO DEATH!!!!
I am scheduled to have gastric bypass surgery in 3 weeks. I feel like I should be so excited about the surgery, but I am SCARED TO DEATH!! All day yesterday and today I feel that I don't even want the surgery. I know I will drop the weight, but I don't know if I can live without the foods I enjoy. I worry about complications and being unhappier than I was if I had just STAYED FAT!!! At least I am happy and in a good mood. Even when I try to cut out the junk food, I get grumpy and irritated easily. Will my mood be like this once I can no longer have these foods? I'm 36, no health problems, except my obsity. Do I really need this surgery? I keep asking myself, why can't I just lose the weight like everyone else? What is wrong with me that I have to resort to these drastic measures? Have these thoughts went through anyone elses mind before surgery? How did you deal with them? How did you finally make a decision that was right for you? Anyone regret the surgery? Thank you so much for any advice and/or help you can give! — Heather36 (posted on March 3, 2008)
March 3, 2008
Hi Heather....I do not even have my date yet thos hope to later this week.
You are going through what I did this past weekend. After I thought about
it I recognized it as an anxiety attack and got a grip. It is very normal
to be frightened prior to surgery but this really is a safe surgery. I
think it is probably the result of the build up and tension of getting all
the testing and the waiting, etc. You will do fine....and in 3 weeks you
will begin your new life!
— Gena L.
March 3, 2008
Heather,
I had open RNY last September, and have dropped over 100 lbs.
I also had some major reservations about the surgery - I think I was most
afraid of the foley catheter (but they put that in when I was out) and what
I would do about the foods I lioved, and never having them again.
It isn't like that, there will be foods that you will not have again, but
you won't want them, and if you did eat them, you wouldn't like the taste -
your body makes that change with your mind for you.
Then, there are foods that you will still have, just less of, and you'll be
fine with that - heck, I had turkey, stuffing and mashed potatoes for
Thanksgiving - turkey didn't sit well, was dry, but everything was fine, I
just was finished with a small amount, and was able to have more later,
same small amount.
Just trust your body, it will take care of you, because you are taking care
of it.
Good luck.
BTW - my only regret - not doing this 20 years ago!
— 29Diesel
March 3, 2008
Hi, Heather. Your reaction is not abnormal. I think most of us went through
something similar, maybe not as intense, but we had similar worries.
Preparing for, going through, and living after WLS is indeed a journey. As
with any other other journey, it is normal to have doubts and wonder if you
will miss your "old life." While everyone reacts differently to
WLS, I would say the majority - myself included - found ourselves not
nearly as hungry after WLS as before. It was probably a minimum of 5-6
weeks before I even felt remotely hungry. I consider(ed?) myself a sugar
addict (drinking lots of soda, eating almost anything sweet) and was not
able to _imagine_ how I would deal with life without these. And you asked
why you couldn't lose weight like everyone else. I bet everyone who has had
WLS has had the same thought. If we HAD been able to, none of us would have
gone through it. All I can say is that you have to decide whether you want
to take a leap of faith to find out about this other journey. From one
person, I took that leap and I think it was one of the hardest and best
decisions I've ever made. Good luck to you, Heather. Try deep breaths and
deep thoughts. :)
dana
— jujuprof
March 3, 2008
There are a few handful of people that have complications and regret their
decision. Major complications are rare....but they do happen. Minor
complications also happen but many are easy to fix. Then there are the
majority...who go thru this thing without much of any trouble and the
qualities of our lives become something we only dreamed we'd have. We are
thinner and healthier and our self esteem is wonderful...I won't lie....
you will miss food and the way it tastes, but only in your head...Not in
your belly. This is like the ultimate diet...where you get full with two
bites of food and you never feel hungry(For the first year or two)...you
can't eat right away even if you wanted to...You could try but one bad
episode of dumping and you'll never want that to happen again! Then slowly
you begin to add foods back into your diet and after a year or two you find
that you are eating like a regular little person...and you ARE a little
person! No one recognizes you and everyone is amazed and fascinated. It's
like a dream come true. As long as you commit to doing everything by the
rules, things really do go well. If you don't, then things can begin to
fail you. If you are not ready to commit then you will fail...If you don't
think you can do it...don't...Just allow yourself that freedom to walk away
if you want to. It's OKAY! No one will blame you or make you feel bad. Give
yourself a break sweetie...It's okay to change your mind. Maybe that alone
will give you some peace. You will know if you are ready...and you will
decide to commit to the changes you must go thru. It's only about a year or
two before you can eat healthy hearty foods. You will give up some of your
favorites. You have to. Yes...But you will find new favorites. We were all
scared. It's not like we are picking out a car...We are picking out a new
permanent lifestyle and a new body and a new mindset. So yes it's
scary...Failure is usually the worse fear. A little keeps you honest...A
lot means you are not ready.
Whatever you decide...Let it be right for you!
Good luck
— .Anita R.
March 3, 2008
I am fairly certain you will be thrilled. I never regreted it for one
second. Frankly, my surgery was a breeze. Take a deep breath and try to
relax. The worst is over now. Take care.
Phyllis
— blueyes711
March 3, 2008
Heather,
I can tell you that I had the same reservations last February before I had
surgery. I wasn't concerned so much with missing foods, but missing my
family.
Weeks before surgery I started seriously journaling. I wanted to just
"get it all out". I also wrote letters to my husband and kids.
Not talking about surgery but talking about them and our times together and
my feelings about them.
I knew if I continued to fight the weight without surgery I would weigh
even more this year. My major co-morbidity was obesity. I was taking no
medications and for the most part was healthy. But my body hurt each day,
I was always tired and I had a hard time walking more than 3 flights of
steps. I guess that happens when you are carrying 2 people on your back.
My BMI was in the 50's and really I could only see myself turning into what
my mother already is. A diabetic with hypertension, breathing issues and
arthritis. Who has gotten herself into such a state that she is a VERY
poor candidate for the surgery and the age of 61.
But what a difference a year has made for me. I have lost over 1/2 the
person I was. I have gone from a 30/32 to and 8. My BMI that was in the
50's is now right around 26+/-. I can do oh so much more than before. I
eat well, exercise and use this tool as was intended.
I am glad to not be the "fattest mom" in the school. I can now
run with my husband, play with my kids they way they want. I run around
the soccer field with my youngest and I am no longer embarrassed. Life Is
Good! In fact, I would say it is pretty darn great at this point.
This surgery changed the way I eat, but also helped change the ways that I
negatively felt about myself.
These are just my feelings and my outcomes. I am sure you will decide what
is right for you. Is this surgery right for everyone?? Probably not, but
it works for me.
I hope you are able to deal with your feelings about all of this.
God Bless,
Kim
— itsjust4me
March 3, 2008
— rina_mo
March 3, 2008
I was going to say everything the others said but you don't want to read it
again. One thing I do want to say it... it has been a year for me, yes I
see McDonalds, etc and want it. Yes I've tried them. But I usually find
that I have either lost the taste for some of it or I can't get it down. I
tried a Big Mac because it looked so good. I ate two bites and couldn't eat
anymore so now I don't waste my money. Also I usually don't feel great
after fastfood. I told my husband just yesterday that I "need" to
eat a normal meal not fastfood inorder to feel good physically. If I wanted
a donut then I would take a bite. 2 bites are way too much sugar. After the
surgery you will find that some of the struggle you are expecting just
isn't there. Either you won't want it or your body can't tollerate it
anymore. I am down 77 of the 100 lbs that I need to lose and I can't tell
you how wonderful I feel. I am 52 years old and it feels so good to be able
to sit on the floor and get up with out a struggle. I can go shopping and
find something!! All these feelings are normal. Pray and ask God to help
you with all these thoughts. He has brought you this far, He is not going
to let you down now.
— Claudia C.
March 3, 2008
Heather,
I haven't even been given a date for surgery yet & I do feel EXACTLY
the same way that you do. WHY am I doing something so drastic?? WHY can't
I loose weight & be successful in keeping it off?? EVER in my life,
I've been overweight practically since birth. I'm mostly afraid of how
this will affect me in the future, health-wise. I'm not worried about not
being able to eat things I enjoy, because I enjoy all foods, healthy, snack
foods, etc. I'm worried that somehow this is going to adversely affect my
health in the future, I don't know how, but I guess we wouldn't be human if
we didn't have some sort of worry, right?? Heather, you will be fine, you
should go ahead with it, I will be fine, when I get a date I will go ahead
with it. Most people don't have complications, I know several people who
have had the surgery, & not one of them had a complication. I am 32,
you are 36, if we haven't ever been successful in keeping weight off on
previous diets, we never will, we need to have this surgery for US!!!!
Please feel free to write me directly if you want to chat. I haven't
checked out this site in a while, but I had to respond to you, because I
feel the SAME way!!!
Denise
— [Deactivated Member]
March 3, 2008
A year ago I was exactly like you. I was 36, morbidly obese but without
any medical problems really, considering wls, and having all the same
thoughts and fears. Then on April 14th I 'missed' a step on a walkway and
came down hard on my left foot, twisting my ankle. Because of my weight,
the twisted ankle turned into a spiral fracture of my fibula...and soft
tissue damage in my right foot when I tried to catch myself on that foot.
The urgent care's wheelchair was not intended for my size or weight. They
didn't have ankle braces or crutches in my size. None of the open
pharmacies did either. It took me a month longer than necessary to heal
from that...because of my weight. While following up with the broken leg,
I mentioned to my doctor that I was afraid to take the painkillers because
I was afraid I'd stop breathing. When my leg was healed enough for me to
sleep through the night without pain, I had a sleep study and found out I
have apnea. (My doc said I stop breathing 76 times an hour without a cpap
machine.) In the month between sleep study appointments, I started having
pain in my left upper chest and went to the ER where I was admitted under
suspicion of a heart attack and had a stress test. My heart was fine, but
my blood sugar was 250 five hours after my last meal. Between April and
July, my health crashed...and it was all obesity related. Don't let that
happen to you. The fewer 'co-morbidities' you have, the better you'll
react to and recover from surgery, and the safer it will be for you. Good
luck and congratulations on getting to this point!
— abeeba
March 3, 2008
Heather, I know how you feel. I am a 62 year old male and I have wanted to
have the surgery for many years. I spent the last three years researching
the surgery and the right doctor. When I ran out of excuses, I finally
booked with the right surgeon, got approved with a few conditions and then
my insurance company changed their policy a few months before my surgery
date. No coverage. Now I had another excuse, but my Heart Doctor told me
that every day I put it off the closer I come to an early death. Don't put
it off. You skin will shrink back for the most part, but at my age I have
to have surgery to get rid of the extra skin. I had my surger Dec 5, 2007
and I am just approaching my 3rd month with over 70 lbs lost. I never felt
better. I got to the Gym 7 days a week and work out for 1-1/2 hours a day.
I am taking up golf, and I always wanted to do these things, but my body
would not let me. I lost 40 lbs before surgery and the weight stopped
coming off, so I was glad that it started back up after surgery. I never
feel hungury other then in my head. If you have an RNY you will not be
able to eat grandualted sugar or hevey creams or fat. You do it once and
you just never do it again. I eat about 3-4 ounces per meal and 3 meals a
day. I have to set a timer to remind me it is time to eat again. Yes,
things smell good, but after a few bites, you are full. What a difference
it makes then when you are trying to do it on your own. I have tried every
diet on the market and went for a 30 day study where I was locked up and
feed a balance diet to lose weight and excersize and after 30 days, I
gained 2 lbs. Nothing much ever worked on me except pure liquid protein.
After 7 months I lost over 100 Lbs, and 4 months later I gained it all
back, and 3 months after that I was 40lb heavier then when I started. This
is not the easy way, but the sound way to take off your weight and keep it
off. I would have an RNY over again today, knowing all the things that
were tough on a old guy like me, because it works. My Family and Freinds
have been a great support as have my many new freinds here on OH. Feel
free to write me if you are having a bad day, because that is what you need
to get over the bumps in the road. Reaching out is smart. I wished I had
done it a lot sooner. Best of sucess to you.
— William (Bill) wmil
March 3, 2008
I, like yourself, didn't have any other health problems except obesity.
Feeling scared is so completely normal. And, I'll admit, right after
surgery (about the first week) I thought, "Why in the hell did I do
this to myself!!!" That passed. I am now 2 1/2 years post op, and I
will tell you that having the gastric bypass surgery is the best thing that
I have ever done for myself. What's more important?--Some foods or your
happiness and your life. I so lived my life to revolve around food--and
although that gave me temporary happiness, I was miserable in the long run.
Now, I can eat a lot of the foods that I love--just in really small
doses--and that's okay. Sometimes all you need is a taste. Having the
surgery doesn't mean that you have to eat crappy tasting food the rest of
your life. This is a tool that can work really great for you! Have faith
in yourself and don't let the food run your life anymore. I always
wondered why I just couldn't lose the weight on my own--there's not a lot
of us that can. Do what's right for you and be happy!! If you need
anything, I am here to talk to!!
— butterfly77ckc
March 4, 2008
To be nervous about missing food is normal. Will you miss it? I threw
fits the first few months because I couldn't eat a burrito. 4yrs out, it
was all worth it. 36 years of eating what you want when you want is what
got you in this predicament in the first place. The surgery will bring the
needed self-discipline to get you to your goal. Losing weight like
everyone else did is an overstatement. Remember your on a WLS surgery
site. You will be losing weight like everyone else here. Best of luck to
you, call me if you need me 310-367-8404.
— bariatricdivalatina
March 4, 2008
My 'other half' is also SCARED TO DEATH of any kind of major surgery --
decided to go to WEIGHT WATCHERS and is having GREAT SUCCESS with that
program. Give it a try! (It probably would not have worked for me though;
I'm more of a loner -- not into 'group therapy'.) You say you're HAPPY and
IN A GOOD MOOD now. One of the great goals in life is to be happy. If you
think you will be less happy after undergoing bariatric surgery, my advise
is DON'T DO IT! Try to get together with a good psychologist for evaluation
for suitability for the surgery. Get someone who is INDEPENDENT OF YOUR
SURGICAL TEAM and does not have a vested interest in pushing patients
through the pipe and into the operating room. Being "happy" is
not the only consideration though. There are health benefits (and RISKS) of
getting surgery. If you decide to go ahead with it, I think you've made an
excellent choice in going with "bypass surgery". I assume that
means RNY. I wish you future health and HAPPINESS.
— [Deactivated Member]
March 4, 2008
My surgery is on March 19th about 3 weeks away. I am going through
EVERYTHING you are. I am a self addict to Pop. And I am freaking out about
just starting my 2 week diet before my surgery tomorrow. Then I think about
the time I got a burn on my side because I didn't fit into the wheelchair
at the hospital and did't want to say anything because I was embarrassed,
or how many times I wish I could go watch a movie with my family but I
can't fit any of the chairs without being uncomfortable. Or feeling so
ashamed because I miss school functions with my kids because I am "too
fat" and embarrassed. I decided that was it when I was too embarrased
to take pictures with my oldest son last year when he graduated. I am
missing too much and I want to live again. Please feel free to let me know
if you need to talk since we are so close to doing this together. ALso
thanks everyone for your posts they are helping more than you know.
Johnna W.
— johnjo2002
March 4, 2008
HI I too am pre op just waiting for my date. I have found that I have to
talk about my surgery with everyone I meet. I have read weight loss
surgery for dummies. I am now reading life before and after surgery, which
is a really good book. My Dr and his staff are the best, they are very
willing to discuss everything with you at any time. I also have had
reservations about the surgery, but I have a great support group that is
cheering me on, it is called my family!!!!!! I would try to talk to a
support counselor to see what you need to do to cope with life after
surgery. I do hope that all is going to be ok with you and pleas if you
want to discuss any issues contact me at [email protected]. I read alot
about whatever I am going to do and reasearch it for a great while before I
do it. My best wishes and prayers for all the best are with you.
Linda
— Linda G.
March 4, 2008
Hi Heather, thanks for writing. You share the concerns of most people as
they deal with these issues and making the decision to have wls. Each one
is different, and you have to be willing to accept the risk for the
surgery. Maybe you decided too quickly to have surgery. May you will
decide to have it, but you need to wait or try regular weight loss again
before you decide. If you are not fully persuaded that you want it or need
it, then don't have it. If you can't take the pressure of making this
decision, don't have the surgery. I don't mean to be rude or unkind in any
way, I have had the surgery, and am 4 years post op, and still glad I did
it, but I went in with my eyes wide open, and knew the risks and benefits
when I stepped on board. I have had surgery most every year since my wls,
but I still would not change it. You can read my profile and see what I
have been through if you want, but sometimes it is tough. I had surgery
not related to wls, but wouldn't have had it had I not lost weight (gyn
surgery). Stuff happens, and we have to have peace about our decisions.
You don't. I prayed about it. I have a real and personal relationship
with God in Jesus Christ, so I lean on prayer and God's Word to make my
decisions. I had the support of my husband and God's peace about it, so I
went forward. I prayed and waited for 9 months before I had surgery.
Maybe you are going too fast? You have to decide, the decision is yours,
but so is the consequences. By the way, at 4 years out, I eat anything in
small portions I want. I don't have any issues with food, well maybe a 95%
rate on food, but what I don't eat I don't miss. I have kept off my 120
pounds for 3 years not and am off all medications currently. For me this
is a real blessing and I am thankful. I have had bumps along the way, but
still glad for my decision to have surgery. Take care. Patricia P.
— Patricia P
March 4, 2008
I think what you are feeling is very normal I like another poster hope to
be scheduled soon. I worry every day that I'm not making the right
decision...But I always come back to the same thing..I'm 47 and have been
obese all my life I know the only way I'm going to have any kind of a
chance for a normal life is to have this surgery. I've already missed out
on so much. I won't kid you I'm scared to death over the same things you
are...I'm a very picky eater and am worried about what I can eat that I
will like....But bottom line is you have to do what is best for you and the
kind of life you want to lead. Stay positive I know from experience how
hard that is..Keep your eye on the prize. It will all work out.!!!!!
— bridgetann1961
March 4, 2008
I felt exactly like you did my friend. But, I did it, and I cannot tell
you how much it was the BEST DECISION for me. Six months later and I weigh
153 now! That is a 130 lb. loss, and I feel wonderful. And I still eat
what I like, just much smaller portions. You will not feel like eating
alot like you do now. IT is a blessing, an amazing wonderful journey and
you will be so happy you did it my friend. Trust me, it is so well worth
it. I would do it again in a heartbeat...I cannot say enough about how
awesome this surgery is. DO IT! GOD BLESS!!!
— Kathleen L.
March 4, 2008
Boy, you got a lot of baggage right now, huh? These things are all normal.
I'm glad you don't have any comorbidities right now, but if you stay at
the weight you're at, you're almost guaranteed to get them later. BTW, who
said anything was wrong with you? There's nothing wrong with you, you just
need another tool to be successful. Don't be so hard on yourself. As far
as the food goes, you will find other foods that you enjoy. I suggest
reading "Before and After" by Susan Maria Leach. It will give
you some good perspective on the experience. Good Luck!!
— Shirley D.
March 4, 2008
Hi Heather,
I don't want to discourage you, but there are two sides to everything and
let me tell you mine. I had my bypass in July 2007, in 7 months I have lost
115 lbs. I also almost died the day after I had surgery, the doctor had to
go back in the next day and remove the stomach that he left, the rest of
your stomach. I developed blood clots in it and it burst open, if he would
have waited just a few more hours I would have been dead. I was in ICU for
8 days, in hospital total of 12 days. While I was in ICU, I received 6
pints of blood and was on a respitory for 3 days. I was nauseaed and thrown
up until just about 2 months ago. I can't eat anything fried, no sweets
what so ever, or you pay for it. Everything from salad dressing to
marinades on anything makes me throw up, I carry plastic bags in my car
just in case. I loved meat before surgery, I can't even eat chicken(if I am
lucky maybe 3 bites), no steak, so protein is hard to get in, so you will
need to get used to drinking protein shakes or drinks (the shakes make me
sick). I don't enjoy going out for dinner, I thought after this long I
could handle regular food just smaller portions, this is a life changing
event. I am glad to have lost the weight, but as far as going through it
again, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. And by the way, I have a
hernia I have to have repaired in July, it was due to having surgery twice,
so the muscle wall did not hold, no my stomach pouch moves in and out of
the hole and they will have to put a mesh screen to keep it in. So this is
another big surgery, big incision on my stomach. I would consider long and
hard, it was very hard on my family, my daughter still has nightmares about
when I was in ICU. Please let me know what you decide and how you're doing.
Hope I didn't add to your stress, just wanted you to know.
— avastrole
March 4, 2008
Heather,
Surgery isn't going to fix your mood. Sounds like you need to have someone
to talk to and an antidepressant and if you aren't ready WAIT!!!!!
There are people who regret it esspeically right after surgery. Later, yes
and no.
Nothing is wrong with you, but until you are happy with you then nothing
you do is going to make it better.
— EmtEeyore
March 4, 2008
I had my surgery 3 weeks ago. I have been very depressed and hated every
minute since my surgery. I, unlike you, had no 2nd thoughts about the
surgery. I was so excited, and ready to start a new life. I never felt the
way you do prior to the surgery. Now I do feel the way you do about the
surgery. It is very hard and I have only lost 23 lbs in 3 weeks. I thought
it would be alot more by now and from what everyone is telling me, it
should be more. I am doing the best I can and I feel like I'm going no
where. I used to be a happy, go lucky person, now I am always down in the
dumps. I cant say I wish I didnt do it, but I definitely do not like the
way I feel. I think you really need to think about this. It is a hard
journey! If your not ready for it, dont do it. It's ok. Maybe next year
you'll feel better about it or the year after. Just wait a little while if
your not ready. I thought I was ready but apparently I was'nt and I am
having a very difficult time. I've been told it will get easier but I dont
know when. I am so afraid to eat anything because I'm afraid I'm going to
ruin something. If your having these thoughts, maybe you should wait just a
little longer and try to now to start changing your eating habits a little
so when you are ready to have the surgery, you are already used to not
having the snacks. Good Luck with your decision! Sherry
— tnshargis
March 5, 2008
Hi Heather - I also asked the same question why can't I lose it on my own
etc. Whatever the reason you are doing something about it and you will be
happy you did. The first 6 weeks are horrid trying to get back to eating
and drinking. Take each day as it comes and before you know it you will be
a pro on how to manage everything. I have no regrets. I started out
weighing 233 lbs. I am now 118 lbs. and I am 16 mos out. Just educate
yourself about the procedure and what happens after you will be more
comfortable with your decision. Best of Luck
— niecie54
March 6, 2008
Heather -- what you're going through is completely normal, in my
experience. I had my VBG almost 8 years (!!?!!) ago, and I've not
regretted it for one minute -- oh, maybe for one minute, when I get my
once-a-year craving for a cheeseburger. I had my surgery when I was 43,
and I wish every day I could have had it earlier -- I'd struggled mightily
and endlessly with my weight for more than three decades. I was at risk
for heart attacks, strokes, diabetes, and at the time I had moderately
severe sleep apnea.
As for your food cravings, once you've had the surgery you will likely find
you don't WANT it. It took me forever to get back onto "normal"
food, and for the most part I'm still not. I haven't had a sandwich since
April 16, 2000 (the day before my surgery), I rarely eat meat, and
different foods can still make me throw up (which I take as a good sign, as
it means my pouch hasn't stretched inordinately).
As for how I made my decision, it came down to not really being one at all
-- I wanted to live, I wanted to see my sons grow up, I wanted to have a
life. I tried the whole "fat acceptance" thing and it just
didn't work for me.
Blessings and good thoughts,
— Cheryl Denomy
March 7, 2008
Well, I have to admit. I was scared too. My doctor explained to me in the
beginning of my surgeyr that if I was afraid - he didn't want me to have
the surgery. He told me a story of a lady who was fearful of the surgery
and she died (not one that he performed). I began to think of the story of
Job. He feared death and death came upon him. Don't be afriad. Having a
lot of weight is so depressing alone. But I have to admit, this is not a
quick fix - it is high maintainence that you will have to keep up the rest
of your life. Sometimes when I feel nausea I asked myself why did I have
it because I feel awful after eating, and sometimes feel OK. Food is trial
and error - your body will adjust. When I first had the surgery, I tried
to eat the same foods and my body would totally reject it. I just learned
after vomiting so much, that my body rejected it and that if I wanted to
feel better I had to change my eating habits. Now 5 yrs post-op I pretty
much know what I can eat. I sometimes catch a bad case but not too often.
My mood didn't change - it actually got better - because I was happy to
have lost the weight - but remember ... it is still high maintenance. I
never was a junk eater or a sweet eater so that was not my case. Ony you
know if you want to go therough with this. I had to stop listening to so
many people. Everyone has their opinions. You have to decide whether you
are tired of feeling the way you are and if you can keep up with the
regimen. IT IS NOT A QUICK FIX - so if you are looking for a quick fix -
I would suggest you reconsider. I would never tell anyone not to get it
but I certainly wouldn't tell someone it is right for them. That is a
decision that you will have to think long and hard. Know what your
responsibilities to yourself will be after the surgery.
— Sammi G.
March 9, 2008
I feel exactly like you do, too. My surgery is on March 23rd. And I am
scared to death. I also have no health problems right now other than the
obesity. I even wanted to be a chef at one time - I love to eat and I love
the flavors of foods. Yes, surgery is drastic, but I can't diet. I've
tried. I was even working out at the gym for an hr and a half 6 days out
of 7. And still gained weight no matter what I did. I finally decided
that enough is enough. I am tired of people staring at me or not being
able to buy nice clothing in the stores. And hurting when I walk. And I
don't breathe well or sleep anymore. I just decided that I have had it and
want to have a better life and not die young. I'm still scared very badly.
Maybe once you decide that not having the surgery is much worse than the
feeling of being scared and the possibility of complications, then maybe it
will resolve itself for you.
I hope everything works out for you!
Carol
— C P.
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