Feeling Lonely

Okay I have to get this out and maybe I am feeling this way because I am PMSing or something but..... I love coming to this board to contribute. I love reading the posts and cheering people on but I don't feel like part of the group. I don't know what it is really. Like outside of the board many people have became friends and that just hasn't happened for me and am feeling kind of bummed about it. Like at this point I am not sure about Vegas after reading the last post about breaking off into hang out with just your "friends" and stuff. I mean that's great that relationships have developed but it is a little excluding. I guess I don't really understand what the surgiversery weekend is all about. Us getting to know each other and hang out or people who have become good friends doing there own thing. Maybe both and I shouldn't take it so personally. Who knows. I guess I am feeling left out and had to put it out there.

Hey Wendi. Im sorry that you are feeling left out. Just remember, nothing about Vegas has been set in stone yet (except the date). The thing Dawn was talking about was we have made plans to do something and we need a few hours to ourselves. The rest of the group may stick together. Girl.......you need to give me your number, Im good at talking someones ear off (just ask Dawn). I'll make you feel right at home! LOL hugs, kristi

Hey Wendi We are thinking alike. Maybe i'm taking it too personal too I THOUGHT the meaning of the vegas trip was for all of us to spend time together and celebrate our surgeries TOGETHER. If there is no schedule for us to follow, I'm sure we will not be spending much time together. Vegas is not right around the block so the thought of me coming that far to spend it alone, makes me re-think coming. I really would like to know if there is something planned that we will do together like a show, dinner, theatre or whatever!? I know the question of an "organized" weekend was asked and I don't know what the verdict was on that. So it sounds like we will meet, have breakfast together in our pretty wls tshirts and the rest of the days are up to you. I don't like that idea at all. Maybe its just me? "Friends", "Groups", and "clicks" going off and leaving us non click chicks to fend for ourselves turnes me off. I don't see the reason for the "Jan Surgiversary" if we spend it apart. It looks like my parnter better get prepared to take some time off work or we just plan to go to vegas another time. Hopefully some questions will be answered soon... I'm feeling a little bummed about it too. Kay

Hi Kay!!!! I know I'm planning to hit a show or two. I'm coming alone and have never been to Veags, but want to experience it all!!! OR maybe I'll have a honey by then, I dunno lol!!! But I would love to have a structured schedule with time to play or have "free time" ya know? Because ya, there are some of us who have made life long friendships on this board that are a bit more deep rooted than just the daily postings. I'm sure you are welcome to bring your partner, but don't make her come just so you won't be alone.... I'll be there!

Hey Jaci... Now i feel loved I also like the idea of a more organized weekend and then everyday throw some free time in there so people can go do what they want. I guess everyones take on this will be different. Like you said, it is early so we will see what's next. Thanks kay

Now Ms. Kay I am definately planning on some hang time with you. You interested in Blue Man Group? So far Carly and I are going. Would love to have you come as well

Wendy! I'm feeling your thoughts! In my honest opinion, the get together weekend should be a weekend where we all hang out, see a show or two and bond even more! Yes, we can "click out" during some period of time, but I too, am worried about the being left out feeling I get alot on big trips. I don't know if its me, the Fat Girl Syndrome or just plain jane sensitivity! Maybe we need to make the weekend a bit longer to accomodating Clicky activities and non lol Anywho, my dear, you are welcome to hang with me anytime! I sure with you were closer to ellensburg!! You'd love the rabbit show!

I'm sorry you feel this way Wendi!! It's still early though...we have 6 more mons before we go to Vegas. Those who haven't developed bonds will by then. I'm starting to see that some were turned off by my 2 cents in the other post about Vegas, but I've never been there before and the idea of the whole thing being organized like a field trip turns me off. We all have different interests and I would rather break away with a handful of people and do things we all have an interest in than stay as a large group and be bummed because I would rather check out something else. But like I said, it is still EARLY...you just started posting more and I think your fitting in well. The best way to strike an offline friendship is to email someone privately...maybe they posted something that caught your attention...start there and roll with it. Love ya, Dawn

Dawn~ For me it wasn't your 2 cents that turned me off. The entire thread just got me wondering if this was a planned visit or a more "go with the flow" weekend. I guess I'm a really strict, stick to the plan kinda girl. I know everyone is different and there is no POSSIBLE way we are going to want to do the exact same things. Maybe a little planning plus free time each day would work? Vegas is a long way from home, I just would like to know what I'll be doing. I hope I didn't sound like a cry baby. Kay

Wendy unfortunately I am unable to attend the trip to vegas...I am saving up to go to Hiawii with my husband in June for our 20th....Anyway I too don't always feel part of the group but I am hoping it gets better.Feel free to call me sometime (716 439-0497)or send me yopur number and I can call you. Have a good day.. ~~hugs and well wishes~~ Chris