Slow looser? Really? Why do you think that?

I just read the posts on the board slowing down and most of the responces are that they are slow loosers and only lurk because of it. How can it be that so many of us are slow loosers when most of us are loosing at that rate? What did we all expect to loose? 50 lbs a month? The expected is 10 to 15 a month, a little more if there is a great amount to loose. As we get closer to goal, we loose even slower. I am at 8 lbs a month these days. Yes I thought I was a slow looser, but now I realize I am average. The ones who loose more are not the normal, therefore, we aren't slow loosers. So those of us who thought we were in this made up categorie, lets change our mind set. Yes we can go for a time where we don't loose anything. But over all, we keep loosing. We still have at least 6 months, if not 1 year left of loosing. I think we could all use with a mind reset and start looking at the half full cup. This should be a very important step for all of us to take. I am almost 8 months out and am down 80lbs. Would I like for it to be more? Yes, I would like to have woken up from surgery and had been skinny, but that will never happen. Do I stall and not see the scale move? Yes, do I still torture myself when I am home by stepping on the scale every day? Yes. Am I smaller and healthier and happier now than I was 8 months ago? YES!!!! So lets make a change around here. If you haven't posted and only lurk because of this, then lets change it and make this board an active one again, ok?

Done! Well said and thanks!!

I have lost almost 100 pounds since January 19th. but I haven't lost an ounce in the last month. I have volleyed back and forth five pounds. At first I was so concerned and worried. But now I am looking at it as a stabilizing time for my body which has gone through so much in the last 7 months. And that my friend is a good thing. Hazel

you know.. In total i've lost about 90 lbs. but I havent lost anything in about a month. It upsets me soooo much. I havent been exercising which i know has slowed down the process. I plan on starting asap. This friend on mine lost about 120 lbs at 6 mths and being that im almost 8 mthz out.. and i've only lost 90 makes me worried about it all.. ughh!.. thanx for posting this. ;D

Kristi, I agree! Some people think the honeymoon will never end. It will people...it will....sorry. And I'm not talking about anyone in particular, so don't get your panties in a bunch. I think we SHOULD post our stalls and everything, because it's normal, and we can all see what we're doing do try and break them. People see the stalls as a failure....folks, chill out...it 's not!!!! Just like it seems like a lot of us are having some kind of food issue. All of a sudden, no one wants to post their issues, only thier successes. I understand some wish to keep it private, and I fully respect that. Also keep in mind that there's nothing to be ashamed about. Kristi, great thing you put out here! April April

GUILTY!! Yes I am..I tend to hang back mostly because I thought, my progress wasnt looking very good compared to everyone's here on this board. At my first month checkup, Id only lost 20 pounds...the SECOND checkup, only 10 pounds and I tell you that I was DEVASTATED when at my THIRD month checkup, Id lost only 4 pounds!..yes..34 pounds in 3 months..I was sure that this surgery on me was a failure! I was then told to see my surgeon at 4 1/2 months..and I "floated" out of his office that time(4- 1/2 months out) with a sudden and unexplained 34 pound loss! My FAMILY doctor told me that this was because my body is VERY resistant to change and this proved it! and yes, thinking here, blonde and all...if my metabolism was VERY SLOW before surgery, it will STILL be VERY SLOW because this surgery was not on my THYROID. So I am becoming used to just allowing my body to do its thing, go at its own pace and ACCEPT that as my body's own unique personality. Am I disappointed, okay, Id be lying if I said NO....do I want to loss faster? you bet! BUT I was once 432 pounds and 412 at my consult, 380 at my surgery and today I am hovering somewhere (since I only get weighed in the doc's office)...somewhere around 300 pounds and in weeks I am going to be in the 200's!! and how amazing is that!! YES, we need to be less emotional (I know, better said than done) about our progress and see it as it is..."custom-made" for our own uniquely-tuned body, different from all others..and stop comparing ourselves to others! Its time we applaud ourselves for our accomplishments...comparing each change to our own progress not to that of others! Nancy B

Hi Kristi, Thanks for taking the time to post this!! It was very well thought out! I hate the idea of people staying away from the boards or only lurking because they THINK their weight loss is slow. We are all in this together reguardless if you have 100 lbs. to loose or like me, over 200 lbs to loose. I don't stress the whole lbs. things because I know if I do the right thing and follow the rules, it will come off. I did a lot of research about this surgery pre op and I knew the weight loss slows down so now that it has, I'm not tripping about it. I just stay positive and be very thankful that I was even given this tool. I hope the board picks up again.. I miss everyone! Thanks again, kay

Kristi you are absolutly right! I also have been stalled the past 3 weeks and can't seem to budge but I'm still losing inches. I still have about 60 pounds to go and the loss has slowed significantly even with added excersise. But, I try to check in everyday. This board is one of my best support systems and it's good to see that others are dealing wiith the same issues.

Thanks for being so honest. All this change has been hard on me especially the last month. I seem to be able to eat anything I want and not get sick. I love carbs and hate protein. I notice that my weight loss has stopped in the last 3 weeks. I went to see the Nut. yesterday and we talked about what it would take to get me on track. She was very pleased that I came to see her and did not give up. In the past I would have given up by this point. I have about 70lbs to go and I realized that I can't control how fast or slow the weight loss is. What I can do is each day make healthy eating choices one meal at a time. I also need to make sure that I continue to exercise to make my body strong and able to accept all these changes. I need to each day work on changing how I think about my self and how I relate to the world. I have lost 110lbs so far and I am getting a lot of comments from people which is upsetting to me. I don't see the change in myself yet. I am working on living my life as a normal size person instead of a 334lb person. I am also starting to feel like a woman which is a little uncomfortable to me. I also denied myself the pleasures of being a woman. I hope to each day love and respect who I am and know that I am a child of God and loved. Thank you guys for being here and being willing to share what's going on in your recovery from obesity.

You're right Kristi.. I'm averaging a loss of 4lbs a month.. I've lost 83lbs since Jan. 20th...I think of myself as a slow loser too because it seemed most are losing 6lbs a week!! Well I've decided that I'll take the 4lbs a month over nothing.