I live with a Food Police

Every since surgery, my partner and friends have turned into the Food Police! Everytime I eat something or drink something they ask.. Can you have that? Is that enough protein, Did you eat breakfast, lunch and dinner? What did you eat today? Is that ok to drink? Did you have a protein shake today? OMG IT DRIVES ME NUTS! Has anyones friends or husbands joined the Food Police Force??? Does it drive you crazy?? Kay

Hi Kay, For the first 4 weeks my family was like this. They always asked if I drank enough water and took my protein shake. I was ready to scream, I understand they were just trying to help. Hang in there hopefully it'll improve. Carly

I am right with you! Although for me it's the people I work with. I am real close with the people in my group so they are like extended family but they go between teasing me about eating so little to . "I thought you couldn't eat that?" or freaking out when I open a diet coke. There is another girl who I work with who had the surgery with a different surgeon who is WAY more strict then mine and she acts like I am going to die because I am not doing things *her* doctors way. Luckily it hasn't spread to home yet or I might have to get on my boxing gloves. Of course now I have the excuse (over 6 weeks!) that I can say that I am allowed to eat anything as long as it is small and agrees with Polly the Pouch! Good luck! Beth

Kay, My partner is exactly the same way! Everytime I eat/drink something she has something to say about it. Now that I am back at work I am mostly only having my protein shakes while at the office so her new thing is telling me I am not haveing enough protein. It drives me crazy!!! Sarah~

Oh Kay, They love and care about you. Just smile and tell them thanks for caring, and then do what you want Regards and hugs, Ronna

Kay, I can totally relate to what you are saying. Fortunately, Karen has chilled out some on that, but my family calls me everyday to see how I am doing and to make sure I am behaving myself. I know I am blessed to have so many people care about me, and I thank God for it everyday, but sometimes it does get on my nerves. I like what Ronna says. Just say thanks for caring, and do what you want. LOL. Big Hug, Rosa

yes my mother.dave

I dont have food police but I have two people that monitor my every move and look for me to collapse or show sign of weakness. My neighbor was extremely helpful thru all this and is a great friend. BUT she constantly wants to do something for me and calls at least once a day if not twice. She's almost hurt when I say I have it under control. I know she cares deeply and I am very appreciative for all her support and help. And then my boss, if I slow down for one minute she's all over me that I am doing too much and what's wrong. I feel she even crossed a line - I'd told her I was coming off my BP meds. She thought I was snippy a few days later and told me I needed to have a chat with my dr about my meds and how I was feeling. It was totally inappropriate but this has happened for years, I show one sign of weakness and she zooms in. Every day she tells me I look pale yet everyone else speaks to how healthy I look (and I do look healthy). One day I'm going to tell her how pasty and washed out she (always) looks. She's getting bigger by the day so I know this will continue while I get towards my goal. I've decided I just wont play the game, will smile and not let her negativity get to me. I kinda got off topic but same theme.....

Kay, I'm the opposite. "I" am the food police in my house. My husband had RNY the same day I did and he often doesn't follow the rules. After he eats (too fast) he's usually uncomfortable (too much food) or he vomits. It's worse when he comes home from work not hungry because then I know he already ate and I drill him about what he ate. It's only because I love him so much. Bridget

I would say to all of you who have this problem to simply tell the people who are doing it to stop. Luckily my husband doesn't do this, but I'm also having a hard time eating much at all. We did visit my parents this weekend and they've both had WLS. I could only keep water down, and my dad said "Make sure you get all your nutrients." I told him in a pretty firm way that I am doing my best and I know what I have to do. He hasn't said anything else since then. Good luck stopping the Food Police, Amy