Has WLS Made You Self Absorbed?

Today I went to the bank to withdrawl money and the teller asked me for my ID. I showed her and she didn't believe it was me. I was laughing and she got a little aggervated with me because she was new and thought I was trying to pull one over on her. I was thrilled that I don't look like I'm 450 lbs anymore. I just told her I lost a little weight. She said, " You look like you have lost A LOT of weight and you really need to get a new ID". She called the bank manager over and luckily she knew me. She really made my day!! I guess its time for a new pic but I kinda enjoyed her reaction! Maybe after a few more reactions like that, I'll go change it. LOL I guess that was a WOW moment!! Kay

That's one of the best stories yet....congratulations!!!!

Thanks Tiffany!

Congrats on your upcoming wedding. It is such an admirable goal that you want to achieve before your special day. You have done a remarkable job with your weight loss in general. Perhaps you would benefit from hiring a personal trainer / nutritionist... just to tackle the last 40 pounds. I know they can be expensive, but maybe you can negotiate an endorsement, by using the "where I came from" approach. Best wishes for continued success and for a happy marriage. Karen G

I don't have any advice for getting the scales to move but I do have a question. If you are exercising more, eating right, and your clothes are fitting better, why on earth would you care what the numbers are on the scales? They are after all, only numbers. No one at the wedding is going to see those numbers, only you looking spiffy in your wedding finery. Also remember that if you are building muscle (which it sounds like exactly what you are doing), any fat loss will not show up on the scales because of the weight of the muscle gain. Hope that makes sense. Keep up the good work, you should probably be giving advice to the rest of us (who are not eating right and not exercising enough). Good luck Carole

Calvin, Congrats to you and the Mrs. to be. Have you been using a tape measure to check to see if you have lost any inches? Remember fat weighs less than the good old muscle. I know sometimes I do forget that when I go through my times when I really go out there and workout. Takes your measurements or go try on some new sizes at the store. I bet you find in places your have lost some inches and in others you have gained some. Also something that you may want to have on hand is a scale that will show you you weight and body fat. I bought mine at Walmart for about 40.00 and it is by Taylor. My hubby can always tell when I don't use the total scale as I get upset over some weight gain. I hope this helps you out some. Best Wishes to you and the Mrs. Jenn Avery Visalia, CA CVOSSG Support Group Leader

Congratulations ! As a post op patient, you should only be consuming 800-1000 calories per day. That is perhaps why your weight is stalling. Also, try upping your protein and water intake. You should be getting in 100-135g of protein per day and at least a half gallon of fluids. Good luck ! VAL Obesity Help Support Group Chapter Leader bariatric101.com

I must differ with your calorie intake recommendation for post weight loss. 800 to 1000 calories a day is for the active weight loss period in our program. Calvin is a 6 ft tall male and needs considerably more calories than that to be healthy.

And what a WOW moment!! I know you must be thrilled! You are looking great! Julie

It's beginning to dawn on me that I spend way too much time thinking about my body and myself. I used to weigh 355 pounds. I had WLS about two years ago and have lost 165 pounds. I wear a size 14 or 16. The charts tell me that I'm still obese. Recently I have gained about five pounds. All I think about is how I'll lose the extra weight and the subsequent 30-40 pounds I'd still liked to lose. The fact that I've gained five pounds rules my life. I'm more obsessed with food than I have been in a very long time. The amount of time I spend on Fitday could have been used to build a house or at least used to clean the one I have from top to bottom. When I step into my size 14 jeans it's just no longer good enough. I think I've become addicted to the compliments and the feelings of getting smaller and that has now stopped. I used to feel thrilled about my body, now all I see is floppy skin, cellulite and flaws. My self esteem is worse over the five pounds than it was over the 165 pounds. I'm cranky and unpleasant to be around. My friends and loved ones are suffering. I'm suffering. I no longer feel joy or the anticipation of a new day. I anger easily at things that would have never bothered me before. I would even say that I now have anger management issues. I realize that both therapy and medication are indicated but trust me when I say I've been therapized to death and I know more about anti depressants than most. There isn't one I haven't tried and I'm currently taking a lot of generic Wellbutrin (NOT time release). I dislike people who think only of themselves, thus I dislike me now. I've even become judgmental of others. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to be the kind of person whose self esteem is based on looks rather than what's inside. WLS made my body healthy but it's up to me to fix my spirit. Due to cir****tances beyond my control I won't be able to reply to your posts in a timely manner. I apologize and I appreciate any comments you may have. Muah :KISS: STOP BEING OFFENDED