LMAO!  I love to talk about sex. I started my therapy career as a "couples therapist", so naturally, sex was a biggie! (Pardon the pun).

To answer the questions:
 1) my sex drive hasn't changed.
2) I have always had a very strong one. At GH Orientation, when the speaker said our sex drives would increase, my poor DH about fainted.
My DH finds me sexier, actually I blogged about it...he said I'm easier to "man handle".
3) I never felt like I was "settling" in my sex life. At my heaviest weight, I still felt and was perceived as a sensual woman...Wanting more? See #2.  Wanting different? Well, I've always been creative...so not a problem.
4) sewer...hmm....lol.  Really "inches" aren't a biggie to me (omg...whatever!) What is, and has been, important to me is to have a partner who is playful, adventuresome, and willing to try new things/toy/etc.  Sex should be fun....and intimacy is often confused with sex....but when you have both... it's the best (imo)
5) I was taken aback last week at grocery store, when a simple conversation around chili turned into a man asking me over for breakfast.  I smiled, said thanks, but didn't think my DH would appreciate it. Thanked him again, and smiled all the way to the office.
6) This is what I'VE HEARD ABOUT MEN WITH RNY: men will find that as they lose weight, the appearance and "feel" of their penis (can I type penis here?) is larger/longer. The male pannis plays a part here. 

I think that as we as women, present ourselves as confident, knowing we are sexy and sensual creatures, it cannot help but ooze out into our everyday lives.  You may go through a few weirdo's to get to a decent one. Consider them "dry runs".

Oh, and nice that a guy shielded you from the rain. He was obviously trying to be chivalrous. Nice.

Congrats on the inches and poundage loss!!!

My go to food is  Sorrento Low-Fat (Fat-Free?) Mozzarella Cheese.   [It's the one w/ the 'running girl cheesestick' on the package.

It has 8G protein -- more than other cheeses, and comes in at 70-80 calories.




I just posted a hummus recipe 1g protein per 1 Tablespoon of hummus

wanna trade? j/k i know its nothing to joke about... sorry... i truly hope we can learn to see us as we really are.. because once we do this journey will be even more amazing.. at least u have those memories of being 145 an have something to look forward to.. my lowest i can rememeber being is 215 an i was in the 5th grade.. once i get down to that i will know i've truly accomplished something.. ive started doing affirmations while looking in the mirror...  was suggested to me by a shrink friend.. so we'll see if that helps... i'll let u know if it does... heres some of my favorites atm..

Negative thoughts will NEVER help; they will ALWAYS hurt me.

I will not listen to anyone who tells me what I can’t do.

I am proud of myself for all I have accomplished no matter how small or great.

I will seek out people who empower me. And during those times when they are not around, I will know that I can empower myself.

When I look back at my past I will look tenderly and gently at all I have been through. I will be proud of my accomplishments and how far I have come.

One step at a time. That is how I will get where I am going.

I am ready to heal my heart. I am deserving of this.

Today I take time to inhale peace and exhale fear.

Facing and feeling my fears will empower me to move on.

I can stop punishing myself with fear.

I will not allow the fear of "what if" to ruin the joy of "what is".

Once I have made my food plan for the day, I can put that issue to rest and think about love, work, play, hobbies, and other people. I can be more patient with my recovery today.

Whatever my weight today, I am a worthwhile person with valuable contributions to make to those around me.

I can choose to have a daily reprieve from self-destructive behavior.

I can live in peace at a time of stress.

I cannot climb uphill by thinking downhill thoughts.

I can move away from self-defeating habits.

I have choices. I can choose new responses to old situations. I can learn to recognize my true needs and choose positive ways of satisfying them. I can choose recovery-NOW!

I will aim to follow my meal plan and let life happen.

Understanding and respecting my limits, I can learn to say no to what might jeopardize my serenity and well being.

I need care and attention. I am responsible for seeing that this need is met.

I will give myself the care and attention I need.

I will reduce as much toxicity in my environment and in myself as I can.

I will embrace the changes taking place in me now. They are good.

I will trust, honor, and respect the process of change.

Negative thoughts will NEVER help; they will ALWAYS hurt me.

No one else can blame me and make me feel wrong unless I accept the accusations and choose to feel the guilt.

I am naturally beautiful when I am myself.

I will forgive in order to move forward.

No one can make me a victim unless I allow them to.

Anger hurts more than the person I feel rage toward. I will let go and move on. Life is too valuable to get stuck.

Walking away from something that is bad for me is not quitting!

I will persist until I succeed

I can go the extra mile today

I will dwell on the positive affirmations and things in my life, and they will become my aspiration.

Either I find a way, or I will make one.

It doesn’t matter what the disease is. There is always room for hope. I am not going to die one of the statistics.

The question I ask myself is not if I should heal but how I should heal.

I will not wait to have a good day. I will make one.

I move beyond my old limitations and allow myself to express freely and creatively.

Life is about change, and I adapt easily to the new

I forgive myself and others, release the past and move forward with love in my heart.

I love and approve of myself, am at peace with my own feelings and stand tall and free.

Today I will seek out things that are fun to do.

I am curious, eager to try new things.

I experience and express my emotions freely.

I am creative and innovative

I rest when my body tells me to.

I learn enthusiastically.

Though no one can go back and make a new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new end.

Never give up for that is just the time and place the tide will turn.

If I have inside of me the stuff to make cocoons, then maybe the stuff to make butterflies is there, too.

To be upset over what I don’t have is to waste what I do have.

Always been quite fond of the gutter. 

I've lost a lot of inches.  In the beginning thats all I lost. 

I've been an exercise fan since my teens.  With my hbp, I realize exercise may be what kept me alive long enough to realize I needed wls.   

I'm a grab & go girl too.

-Bagged baby spinach, fully cooked bacon, already hard boiled eggs, walden farns calorie free dressings for an instant spinach salad. 
-Frozen fish shrimp scallops.  Raw cause they cook quickly (minutes).
-Low carb tortillas or pita  (toufayan) with frozen fully cooked fajita strips, chicken & beef.
-Frozen meatballs, beef or turkey with low carb spaghetti (dream fields) and tomato paste.
-Trader Joe's has good sausages, heat and serve in a variety of flavors, most are chicken.
-Atkins daybreak bars for 10g protein sweet tooth fix with 4 or fewer carbs. 
-Frozen wings, walmart has several flavoes fullly cooked.