I just need to vent hope its ok!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello eveeryone I am so mad tonight its not funny!!!!! I just wonder if any other ladies have had to deal with this situation and how you handeled it. I am rescheduled for surgery on 22nd when it was originally set for the 1st so here I am. I finally met with my surgeon today and finished my tests. And my ex was suppose to keep the kids while I was in the hos[ital I told him 2 weeks ago. Ok I have not had a phone for a week , so he tells me tonight he is just now able to get me by phone. And he can't keep them that week so he was letting me know. I was like well i don't know what to tell you cus I need you to and I asked you when I got the new date you said you had to check the calender and get back to me. So I assumed it was ok. So now here I am after 13 yrs marriage my divorce will be final 1 year on the 27th and i am going in the hospital for 1 week and don't know what to do with my kids now . Age's 10 & 13 oh just great I am so angry at my ex its not funny. He is to busy babaysitting his girl friend when she goes out of town it's sick!!!!! Well all I can do is hope my parents can help me out but it's so hard being a single parent!!!!!!!!! I jusst wanna SCREAM at my ex who at one time I thought was so wonderful boy oh boy was I Blinded by his many flaws. Sad thing is the kids were looking forward to spending a week with their dad, and now I broke it to them I feel so bad. Well I am sorry I just needed to vent and get this bottled up anger out. Thanks for letting me!!!!!!!!!! Diane

Diane vent away..thats why we are here. I hope everything works out ok for you and your kids, I am lucky to have a great husband, but have worked with many women who have had ugly divorces....and so I have heard many stories of moms trying to be both mom and dad to there kids, its too bad at a time when you and they need him he isn't there for you. I will pray for you to have a speedy recovery and that everything works out well for all of you! Trish

I'm so sorry that he is not there for you. It has to be really hard, compounded by the fact that the children are old enough to see what goes on and be hurt by it. I hope that your parents are able to fill in, and I know they will if they possibly can. You will get through this, and probably feel better for not having been dependent on him! Good things lie ahead for you--go after it! Joy

HI Diane... You sound like a very strong lady and I have no doubt you'll get thru this. Being the evil minded person I am I just can't help but think of when you're on the losing side.. and you run into your ex... and his chin hits the floor as you keep on walking...... and you can even thank him .. FOR NOTHING... You'll know you did it all on your own.. Best of luck.. Hope you're feeling better... Sinseerlee, Kathy Offishal Marchers Cheerleader Captain Flatulence Monitor Angel to the Queen "It's time to throw down the pom poms and get into the game!"

I agree with everyone else's posts. Particularly the one, where you've hit ideal weight, have on this great dress, run into him and keep walking. (Just make sure that, when you run into him, you're not driving a car at the time if you know what I mean.) If your parents can't help, see if the the parents of your kids' best friends can. Some people can be not so nice about doing a big favor (in which case, you've got their number, move on), while others can surprise you. I've had both experiences during a period of single parenting. I'm just sure as you join that ranks of the losers, that many new things and support systems will enter your life and that it is all up hill from here. If it's not ideal for your kids as you go through this, as long as they are safe, just remember how much it will benefit their lives in the long run to have you really healthy.