OMG I don't know what to do!!!!

I just got off the phone with my mother in Tennessee, My grandmother who has lived with my family since I was a little girl just had a massive stroke, and the Dr's don't think that she will last very long. I am the only family member that is not in Tennessee and my first instinct it to jump on a plane and go home. The problem is that when she passes the funeral will be in Michigan as that is where grandma grew up. I just took two weeks off of work for this surgery and Money wise we are ok but a little tight. I also have just gone back to work so this will frustrate my boss all to hell. I don't know what to do!!! Should I just go home wait for her to pass away and then go with my family to Michigan for the funeral or just wait for her to pass away and only go to the funeral. This will also be my only trip home this year as we have to split our time between my husbands family and mine. I am so confused!! I am also terrified of traveling as I am only two weeks out and on pureed food, not that I even feel like eating now. What to do! What to do!

The Power of Prayer is a wonderful thing! My best friend was in the same boat as you last summer with her grandma. SHe got in her car drove across the country and was there 3 weeks. Her grandma made a recovery. But sadley this winter her grandma passed. The waiting game is aweful to have to go throu. I wish you all the luck. If you can't be there in body, be there in mind and heart. ANd whatever you decide, your grandma would undertand, and there is no right or wrong answer here. You have to do what you are comfortable doing. God be with you and your family right now, and watch over you all!!!!

If she is not aware of who is around, then your decision should be based upon what you need to do for yourself and your parents. She knows you love her--that comes from a lifetime of relationship, not what happens this week. Talk honestly with your parents and with your husband. Make your decision and explain it to your boss. People at work will understand. Once you decide, don't look back. If you do the best you can, guilt is just a waste of energy. I am so sorry. It sounds like what happened was sudden and at least she is not in pain. My mother is in the last stages of heart failure. My whole family is going through a similar struggle. It is not ever easy to let go. My prayers are with you... Joy

I AM SO SORRY ...I WILL KEEP YOU AND YOUR GRANDMA IN MY PRAYERS

Thanks everyone for your support. My DH and I have decided to drive, it is a 2-day trip from Denver to Nashville. My grandma's heart is failing her now and we think she will pass on tonight. Driving is less expensive than flying and I can carry my food with me in a cooler, and I can sleep when I get too tired. I will be out of touch with the board for the next few days while in transit. Thank you all for your prayers. Leslie