::tap tap tap:: Ahem. May I say something?
I see a couple of snippy posts here this morning. I don't blame anyone though - I have my own snippy moments. But I just wanted to see if I can help put something in perspective.....
When we all came to this board our journeys were really just starting and we were in a fevered pitch for information and support and commiseration on this scarey thing we were about to do. We needed some levity to break up the fear, and we had quite the group of Yuk Yuks going on here.
One by one we started filing into hospitals everywhere and one by one, we started losing steam. It was almost impossible to keep up with the well wishes - too much to try and track. I spent hours a day trying to keep up and it was wearing me down. After my surgery (and I suspect everyone felt this way to a degree) I was exhausted and didn't think I could keep up. I would read but didn't want to post. Took too much energy and brain power.
Now that our surgeries are over, we've spent tremendous energy praying for those who were having setbacks and we've gotten somewhat serious. We realize our own mortality when we see others die or come close, and it's sobering. I don't know about you guys, but I have lots of messabe boards, and until now I have not been exposed to so much death before.
So we've gotten a little serious. We are also lamenting our stalls and learning how to deal with this new plumbing job done on us. A lot of neuroses going on over here. And with good reason!
So no - we aren't having a lot of fun and games right now. It's sad for me to not see it or spark it, but I don't have the energy to think of the goofy stuff all the time. I suspect it is the same for others. But I think we can get back to this point if we try. It depends on if the fun n games folks hang around or not. I don't have a lot of energy to put it out there, but I like to play along. 
I have to admit I've got about 5 boards alone on OH that I go to. I have visited the main board as well, but it's too busy for me. But what I do see and like is that there are some crazy nonsense posts. It's fun to read some of them - it's like it used to be here. I miss it, but it's not in me to start it. I don't know if it ever was. I am really good at starting but not finishing things!
I don't think we have to be exclusively support. I think there is room for fun and games. I think we can be supportive WHILE being silly. And I don't think that because people are focusing on serious issues that they are no fun and a wet blanket.
I honestly don't see where anyone has tried to come in and run the show. I've heard this from a couple of people but maybe I don't read enough to see it. Maybe I am too removed. But I don't feel that way. The one thing I loved when Kimmer came in here cheerleading us is that she made a point to answer every post and wanted everyone to feel included. I loved that and hope it continues. But in order for us to do this, we need to remember that new folks coming in doesn't necessarily mean it's a threat to our environment.
We are bound to have some of us encounter personality clashes. It's just the way it goes. Hopefully we can get past it all and settle into who we are. First and foremost, we are the Marchers...an all inclusive come as you are and put your feet up on the coffee table group.
Dina
I have to admit I've got about 5 boards alone on OH that I go to. I have visited the main board as well, but it's too busy for me. But what I do see and like is that there are some crazy nonsense posts. It's fun to read some of them - it's like it used to be here. I miss it, but it's not in me to start it. I don't know if it ever was. I am really good at starting but not finishing things!
I don't think we have to be exclusively support. I think there is room for fun and games. I think we can be supportive WHILE being silly. And I don't think that because people are focusing on serious issues that they are no fun and a wet blanket.
I honestly don't see where anyone has tried to come in and run the show. I've heard this from a couple of people but maybe I don't read enough to see it. Maybe I am too removed. But I don't feel that way. The one thing I loved when Kimmer came in here cheerleading us is that she made a point to answer every post and wanted everyone to feel included. I loved that and hope it continues. But in order for us to do this, we need to remember that new folks coming in doesn't necessarily mean it's a threat to our environment.
We are bound to have some of us encounter personality clashes. It's just the way it goes. Hopefully we can get past it all and settle into who we are. First and foremost, we are the Marchers...an all inclusive come as you are and put your feet up on the coffee table group.
Dina 
I am glad you said it so right Joy and Dina, I am glad Rob cant read what is going on right now, I would be ashamed for everyone for him to have to come home to this kind of nonsense. We have far more important things to worry about than this......him for example!!! Lets all respect each other for who they are and not be so selfish about who we are or arent!!!!! We dont need to compete with each other, we are all in this same boat together!!!! Janelle
Kathy C.
on 4/15/04 7:38 am - Someplace, MI
on 4/15/04 7:38 am - Someplace, MI
Rob is usually the one being FUNNY and GOOFY.. Didn't I see a few posts ago about him sticking his tongue out at his g/f???
I simply pointed out something that everyone can see for themselves... this place isn't fun anymore.
We supported each other thru all kinds of stuff when everyone was pre-op and now it seems you have to be totally serious about everything or get "chastised"
Yes surgery is scary and people do die.. but you made it this far.. no one said SMILING and LAUGHING would jeopardize your success...
In fact it's a common statement from a lot of Marchers...
Laughter is the best medicine.....
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