sooo terribly depressed

I dont mean to just get on here and whine - I just need some positive feedback and support right now. I feel so out of control of EVERYTHING in my life right now I just want to curl up in a ball and sleep. I have had to get my car towed to the shop now 4 times this month - over 1200 dollars in car repairs already, and I am without a car yet again. The scales havent moved in almost 4 weeks. I am so depressed I dont even want to eat or drink anything but I know thats the WORST thing I can do (other then going the opposite way). My husband got fired from his job yesterday because he was on probation from calling in sick so often because of the stupid car breaking down on the way to work - and the car broke down on his way to work again and so he got fired. He had been unemployed for 13 months before he found this job - with a 9 dollar an hour paycut for the job he got - and now he lost it because of the D*** car. I have been sitting at a 97 lb loss for 3 1/2 weeks with that century club just out of reach. I wish I could take a collection from everyone in town... if everyone in town that has ever driven a lemon or a car that broke down gave me just 2 bucks I could buy a lexus for cash LOL OK I am through whining. Thanks for letting me vent. I know none if this is really relevant to anyone else but I had to get it off my chest. When I said I wanted to get a break, I didnt mean my car, dang it! -Sherrie

Sherrie, Vent away girl, vent away. You sound as though you at a rough spot in your life. Things always eventually get better, and we will have learned a lesson for going through the rough spots in our lives. Your weight loss is fantastic, I am only down 68lb but I will take them. You will get past the centry mark just give your body a little time to adjust. I went through that trying to get under the 200 mark. When it finally does happen you will find it was worth the wait. Keep you chin up, and remember your second family will always be here for you. Love ya, Leslie

Some suggestions: -Try looking at goverment, state, and private auctions for a suitable car. Sometimes you can get them for a song. -Maybe try applying for a loan/temporary assistance through your church if you have one? -Get familiar with the public transportation system in your area. I used to live in Austin and I know they had a great system, but I'm not familiar with where Arlington is. I know it'll suck, but it's only fair that your job(s) know they can rely on you to show up - even though it's not your fault that your car is lousy. -Borrow an extra (second) car from a friend or relative for at least a week or so until yours is fixed? Even if the relative lives out of state and can help you out on this it would be great. -Try to stay as calm as you can. Panicking and worrying won't change what's happened. Contact your state employment agency immediately. They will quickly assess you and your husband and may send you out with two or three job leads the same day. You can also try applying for assistance. At your present weight you would still qualify for disability - even though (next item) -Recognize how far you've come! Ninety-seven pounds lost forever is AMAZING! Think how much WORSE you'd feel if you weighed 100 pounds more, had no insurance, couldn't afford the surgery, and all of this car crap happened to you! -You can almost always qualify for emergency food stamps when you're in a bind. Make sure you ask for "emergency" food stamps and they'll get them to you almost immediately. -Don't wait. Have you and/or your husband try to get something - anything - in the way of a job right away. Even McDonald's and Taco Bell pay around $10 an hour in some areas and have good benefits. Keep your mornings or afternoons free so that you can interview for better jobs (in your field) while you're working and pulling in a paycheck. -Don't get yourself deeper in debt by borrowing money from disreputable institutions like those "Payday" places. The interest (at over 500%) will kill you! Don't borrow cash against your credit cards either. You'll find yourself tens of thousands of dollars in debt before you know it. Maybe use your weight (and any remaining co-morbidities) as the primary reason you need to receive disability, but even if you don't go the disability route, do consider getting financial assistance from the state as soon as possible. There is no shame in getting a hand up (not a hand out) every once in a while. We all get knocked down by life now and then. -We're all rooting for you. I'm very sorry for your troubles.

AWWW Sherrie, Ya know what they say when life hands you lemons....make lemonade. We have all had to do that a few times in our lives and I'm sure there are more of these times ahead. I too have not seen the scales more this whole month. I keep telling myself just keep doing things right. My body is losing inches in places cause my clothes are fitting differently. We have to keep each other motivated. Step by step....day by day....sometimes just 10 minutes at a time. That scale will move as long as we follow the rules and be good to ourselves. I hope things pick up for you soon and you have some pluses come your way. Til then be thankful for the blessings you have. Shelly

Hey sherrie keep that head up and know you aren't alone. This month has been rather trying for me. Luckily nothing weight related. My mom had taken me down to a local thrift store to find some clothes and a down pour came and the next thing we knew a guy from the city public works came in and goes "if you are parked on the side your car is underwater" well guess where we were parked. Got it towed home still haven't got it running and may never. Then my baby sis loaned us her car well last week we took my nephew to the dentist. Got back in the car wouldn't start. Got it home figured out it was the starter so I changed it and now we have a car running thank goodness. Then I plan on going to school in the fall and my financial office keeps screwing up and losing paperwork and mistyping data in the computer. The most depressing news though is I got a call from my CNM telling me that my pap was abnormal and that the particular abnormal cells will require a Dr (not her) to look at my cervix with a microscope and they will also do a biopsy. However, I have strong faith that no matter what the outcome of any of the above its something I can handle. God wouldn't give me more than that. I also look at how far Ive come. My highest weight was 395 and I have gotten down to 295. Im walking Im feeling better. So it has to work out no matter how bad it gets its gotta get better. Just know that during these troublesome times you have a lot of ppl with you and your family in their thoughts and prayers. *huggles*

Sherrie, I am so sorry you are going through this. I know whats its like to have a husband out of a job for a long time. Its really hard. I too have been at a stand still for a few weeks now. Its very frustrating but stress can also have alot to do with that. It can also put a halt to weight loss and just make you feel generally crappy all together. Hang in there (((hugs))) If God brings you to it He will bring you through it! I'll keep you in my prayers and hope things work out for you quickly. Everyone gave great advise, hopefully it will work for you. Best Wishes. Elizabeth M

Thank you so much everyone for your responses - I know I will get through it - and I appreciate yall so much! -Sherrie