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Hi Everyone, Just wanted to pop in to say hello. I haven't been on in a while really. Been sorta miserable. Happy that spring is here not happy I am not loosing weight. I swear I feel like I never had surgery. (In a sense that I can eat anything and have no restrictions 'sigh') Soooo... I've kinda been avoiding obhelp. just because I didnt want to face my feelings of failing right now. I mean failing at loosing MORE weight. I am still sooo far away from goal its sickening. Very dissapointing. I am just struggling like crazy to loose anything and it sucks. I am actually thinking of going back to freakin weigh****chers. BUT despite all that I'm still determined to get it off. I will never give up because I went through a life threatening surgery so I dont want that to be all in vain by giving up. I wish I could come on here and be happy and joyful and express my happiness of loosing more weight but I can't. Hopefully soon though. THe warm weather is comming and we had a dose of it yesterday which gave me some extra incentive! I guess its just pampering time to kick start things once again. Welp enough of my grumbling. HOpe everyone is in great health and feeling great! ((hugs to all)) Elizabeth M

Elizabeth, Dont give up!!!!! I stopped losing for a long time, I would say almost 3 1/2 months without one lb and since January I have lost 20 more lbs. I have to say I have faithfully been having a protein drink every morning and my water, I still too am struggling with my food choices but I joined the gym, I go 3 classes a week and girl it is coming off again!!! I was so afraid when I hit my one year anv. and now its like when I was at my 5 month, yes it is still slow but it is coming off. Try changing your workout rout. dont work out to much, I know that sounds crazy but your body needs time to keep losing and building muscle was holding me back from losing. Well I'm just letting you know what is helping me. And believe me I am struggling with food big time. Day by day. Good Luck Rhen

Elizabeth, I'm so happy to hear from you again! WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!!! No amount of "grumbling" will stop us from cheering you on and no matter what, you are accepted and appreciated for who you are, not for how much weight you have lost! And the Elizabeth I know is a funny, cheerful, supportive, kicky kind of girl who will not give up, no matter what. Talk things through with us, ok? Maybe we can help by analyzing your WLS behavior. Mantra number 356 (my starting weight! ) - you can't fix what you don't know is broken. Give us an idea of your eating on any given day and be frank, no one is going to judge you here! Tell us about your exercise routine, even if none exists right now. What are you doing that should be translating to weight loss but for some reason is not? What are you doing that you know is probably sabatoging your weight loss. Just let it rip, sweetie. Get it all out of your head (when you isolate and insulate themselves from the world, that's where you're living, in your head -- not good...) talk to us, don't be sad, and don't be stuck at least psychologically stuck. If you get unstuck in that regard, your chances are greatly improved to get unstuck physically. Stay close to us, 'lizbet. Hugs, Reenie

Aw thanks guys! Its been hard lately. I dont want to go into everything that I ate because I know I made poor choices. I am not one to say "oh but I can't understand why I'm not loosing weight" I do know why. I have been eating stupid crap. My will power is imensley reduced from what it was before. Honestly its just like before surgery. Just a very slight hinderance in eating waaay too much at dinner. Its so scary when we eat and are not "satisfied" and then in like 30 minutes you want to eat again. THAT is whats considered eating around the surgery in my book. SO knowing that I dont go too overboard. I am not GAINING so that is always a plus. I guess I am just dissapointed in myself for not being under 200 pounds by now. I am now at 219 I always go up and down like 2 pounds with water weight and all. Just the other day I was 217. I flutter between the two. Its just barely comming off. BUT at least its still going down. I just need to really get into the groove. I am stupid for staying away...Can't push myself under the bed. Gotta keep those issues out in the open. Need to talk it out you are totally right Maureen. Well I havent been working out like I SHOULD I do work out but just not as vigorous. I am going to start being more consistent. I also notice if I overdue it I wont loose. Sounds crazy but my body just freaks out I guess. Maybe I burn too many calories and my body doesnt know whether its starving or what its doing. I notice if I do just the normal cardio I do pretty well. I also notice that when I house clean it helps too so I need to get myself a garden or something that I can work in the summer and get in as much extra exercise that I can. Along with walking with my son in my neighborhood. I think once the sun comes out and stays out it will be better. I also think that this bout of warm weather has depressed me because I was hoping I would be ALOT thinner than I am. I am still "fat" I still have like 74 freakin pounds to go! before i am at the highest of my weight chart for my height. 'sigh' OK no more hiding and grumps I just have to do it. Nike always had the best slogan! Thanks so much for the support guys!!! (((HUGS))) Its time to go TAN! Elizabeth M

Elizabeth, We are all going through the "Honeymoon period" BEING OVER> that is why we are having so much more trouble as well as ease at eating than we use to. The girls & guys that are more than 1 year out all say they went through this ame. thing/ DO NOT GIVE UP> You have come too far to do that. Stick to what you have been doing and it will start to come off again.. I just recently change jobs and now work swing shift instead of day shift & my body is adjusting to that & fighting weight loss now too> But, I am not giving up, I feel so much better than I did a year ago, I will continue this endeavor for a life time. YOU CAN DO THIS> We are hear for you anytime you need us. Thats what support is about. We need each other so Hug yourself & tell yourself you have done a good job at this & take one day at a time or even a hour at a time & you will start to lose again. Keep smiling Marilyn, the Bearlady

Elizabeth, I was wondering where you were. Thinking about avoiding us? Nonsense Poopypants! My ex used to say that all the time. You know we're here for you. Let's have a reality check: We all need support. Staying away from some sort of support group and isolating yourself will certainly not help you succeed. There are times when I haven't been on in days, but I still mentally post because even when I'm not here, I still need to feel accountable to someone. That's just what works for me. Who better than us to share in your experiences and empathize with what you're going through? I know it's cliche, but you really have to celebrate how much you've lost and how far you've come. I'm so proud of how well you've done. I remember your first pics on here. You looked miserable. Even if you don't lose another ounce - you're a success story. You're so much healthier and active than you were a year ago. I'm glad you're back. Love, Connie

Thanks Marlyn and Connie I promise I wont give up!!! I definitely need to take it hour by hour right now. whew its hard! I was being a poopypants I don't know what I was thinking staying away I guess I just didnt want to think about not loosing. Its true I am so thankful of all the weight I have lost. I still get compliments. In fact someone said to me just 1 hour ago "so what are you wasting away to nothing now?" (she smiled) she was being sweet about it. I said "I wish!" 74 pounds overweight is far from wasting away. BUT it probably looks that way since I was 334 and only 5'4!!! Its nice to hear and forces me to step back and remember. So here I am eating lunch. I had a teeny tiny roll and feel soo guilty. It was multigrain and about the size of... an egg. It was a mini mini roll but I feel so guilty. Those are the stupid feelings I had before surgery. AH the head trauma! I also had broccoli, green peppers some tofu, spinach, a sprinkle of shredded cheese, 1/2 an egg and about 5 little strips of turkey with about 1 teaspoon of dressing. I feel soooo guilty!!! Its a very very healthy little salad. I guess I feel bad because I didnt exercise at lunch. I went shopping. LOL got a couple of cute tops. that made me feel a little better. tee hee. I will have to walk when I get home. I think that will make me feel better. The guilt of no exercise gets me all wacky Thanks so much for being here for me you guys... it means the world to me!!! ((hugs))

'lizbet, my head still tries to talk me out of moving my hynie, every day...that voice says, "Ah, don't do it; you're too tired, you don't need to, you can do it tomorrow..." and I do it anyway. I don't even try to shut the voice up anymore - I just keep moving. One foot in front of the other, one step at a time. Just keep moving. The remarkable thing is I feel incredible after a workout. In fact I just finished a few minutes ago and I marvel at how much I LOVE the feeling of strength. Strength feels so much better than food tastes. For me anyway, the trick is SHIFT THE ENERGY ONTO MOVEMENT AND AWAY FROM FOOD. Please try to stop beating yourself up. Morbidly obese people have a lifelong history of doing the all-or-nothing syndrome: I'm either 100% perfect with my program, or I'm 100% lousy with it. I have come to the conclusion that on some psychological level, I do this because it sets me up for failure: and failure means I get to go gorge on anything I want for as long as I want. All-or-nothing thinking gives me permission to hurt myself with food. So no more -- for me, anyway. Now, I really, truly just concentrate on the sheer joy of moving my body through space. We're all here for you, just as I know you are all here for me. I've missed you. Love, Reenie

Thanks Maureen, I didnt get a chance to hit the gym yesterday at lunch because I went out...but when I got home I cleaned the yard and planted 2 rows of gladiolas. I decided to bend down and pick up leaves by hand. It was a nice workout. I cleaned and washed and picked and planted. LOL. It does feel great after a work out. You are right that is a wonderful feeling. I do need to keep moving. I dont know what I did last night but I ended up spraining my wrist. It hurts so much today. so no strength training today. but I will do the cardio Its always going to be a struggle in my mind most likely. I like to think that one day whenever I hit goal that I will be so active and doing so many things that I wont have time to think about the crazy stuff i think about now. Welp today is another day! Thanks so much for all the advice. I missed you too! ((hugs)) Elizabeth M

Hi Elizabeth; I'm glad that you're back. Staying away doesn't solve the problem, it just means that you face it alone instead of with people who care. I'm going through the same thing as you in that I can't seem to get below 200lbs.. I also have grazing issues and I haven't lost the "Carb Craziness"! On the other hand, I look and feel so much better than I did last year. I have lost the equivlant of a normal adult female (144) lbs. How can I not feel better??!! I checked your profile and you have done a very similar job. Think about how you felt last year. It really puts things in perspective. We may be a little frustrated now, but last year I felt hopeless..... how about you. Cheer up and keep fighting..... the road ahead may seem long, but the road you've traveled already is much longer. We are here to cheer you on, so stay with us.... OK??!! Mike